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4monkeys
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Re: are you a happy mom? what are your tricks?
ITs nice to hear that other moms are happy about working. I work part time (for now) and I love the days that I go to work, I miss my boys a few hours later (not minutes  ) and when I see them, I eat them all up.
IT makes the me time, the adult time, my personal accomplishments, everything I go to work for, more worthwhile, and it also makes the mommy time, the precious wet kisses from my boys, the attacks as soon as I walk in the door, the giggles on the floor and everything else all the sweeter...
ITs hard for me to hear "wow youre lucky that you can afford to stay home full time if you wanted to, nowadays on one salary..."
Makes me feel guilty for wanting to work, for loving what I do (right now subst teacher), and for NOT being the SAHM that I "should" be... 
I think it makes both mommy and kiddies more well rounded and happier in the end...
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Re: are you a happy mom? what are your tricks?
i don't think there's any "trick" at all to being a happy mom....i think it just comes down to balancing everyday life....home, work, family etc....
but when i think about myself in the term "happy mom"...i automatically think of my girls and the smiles on their faces....and i'm happy.
 
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nrthshgrl
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Re: are you a happy mom? what are your tricks?
No I'll have to check it out...Thanks!
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| Posted 5/2/06 10:44 PM |
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Jillysmom
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Re: are you a happy mom? what are your tricks?
I think I am a happy mom 99.9% of the time. I love being home with Jillian . I always wanted to be a SAHM. I hated waking up a 4:30AM to drag my self into the city to work at a job that I hated.( actually it was the woman I worked for. ) and then get on a train fight for a seat and then get home at 7:30. I never saw the inside of my house.
and even though i do not "work" i work around the house and my Dh get a full course cooked meal every night . and he takes care of Jillian at night he is the bath and PJ dad and he gets to play with her when he gets home.
my parents and my inlaws each come up one day a week so it is a nice change. I have a much better relationship with both sets of parents becasue I see them so much
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HillandRon
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Re: are you a happy mom? what are your tricks?
I am very happy being a SAHM. It was very important to me that I would be home with Jacob for the first couple of years. What I didn't expect was that my husband would be working from home. so we are both home with him. This has been an extra bonus and I know I am very lucky to have this situation. Because of this, I am able to go out and have alone time- whether it is to go food shopping or to get my nails done...
It is very interesting most of my friends who are married all had profeesional jobs whether it be a teacher, an attorney, had their MBA and we were very into our careers. Most of us got married when we were were older around 30 and we worked very hard to get where we were in the workforce. Now that we have babies not one of us works. It is very intersting to me that this happened and we are all happy at home.
I find it very rewarding being home for every milestone Jacob does. I also make sure we are out doing something everyday.
Sure, I wish that I was helping bringing in some money but right now Jacob is my priority and we don't deprive him of what we think he needs.
I did tell my husband that if I need to back to work I will. Hopefully that won't happen too soon..
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| Posted 5/3/06 8:47 AM |
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MelToddJulia
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Re: are you a happy mom? what are your tricks?
Posted by Stefanie
I think I would be happier if I was working...but then I would be miserable because I wouldn't have the same amount of time I have now with Jared. I am thankful I am a SAHM...
Me too!!!
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| Posted 5/3/06 9:12 AM |
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michele31
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Re: are you a happy mom? what are your tricks?
There are days I am really happy and days that I find this a challenge and feel very overwhelmed. I thinking working is a double edge sword..as I like what I do (most days) and I like contributiing and having certain resources financially, I do want to be with Molly more. Overall I am happy with my life, but there are days I really need to just get away for the day and can't. I think that probably goes for working moms and SAHM.
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| Posted 5/3/06 9:54 AM |
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betty
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Re: are you a happy mom? what are your tricks?
Posted by JennyGirl
I'm a happy Mom. I always wanted to be a SAHM and I'm getting my wish. I feel lucky. It just feels right for me. I'm not saying that every minute is peaches and creme- but most of them are.
That's how I feel but I do admit there are many times that I feel kind of guilty for not contributing .
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nrthshgrl
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Re: are you a happy mom? what are your tricks?
Posted by betty
Posted by JennyGirl
I'm a happy Mom. I always wanted to be a SAHM and I'm getting my wish. I feel lucky. It just feels right for me. I'm not saying that every minute is peaches and creme- but most of them are.
That's how I feel but I do admit there are many times that I feel kind of guilty for not contributing .
I know you mean financially, but IMO you coudn't find a better way to contribute than to be there for your child.
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| Posted 5/3/06 11:13 AM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: are you a happy mom? what are your tricks?
Posted by mommy2bellabean
Honestly, I am a happier mom because I work. Is there guilt, absolutely...last night my train was held up and I barely got an hour with Bella before she went to sleep, and I cried.
But I love my career, her daycare is awesome, and my DH is totally 50-50 with me in taking care of her...I am a better mommy for her because I would be miserable at home 24-7 not earning a paycheck to get her everything she wants and needs without a thought...that is what works for me.
