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Diane
Hope is Contagious....catch it
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Re: Need advice
Posted by nyteacher13
Posted by worriedmrs
Posted by Beth1210
Posted by THEINFAMOUSMRS.OTG
Does he work close enough for you to check things out? Is he in an area that you would go unseen?
could you trade cars with a friend and stake him out?
or even rent one? it's dark out when he is done working right?
I may do this one night next week... it is dark out when he is working...
Just please be very careful. This is not worth getting yourself hurt over. I'd be so upset seeing something to confirm my ideas that I would not be able to drive carefully.
Your DH sounds like a real coward. I have no use for liars or sneaks and he sounds like BOTH a liar AND a sneak. Again, you deserve SO MUCH MORE than this.
Red is right... DON'T lose sight of YOUR dreams because this "man" has no use for you. I really hope you guys don't have kids involved in this...
Can you bring a friend with you, so you are NOT alone.....
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Tumbalina
Better than the news!
Member since 2/06 2840 total posts
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Angela
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Re: Need advice
How have you been? Find out anything new?
Sending you
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| Posted 8/28/06 10:42 PM |
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Libragal07
Loving Summer.....
Member since 8/06 6636 total posts
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Samantha aka Sammy Bones
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Re: Need advice
Hope you are doing ok please let us know how you are
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| Posted 8/28/06 10:44 PM |
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Moehick
Ready for the sun!
Member since 5/05 30339 total posts
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Properly perfect™
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Re: Need advice
Hope your OK
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| Posted 8/28/06 10:46 PM |
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Kierasmom
I love my kids
Member since 5/05 2885 total posts
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Jenn
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Re: Need advice
First I wanted to say that I'm sorry you're going through this.
I would track the times that he is calling her to the days that he is working late and see if there are any coincidences. If he's calling her at 11:15 and telling you that he's working late, then you know there's something going on.
It all seems strange to me that he would be calling a woman at her house at 11:15 at night, but I wouldn't jump on anything yet. Wait for a week or two and see what kind of information you can get.
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| Posted 8/28/06 11:10 PM |
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DebG
Pick a cause & stand up for it
Member since 5/05 18602 total posts
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The cure IS worse!
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Re: Need advice
thinking of you.
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| Posted 8/28/06 11:22 PM |
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BellaRock
I am all the Me I will ever Be
Member since 5/06 9746 total posts
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Re: Need advice
Just here to say that I am thinking of you and praying for you.
I don't have any good advice to give just to keep you head up and be strong. Lots of
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| Posted 8/29/06 12:51 AM |
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LadyMaravilla
Fall Is Here
Member since 5/05 12023 total posts
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Sonia
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Re: Need advice
Worried,
I wish I had words of comfort for you but I don't. All I can say is that you must trust your instinct. I know many woemn who like you started suspecting and all the clues were there. I can relate to what you are feeling and you want to to do anything possible to keep your marriage from falling apart. But it's NOT you. The easiest thing for him to do is blame it on you & make you feel guilty. Don't...we all have issues & difficulties in our marriages, but it takes two. There are times when things can be worked out because there is love & respect coming from both parties. But if he is adamant about being unhappy as difficult as it may be I would say to go your own way. Keeping you in my prayers. 
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| Posted 8/29/06 8:54 AM |
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skygirl
Our prayers were answered:)
Member since 6/05 4919 total posts
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Erica
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Re: Need advice
hope you are ok
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| Posted 8/29/06 9:11 AM |
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imagin916
LIF Adult
Member since 6/05 1826 total posts
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Valerie
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Re: Need advice
Im so sorry that you are going through this. You are a wonderful person, and its too bad that your husband is making the worst mistake of his life by messing up his marriage to you. I agree with the others, get proof of your suspicions before you confront him, otherwise he will deny and cover his tracks better in order for you not to catch him.
Do NOT let him convince you that this is your fault in any way, nobody is responsible for "driving" anyone to cheat. A mature adult does not do things that they dont want to do, and if he tries to blame you after you catch him in the act, tell him where to shove it.
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| Posted 8/29/06 10:30 AM |
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nferrandi
too excited for words
Member since 10/05 18538 total posts
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Nicole
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Re: Need advice
Posted by imagin916
Do NOT let him convince you that this is your fault in any way, nobody is responsible for "driving" anyone to cheat. A mature adult does not do things that they dont want to do, and if he tries to blame you after you catch him in the act, tell him where to shove it.
I totally agree. Get the proof you need and get your stuff together and move one. I do't thnk there's anything to work out at that point. I'm sorry you're going through this.
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| Posted 8/29/06 10:33 AM |
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My3Shmoos
Me and my Monkey
Member since 7/06 2437 total posts
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K
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Re: Need advice
My girlfriend went through this too. You need to get good proof. You said you found her email address. Do you think he emails her from your home computer? If so you can buy a program that shows you everything he types in and what other write back to him. When my girlfriend went through this another colleague at work told het about this software. She used it to track her kids online activity. My girlfriend bought it and caught her husband making plans to meet his affair. She was able to print it out and confront him and then used it to show her divorce lawyer which helped her prove her case. She got the house, car and many ther things. I talked to her just before and the software is from Spector.
www.spector.com The software is Spectorpro You can load it on your computer and it can't be found. it loads in Stealth. It will show you all his online activity. There are different versions you can buy so look at them all and then choose. You need the proof before anything. FM me if you need more info. I'll ask my GF if you have anyother questions.
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| Posted 8/29/06 11:00 AM |
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DRMom
Two in Blue
Member since 5/05 20223 total posts
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Melissa
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Re: Need advice
Posted by KAbs
My girlfriend went through this too. You need to get good proof. You said you found her email address. Do you think he emails her from your home computer? If so you can buy a program that shows you everything he types in and what other write back to him. When my girlfriend went through this another colleague at work told het about this software. She used it to track her kids online activity. My girlfriend bought it and caught her husband making plans to meet his affair. She was able to print it out and confront him and then used it to show her divorce lawyer which helped her prove her case. She got the house, car and many ther things. I talked to her just before and the software is from Spector.
www.spector.com The software is Spectorpro You can load it on your computer and it can't be found. it loads in Stealth. It will show you all his online activity. There are different versions you can buy so look at them all and then choose. You need the proof before anything. FM me if you need more info. I'll ask my GF if you have anyother questions.
I also know someone who used this-it was a male friend of DH's looking to catch his girfriend which he did. This is teh SWEETEST guy you could ever meet and this girl was just abusing his kindness-he confronted her with the evidence and moved out of state and met a great girl he is living with now. No Matter what--you do not deserve this. Please take care of yourself and your heart FIRST! Good luck
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| Posted 8/29/06 11:33 AM |
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Tany
Becoming a different woman
Member since 5/05 24460 total posts
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Tania
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Re: Need advice
I just saw this, I'm so sorry you are going through this. but if you feel in your heart, that there is something wrong, go your instinct.
I hope that things can be resolved.
Good luck
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| Posted 8/29/06 12:12 PM |
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LaurenExp
Waiting patiently for baby sis
Member since 8/06 11613 total posts
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L-Diddy EDD 11/11/11 :)
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Re: Need advice
I just saw this as well. I'm so sorry that this is going on.
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