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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Another LIW post
Posted by Christine
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
didn't mean to start "drama" on here. I was just stunned that so many of those girls said they EXPECT wedding gifts and would find it unacceptable to not get one. weddings are not an investment!
I agree -- I find the outrage for not getting gifts awful. I was in a convo over there once and someone said that if you can't afford a gift then you shouldn't go to a wedding 
  that's so freakin shallow!
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randella
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Re: Another LIW post
Posted by MABLE03
Posted by Redhead
OK....i Ain't gong to front and act like i wasn't anticipating the $$$$$$$
and i think that the chick who said that she didn't or anyone for that matter..is a phooney Baloney
anticipate gifts is one thing but to expect it from every single guest is another.
yeah-- I mean, I certainly wasn't shocked that we didn't get gifts from some people-- But a card would have been nice.
I think anticpate is a much better word--
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| Posted 7/5/06 10:31 PM |
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mrswask
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Re: Another LIW post
I'm sorry - the part I still don't understand, or agree with, is when you people post about how you have to "at least" cover your plate.
Ummm - why the heck should I subsidize your wedding because you decided to spend a ton of money - that's not your guests problem, that's yours!! What you give should be dictated by your relationship with the couple and by what you can afford.
If my best friend got married in her backyard, she'd get more than a casual acquaintance who had a $150 a plate wedding.
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| Posted 7/5/06 10:32 PM |
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MABLE03
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Re: Another LIW post
Posted by randella
Posted by MABLE03
Posted by Redhead
OK....i Ain't gong to front and act like i wasn't anticipating the $$$$$$$
and i think that the chick who said that she didn't or anyone for that matter..is a phooney Baloney
anticipate gifts is one thing but to expect it from every single guest is another.
yeah-- I mean, I certainly wasn't shocked that we didn't get gifts from some people-- But a card would have been nice.
I think anticpate is a much better word--
Yes anticipate is a much better word for it, and like I said the no card would upset me alot more then no gift!! there really is no excuse ( besides it getting lost) for no card.
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| Posted 7/5/06 10:32 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: Another LIW post
Posted by randella
Posted by MABLE03
Posted by Redhead
OK....i Ain't gong to front and act like i wasn't anticipating the $$$$$$$
and i think that the chick who said that she didn't or anyone for that matter..is a phooney Baloney
anticipate gifts is one thing but to expect it from every single guest is another.
yeah-- I mean, I certainly wasn't shocked that we didn't get gifts from some people-- But a card would have been nice.
I think anticpate is a much better word--
good point
i can't say that i EXPECT a gift...
And the thread almost acts as if they DEMAND ONE....
tacky 
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| Posted 7/5/06 10:33 PM |
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MrsERod
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Re: Another LIW post
we had one guest at our wedding not give us anything...NOT EVEN A CARD!!!
beyotch had enough $$ for:
1. a new dress (which she bragged to me about buying)
2. manicure
3. hairdo
but she couldn't find the time, nor the $4.00 to buy us a friggin card, and write a nice congratulatory message in it??????
damn skippy she did NOT get a thank you card!!!
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| Posted 7/5/06 10:34 PM |
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randella
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Re: Another LIW post
Posted by Redhead
good point
i can't say that i EXPECT a gift...
And the thread almost acts as if they DEMAND ONE....
tacky
this just brought like a vision of a bride collecting cards to gain entry into the wedding.. checking off a list like a bouncer..
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| Posted 7/5/06 10:34 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Another LIW post
Posted by randella
Posted by Redhead
good point
i can't say that i EXPECT a gift...
And the thread almost acts as if they DEMAND ONE....
tacky
this just brought like a vision of a bride collecting cards to gain entry into the wedding.. checking off a list like a bouncer..
I thought the same thing
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| Posted 7/5/06 10:35 PM |
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emc
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Re: Another LIW post
Here's a scenario that happened at my wedding...what would you do if you attended your dh's (not close) friend's wedding all the way up in Boston in September and gave a gift, then they show up to your wedding in October and don't give a gift....OH, and we never received a TY from them. Needless to say they did not get a TY.
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| Posted 7/5/06 10:43 PM |
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justthe4ofus
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Re: Another LIW post
We had one non gift giver. He gave us a card with nothing written in it. I mean nothing not a dear not a from NOTHING. If he hadn't seal the envelope we could have reused the card, and for that I would have sent him a TY Since this guy was DH's friend and I left it up to him and he said no TY. So no TY went out. We did have one person also give us a decorated box. I have no idea what to do with a decorated box.
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| Posted 7/5/06 11:00 PM |
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justthe4ofus
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Re: Another LIW post
WOW I just finished reading that thread- I am throwing a dinner PARTY! Anyone who wants to come is invited and guess what I expect a gift because I am throwing a party and it's my almost anniversary. 
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| Posted 7/5/06 11:17 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Another LIW post
Posted by prncssrachel
We had a couple of people not give us gifts, but I still sent them a thank you. It was a thank you for them taking the time to come and see me marry the man I love. I don't know anyone's financial situation, I don't know if they gave a gift but it got lost, etc. There's a million possibilities of why someone wouldn't give a gift. So everyone got a thank you because it was about them coming to share with us. And yes, I honestly believe that.
I completely agree and we did the same.