ETA: So yes, I am happy...because her smile lights up the whole world and makes every little struggle worth it.
I completely agree!
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mommy2bella
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Re: are you a happy mom? what are your tricks?
Posted by anna
ITs hard for me to hear "wow youre lucky that you can afford to stay home full time if you wanted to, nowadays on one salary..."
Makes me feel guilty for wanting to work, for loving what I do (right now subst teacher), and for NOT being the SAHM that I "should" be...
Honestly, I knew when I got married to my DH that I wanted to be a Working Mom no matter what our situation...some people told me that I would change my mind once I had a child, but I honestly have never wavered. I love being independent for a bunch of hours a day and coming home to be at Bella's beck and call
I never felt guilty about not staying home, not even for a second. I miss her like crazy sometime....but I feel we will all be a happier, better balanced family because of it...
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4monkeys
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Re: are you a happy mom? what are your tricks?
Posted by mommy2bellabean
Posted by anna
ITs hard for me to hear "wow youre lucky that you can afford to stay home full time if you wanted to, nowadays on one salary..."
Makes me feel guilty for wanting to work, for loving what I do (right now subst teacher), and for NOT being the SAHM that I "should" be...
Honestly, I knew when I got married to my DH that I wanted to be a Working Mom no matter what our situation...some people told me that I would change my mind once I had a child, but I honestly have never wavered. I love being independent for a bunch of hours a day and coming home to be at Bella's beck and call
I never felt guilty about not staying home, not even for a second. I miss her like crazy sometime....but I feel we will all be a happier, better balanced family because of it...
So well said !
I think even if I have ten kids , I HAVE to have my own things, accomplish my own goals and be my own person. I LOOVE being their mommy, my hubby's wife and part of my wonderful family, but there's too much out there in life for someone to not take advantage of doing whatever it is that will make them a happier more well rounded person 
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4monkeys
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Re: are you a happy mom? what are your tricks?
Posted by michele31
There are days I am really happy and days that I find this a challenge and feel very overwhelmed. I thinking working is a double edge sword..as I like what I do (most days) and I like contributiing and having certain resources financially, I do want to be with Molly more. Overall I am happy with my life, but there are days I really need to just get away for the day and can't. I think that probably goes for working moms and SAHM.
I agree that both working moms and SAHM probably wish they had it different at times, or think the grass is greener (Not to say either is better or worse!). Right now just working p/t, I cant decide which is easier/better. When I work too much, I cant wait to be home, when Im home too much, I look forward to a day out. It's finding a good balance that works for your family and for you. 
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lmb03
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Re: are you a happy mom? what are your tricks?
Posted by nrthshgrl
Working Mother Tricks...hmm..we have to change it up because I can't have them get used to one thing if we dont' have time for it.
1 - Never put the TV on in the morning. Yes, you wind up not dressing exactly right for the weather or not realizing why the train hasn't come because of a derailment, but my kids wont get wrapped up in watching a show.
2 - They don't get to play with toys in the morning. I need to make mornings as much fun as possible or the drop off is harder for them. Games I play to get them dressed & out of the house:
-who can get dressed the fastest (reward are whatever number of kisses the fastest dresser designates - the dresser has to count off for practice).
- I'll put shoes on first then socks.
- To put shoes on, the shoe monster "eats" their foot. I made this up because sometimes I'm twisting their shoe on their foot.
- Joseph puts his own shoes on in the morning. I put arrows inside the shoes that point toward each other when lined up correctly so he can distinguish which shoe is which.
- who can find Mommy's jacket
- they don't know what they get to eat for the day (at daycare) until they get in the car.I read them the menu after everyone is buckled.
- each day one gets to pick the song we listen to on the way to daycare.
3 - They get to pick one quick breakfast in the morning - but to have it they have to be fully dressed with shoes on. If they're not, they only get the one breakfast at daycare.
4 - They have to be in bed by 7:30-8pm in order to get up between 6am-6:30am.
5 - Laying clothes out the night before saves a lot of stress of finding a missing shoe in the am.
6 - Each child has a job when we get to school. Joseph has the code to the door ( I picked the last 4 digits of our phone number to help him remember it). Maddie (who can't reach the code box) is in charge of the door.
7 - Jackets come off as we enter the door to daycare. I drop them off in one classroom - and then drop their jackets off, collect artwork, etc so they aren't tempted to play in the classrooms.
8 - When giving a kiss goodbye, they each get an extra kiss on their palm. Then they put their hand to their cheek to "make sure it's working" & they can feel my kisses if they miss me. They both kiss one of my palms in case I miss them during the day, I can feel their kisses.
9 - They wave to me out the window as I drive away.
10 - I call during the day to check on them, so at night we can talk about school.
That's off the top of my head. I'll post more if I can think of them.
Those are aesome tips!
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. Too sweet!!
