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She Has Arrived (TBAF)

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2kids2cats
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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)

Posted by calendargrl

Michelle if you leave i leave, there is no point being on the boards when you answer all of our questions. I especially look at your responses to other girls because I value your insight. Don't let one person's comments make you leave.



Hey the rest of us gals have SOME knowledge! Chat Icon Much of it DUE to Michelle, but still...Chat Icon

ETA: I don't want her to stay on just for the technical questions - but because she is one of the kindest caring people on here!

Message edited 12/15/2005 3:37:39 PM.

Posted 12/15/05 3:31 PM
 
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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)

I know....all the girls have been very supportive and are knowledgable. When it comes down to the technical questions Michelle does an amazing job answering them.

Posted by Kitkat

Posted by calendargrl

Michelle if you leave i leave, there is no point being on the boards when you answer all of our questions. I especially look at your responses to other girls because I value your insight. Don't let one person's comments make you leave.



Hey the rest of us gals have SOME knowledge! Chat Icon Much of it DUE to Michelle, but still...Chat Icon

Posted 12/15/05 3:36 PM
 

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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)

Posted by Kitkat





ETA: I don't want her to stay on just for the technical questions - but because she is one of the kindest caring people on here!



I couldn't agree more. Michelle has been such a great inspiration for all of us and has given all of us much needed support...Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 12/15/05 3:42 PM
 

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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)

Posted by Diane

I dont think Michelle was pushing her views on ANYONE!!!!! That comment makes me so madChat Icon
I agree, it does make it more special for a BFP around a holiday, but that was NOT her point.
I wanted to have a child at the end of my school year and unfortuantely didnt work out.
I would LOVE to tell people on Xmas that I was PG, but It wont happen this time, so when it happens it will happen.
Michelle has been nothing but helpful and so caring and listened to my Fm's when I had my M/c.
Michelle, you shouldnt have to NOT be a part of the TTC board because of one ignorant commentChat Icon

Dawn
Im sorry that AF showe upChat Icon





Mine wasn't the ignorant comment sweetie pie.

Posted 12/15/05 3:44 PM
 

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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)

Posted by dooodles

Posted by Diane

I dont think Michelle was pushing her views on ANYONE!!!!! That comment makes me so madChat Icon
I agree, it does make it more special for a BFP around a holiday, but that was NOT her point.
I wanted to have a child at the end of my school year and unfortuantely didnt work out.
I would LOVE to tell people on Xmas that I was PG, but It wont happen this time, so when it happens it will happen.
Michelle has been nothing but helpful and so caring and listened to my Fm's when I had my M/c.
Michelle, you shouldnt have to NOT be a part of the TTC board because of one ignorant commentChat Icon

Dawn
Im sorry that AF showe upChat Icon





Mine wasn't the ignorant comment sweetie pie.



I'm NOT Your sweetie pie.

Dawn..may we all get BFP's in 2006Chat Icon

Message edited 12/15/2005 3:54:44 PM.

Posted 12/15/05 3:45 PM
 

calendargrl
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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)

Yes, she is def. very caring!

Posted by Kitkat

Posted by calendargrl

Michelle if you leave i leave, there is no point being on the boards when you answer all of our questions. I especially look at your responses to other girls because I value your insight. Don't let one person's comments make you leave.



Hey the rest of us gals have SOME knowledge! Chat Icon Much of it DUE to Michelle, but still...Chat Icon

ETA: I don't want her to stay on just for the technical questions - but because she is one of the kindest caring people on here!

Posted 12/15/05 3:46 PM
 

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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)

Dawn ... you are a great lady and i'm SO SORRY you got AF .. much baby dust for next month Chat IconChat Icon

Posted 12/15/05 3:53 PM
 

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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)

Posted by Diane
....because of one ignorant comment


What comment would THAT BE exactly? If you mean Donna/Dooodles comment , then I beg to differ. I take offense to the implication that anything Donna said was "ignorant" .. that is a very strong word, watch how you use it

This thread has taken an unfortuante turn, and I'm sorry that it had to come down to people "taking sides" I think those of you who are bashing Donna's post and rushing to Redstar's defense are COMPLETELY missing the point of Donna's post in the 1st place. And if any of you knew ANYTHING about Donna you would know that she is probably one of the most caring, outstanding and compassionate people I've ever met…. But you ladies do not know that, so you are jumping on the bandwagon and bashing her for expressing herself, or for daring to say something in response to Redstar .. I simply do NOT understand the hostility?!!

At no point did Donna say Redstar's advice was unwelcome or unappreciated. Nor did Donna ever say that Redstar she should stop posting or should leave - I do not know where Michelle or ANY of you are getting this from?!?