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| Posted 7/5/06 11:22 PM |
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MrsPorkChop
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Re: Another LIW post
i saved all my cards- gift or not- and sent thank yous basis that
im sorry, but if a person comes to a wedding, then doesnt have the decency to get us a card at least, sorry, but they are NOT gettting a thank you from me
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| Posted 7/6/06 5:16 AM |
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Lanabean
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Re: Another LIW post
I had one person with a date not give a gift and I did send a thank you card, but I wrote:
"We hope you enjoyed yourselves."
heh heh
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| Posted 7/6/06 6:22 AM |
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LIMOMx2
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Re: Another LIW post
I did expect something at least a card from every guest but did not receive it.
Not even a card from some people!!!! At least acknowledge our marriage
I did send them TY's though just thanking them for attending. I had a lot of extra TY's and figured what else am I going to do with them
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| Posted 7/6/06 7:33 AM |
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SoinLove
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Re: Another LIW post
We enjoyed our special day and that's what mattered the most...not how much money we got. Sure there were people that didn't even give us a card (actually there were a LOT of people that didn't) and we gave them a thank you card just the same.
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| Posted 7/6/06 7:43 AM |
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saraH
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Re: Another LIW post
my feeling is this...the poster that said she did not "expect" gifts will get a rude awakening at her wedding.
when the shoe is on the other foot, her opinion wil change. bet a buck she'll be posting the same thread after her wedding.
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| Posted 7/6/06 8:08 AM |
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Re: Another LIW post
Posted by emc
Here's a scenario that happened at my wedding...what would you do if you attended your dh's (not close) friend's wedding all the way up in Boston in September and gave a gift, then they show up to your wedding in October and don't give a gift....OH, and we never received a TY from them. Needless to say they did not get a TY.
I had something similar happen - we went to the wedding of what I though was a good friend of mine down in Virginia (we had gone to high school together up here). Dh and I both took time off of work, paid for a hotel for three nights, and gave a very nice gift. When we had gotten home, we found a TY in the mail from him and his wife. It was postmarked the day before the wedding. I am assuming that they mailed out generic TY's before the wedding even took place in order to "get them out of the way".
When my wedding rolled around last October, he never sent his reply card back, just told me over the ohone that he and his wife couldn't make it. They never even sent so much as a card. I have spoken to him since my wedding and he has not even made any sort of acknowledgement as to that fact that I has gotten married. That hurt me more than anything. Needless to say, he didn't ge ta TY.
I also had a close girlfriend from HS cancel for her fiance on me two days before the wedding, but she still came... without a card or anything. She didn't get a TY either.
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| Posted 7/6/06 8:12 AM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Another LIW post
here's an interesting thing that happened to us...
DH's cousin from OOT came to our wedding with her boyfriend. no gift, no card, nada. we sent thank you's to everyone whether they gave a gift or not, including her.
3 months later she sent us a check, a very small check. we never sent another thank you. was that wrong? 
Message edited 7/6/2006 8:27:05 AM.
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| Posted 7/6/06 8:26 AM |
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suvenR
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Re: Another LIW post
I had someone come AND give a gift.
I did not send her a thank you card.
How do you like them apples?
(it was our bridesmaid from hell, btw)
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| Posted 7/6/06 8:33 AM |
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Gertyrae
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Re: Another LIW post
I believe when you invite someone to a wedding, they are not required to bring a gift. You are inviting them to participate in the celebration. For that reason, you should send a Thank you to guests for sharing the day even if they didn't bring a gift. BTW, we didn't get gifts from a lot of people at our wedding, who cares!!
This is a good reason why I don't go on LIW anymore 
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| Posted 7/6/06 8:54 AM |
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Ali1
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Re: Another LIW post
All of my non gift givers did not give us cards and for that reason did not get a TY from me or DH. My thank you to them was the dancing, drinking, food and favors. Sorry I find it so tacky to go to a wedding and not even give a card to the bride and groom regardless of your financial situation.
We also had a guest who's check bounced and we paid an additional $15 and we did not send them a TY either.
And I might be in the minority here, but if I can't afford to bring a gift to a wedding there is no way I would go. Unless the person i was very close to and felt comfortable telling them my situation. That's just who I am.
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| Posted 7/6/06 9:12 AM |
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2PreciousBlessings
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Re: Another LIW post
Posted by prncssrachel
We had a couple of people not give us gifts, but I still sent them a thank you. It was a thank you for them taking the time to come and see me marry the man I love. I don't know anyone's financial situation, I don't know if they gave a gift but it got lost, etc. There's a million possibilities of why someone wouldn't give a gift. So everyone got a thank you because it was about them coming to share with us. And yes, I honestly believe that.
I agree a 100%. They were people who came to my wedding and did not give us a gift but I still appreciate them taking time out of their busy schedules to being part of our joyous wedding. I send everyone a thank you note whether they give something or not. We inviting people to our wedding was not about us receiving gifts but rather everyone being there to share in our wonderful day.
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| Posted 7/6/06 9:22 AM |
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Beth
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Re: Another LIW post
I sent everyone who came a thank you-
it was thank you for coming
if they gave us a gift which 95% of the people did- then I said thank you for coming and for the generous gift
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| Posted 7/6/06 9:41 AM |
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Waste06
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Re: Another LIW post
We had 1 non-gifter, no card, no acknowledgment, nothing. I'm OK with it, my mother is not.
Did I anticipate gifts? Yes, which is why I made a photo box for the cards.
Did I Expect gifts from all of my guests? NO. Not in the least.
Thank you's will be sent to all guests who came to the wedding.
We had a relatively small wedding for LI standards. The people we invited were close to us, and we really wanted them to be there with us on our wedding day. They were family and close friends.
(We're still waiting for our proofs - it's only been 1 month)
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| Posted 7/6/06 9:58 AM |
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