Here's my .02 cents for what its worth. I must be the only one who happens to agree with what Donna posted. When I first read Michelle's post, I too was rather taken aback by the way she worded it. There is a certain tone to that post that made it sound as though NONE of us should DARE be disappointed in the fact we cannot give our DH's or families good news for the holidays, or a birthday, or any special or significant occasasion! Upon reading that I actually thought to myself "how dare she or anyone tell me what MY feelings should be, or trivialize my disappointment in not getting 'happy news' for the holidays!!" Donna merely verbalized what I also was feeling.

BUT here's where we ALL agree -- OF COURSE the news of a BFP would be happy ANY TIME of year! Goes without saying that no matter WHAT day of the week or month of the year, we'd cherish and embrace such happy news. Yet to ME (and perhaps Donna), it seemed that Michelle was nearly"chiding" those of us who might feel particularly disappointed in not achieving this dream at a special time of year (be it the holidays, a birthday, an anniversary.. whatever..) That is where I felt she crossed the line. Perhaps Donna and I both misinterpreted what Michelle meant (such is the problem with typed words on a chat board, you are open to misinterpretation) Yet to continue this debate and then say that our thoughts are 'ignorant' is a slap in the face as well Chat Icon

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I am not here to speak for Donna, but I just could not let this go by without saying something in her defense. Those of you coming down on her for expressing HER FEELINGS towards Michelle's post are missing the point. I wish you all could see this objectively rather than rushing to take sides because you feel you "know" Michelle better due to her contributions to this board.

I've said my peace and will leave it at that. I do not wish to continue to take away from Dawn's post. Chat Icon Chat Icon

Lets just try to remember that WE ALL want the same things ... and we're all running on high emotions and stress throughout this roller coaster otherwise known as IF or TTC. Thank you

Posted 12/15/05 5:24 PM
 

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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)

Felicia, you and Donna are inspiring women. You are both wonderful in all your posts. I am sorry to have offended both of you.

The reason I am not posting anymore is because of this. I was not intending to hurt or offend or to ever ever push my opinions on anyone.

I hardly even write much about myself because I just try to help people sort through all this emotional turmoil TTC can give us.

I don't belong on this board anyway. I am not ttc, I am struggling to. I have wished and prayed so hard for a pregnancy every single cycle ....and I too wish I could give my dh the most beautiful xmas , birthday, father's day , new year's day etc gift. I think we all do !

I came to my own realization that I had to let go of the dates. I can't focus on a specific day or even cycle I was trying lend some advice to some of the ladies who are first starting out.

I need to clarify, Donna, did not tell me to leave or stop posting. It's my personal decision because it was pointed out to me that I am pushy in my opinions. I don't feel that is good for a support group. It's my choice to not be a part of it.

I do wish each and everyone of you beautiful bfps....and again I am sorry :(

Posted 12/15/05 5:50 PM
 

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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)

Maybe I used a poor choice in words, and Im sorry, but I was sticking up or Michelle...so Im sorry if I offended anyone.Chat Icon

Posted 12/15/05 5:52 PM
 

2kids2cats
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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)

Posted by FeliciaDP

Posted by Diane
....because of one ignorant comment


What comment would THAT BE exactly? If you mean Donna/Dooodles comment , then I beg to differ. I take offense to the implication that anything Donna said was "ignorant" .. that is a very strong word, watch how you use it

This thread has taken an unfortuante turn, and I'm sorry that it had to come down to people "taking sides" I think those of you who are bashing Donna's post and rushing to Redstar's defense are COMPLETELY missing the point of Donna's post in the 1st place. And if any of you knew ANYTHING about Donna you would know that she is probably one of the most caring, outstanding and compassionate people I've ever met…. But you ladies do not know that, so you are jumping on the bandwagon and bashing her for expressing herself, or for daring to say something in response to Redstar .. I simply do NOT understand the hostility?!!

At no point did Donna say Redstar's advice was unwelcome or unappreciated. Nor did Donna ever say that Redstar she should stop posting or should leave - I do not know where Michelle or ANY of you are getting this from?!?

Here's my .02 cents for what its worth. I must be the only one who happens to agree with what Donna posted. When I first read Michelle's post, I too was rather taken aback by the way she worded it. There is a certain tone to that post that made it sound as though NONE of us should DARE be disappointed in the fact we cannot give our DH's or families good news for the holidays, or a birthday, or any special or significant occasasion! Upon reading that I actually thought to myself "how dare she or anyone tell me what MY feelings should be, or trivialize my disappointment in not getting 'happy news' for the holidays!!" Donna merely verbalized what I also was feeling.

BUT here's where we ALL agree -- OF COURSE the news of a BFP would be happy ANY TIME of year! Goes without saying that no matter WHAT day of the week or month of the year, we'd cherish and embrace such happy news. Yet to ME (and perhaps Donna), it seemed that Michelle was nearly"chiding" those of us who might feel particularly disappointed in not achieving this dream at a special time of year (be it the holidays, a birthday, an anniversary.. whatever..) That is where I felt she crossed the line. Perhaps Donna and I both misinterpreted what Michelle meant (such is the problem with typed words on a chat board, you are open to misinterpretation) Yet to continue this debate and then say that our thoughts are 'ignorant' is a slap in the face as well Chat Icon

**************
I am not here to speak for Donna, but I just could not let this go by without saying something in her defense. Those of you coming down on her for expressing HER FEELINGS towards Michelle's post are missing the point. I wish you all could see this objectively rather than rushing to take sides because you feel you "know" Michelle better due to her contributions to this board.

I've said my peace and will leave it at that. I do not wish to continue to take away from Dawn's post. Chat Icon Chat Icon

Lets just try to remember that WE ALL want the same things ... and we're all running on high emotions and stress throughout this roller coaster otherwise known as IF or TTC. Thank you



Nicely put. I too think ingorant is a harsh word and sounds much worse when typed on a computer showing no other emotions. I hope nobody thinks neither Donna nor Redstar are bad people for what they said or that they are not caring compassionate people. I think both are very much so. Like you said, we all have been in some sort of situation, which fuels emotions, good or bad given the day and we are all here trying to achieve the same thing. So let's try to all get along and continue to support eachother as we have been!

Posted 12/15/05 5:53 PM
 

dooodles
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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)

Posted by redstar

Felicia, you and Donna are inspiring women. You are both wonderful in all your posts. I am sorry to have offended both of you.

The reason I am not posting anymore is because of this. I was not intending to hurt or offend or to ever ever push my opinions on anyone.

I hardly even write much about myself because I just try to help people sort through all this emotional turmoil TTC can give us.

I don't belong on this board anyway. I am not ttc, I am struggling to. I have wished and prayed so hard for a pregnancy every single cycle ....and I too wish I could give my dh the most beautiful xmas , birthday, father's day , new year's day etc gift. I think we all do !

I came to my own realization that I had to let go of the dates. I can't focus on a specific day or even cycle I was trying lend some advice to some of the ladies who are first starting out.

I need to clarify, Donna, did not tell me to leave or stop posting. It's my personal decision because it was pointed out to me that I am pushy in my opinions. I don't feel that is good for a support group. It's my choice to not be a part of it.

I do wish each and everyone of you beautiful bfps....and again I am sorry :(




Michelle - I'll say it again here as I said in my reply to your FM to me. Why would you leave the boards when you do seem to help others? Because I said something about your opinion and someone else agreed with me? Just because we have different views does not mean you do not belong on this forum. My comments were not to bash, I stayed away most of today because this thread took on a life of it's own. I never intended for anything to take away from Dawn's disappointment, only to make it known I was also in the same place as she was less than a week ago and completely understood her feelings.

I was not the one to suggest Michelle did not help others nor was I the one to suggest that she not post on this site with us. That was her doing all by herself. I can understand any of you defending her, but where did I attack any of you for it to get to the point it did?????

Anyone struggling to have a successful pregnancy and birth belongs here. As we all deserve to post our feelings, fears, concerns, doctors visits, medications, BFP's, our losses and experiences without the worry of someone else telling me what I am doing, feeling or thinking is wrong.

Do I have my own opinion on certain things? Yes, which is why I stated them although I do not do it often. Although I do not understand why Michelle would leave over this issue is beyond me. I always found the boards to be open and honest and a way to air out differences.

I have apologized to Dawn for the turn this thread has taken.

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Posted 12/15/05 6:56 PM
 

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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)

WOW!!! I start a 2nd job, come home @ 8, to all this!!
I want to thank you all for the FM's and your apologies are all definitley accepted!
I had no idea this was even going on!
I want to thank each of you simply for your support and being there for me (and others) when we announce BFN's or the TBAF..(DAM I hate her!).
With the support of DH and you ladies, I realize, I have to move on and it will happen when it happens.
Yes, I still hope there will be a "special" day to announce it, but, if not, Oh well..Its still GREAT news!!
TY again! You all are a great group of women! Sorry I haven't posted yet today, but, I just got in!Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 12/15/05 8:29 PM
 

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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)

Dawn, sorry about AF Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon I know what you mean, I am hoping for a BFP on Christmas morning - because that is my test date - !!

Posted 12/16/05 10:19 AM
 

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Re: She Has Arrived (TBAF)

Posted by karacg

Dawn, sorry about AF Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon I know what you mean, I am hoping for a BFP on Christmas morning - because that is my test date - !!



Thank You kara and Baby DUst your way!!!Chat Icon

Posted 12/16/05 9:18 PM
 
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