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Janice
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
I went co-ed, but my 3 sisters went all girls and my brother is in an all boys school. My parents and siblings love the choice. I am all for it and would love to send my kids to a single gender school..
girls are not intimidated to answer questions and excel, it is so much less caddy as well.
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
I went to pubic, co ed schools for most of my life, and I was never intimidated at al, I don't see why anyone would be. If you're intimidated to answer questions and excelt in the presence of boys in school, won't that also apply to the real world? I don't get it. The things I'm sayong about all girls and all boys schools are based on experience with people who went to them. I'm not saying it applies to everyone, but I'm also not pulling it out of my butt  I dn't mean to offend anyone, my sister went to an all girls HS, several of my frineds to women's colleges, a few boyfrends form all boys' schools, etc
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
I grew up in Queens and the I didn't want to go to High School with the kids I went to junior high with (they were not good kids) plus the HS I was supposed to go to wasn't that great.
So I begged my mom to send me to an all girl catholic high school. I went to Dominican Commercial High School in Jamaica. While the neighborhood was not good, I got a great education and made lots of friends (that I am still friends with today). I moved to LI at the end of my junior year and I was so far ahead I pretty much didn't have to do any work...(for example, in History I was learning about the 1960's in Dominican Commercial and when I got to Centereach, they were only learing about the Depression era)
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checka
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Yes I would. My brothers, most of my friends, DH and I all went to all girl or all boy schools. We all had to wear uniforms too which I am also for. Nobody worried about what they were wearing and the kids that couldn't afford expensive clothes were not embarrassed by it. Personally, I think that going to an all girl or all boy school (especially one with uniforms) allows the kids to focus on learning.
JMHO
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
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Neen and Moe.
I honestly mean no disrespect...can you tell me if there was a certain reason that you/your parents choose to send you to a private same sex school?
It was the best high school in the area....100% of students went onto college and my parents felt it was a good opportunity for me to be challenged by an outstanding curriculum. It helped me become a strong opinionated woman who never gave a rats a$$ about a boy....and yes I did have a social life while in HS
I also went to an all girls HS and agree 100%.
I would absolutely send my kids to an all girls or boys HS in a heart beat. Its about the academics after all, not the sex of those in the school. There is definitely enough socialization
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NS1976
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
It depends on the child and by the time they go to hs, they have some sort of say.
I wouldnt have a problem with it either way. Sometimes it is great for some kids, while other times, its not. I went to an all girls catholic school for freshman year and i HATED IT! All of my best friends have always been guys, I just have always felt more comfortable with them (not even in a dating sense) so I literally felt as if I was lacking something by going there. I transferred to St. Johns Prep in sophomore year and was way happier. I liked interacting with both guys and girls....my brother on the other hand just graduated from an all boys highschool in Queens and couldnt have enjoyed it more. He loved being able to be with only his "buddies" at school, not worry about his appearance or how he acted. He doesnt suffer at all socially and has girls "falling at his feet" LOL..I think it was definately the best decision for him.
It all depends on the childs personality and what they need to get out of it. But I definately would send them to one if thats what they wanted.
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
That's NUTS! Wow! Yeah, I worked there for a long time, too! Such a small world!
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
nope!
My DH went to an all boys prep school. In some ways he is EXTREMELY polished and polite. But, there are times when I do feel like he's a little socially immature. And, in those instances, I always feel like the reason is because he wasn't socialized with women early on.
Oh, I went to an all-girls college and I think God everyday that it was integrated with men.
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
NO!
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nov04libride
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
I wouldn't. To me the purpose of education is to provide as close to a microcosm of the real world as is possible. As students, children learn how to interact with one another, and in group projects learn what the work world will hold for them.
I went to a boarding school that had gone from all-male to co-ed 4 years before I started, and it was amazing how sexist some of the older male teachers were. They really felt that males were just better, and this had influenced how they taught, and talked about women. In reality, when girls started, the teachers learned that generally the girls were more serious students and performed better than the boys!
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nov04libride
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Posted by suvenR
Oh, I went to an all-girls college and I think God everyday that it was integrated with men.
I remember you said you went to a state school--which state school is all women? I don't think any public schools should be single sex, but that's JMO.
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Nope.
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Posted by nov04libride
I wouldn't. To me the purpose of education is to provide as close to a microcosm of the real world as is possible. As students, children learn how to interact with one another, and in group projects learn what the work world will hold for them.
Well said. I completely agree.
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| Posted 8/13/05 4:18 PM |
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SoinLove
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Posted by Aliasmom
I don't think I would, kids need to learn to socialize with both sexes.
I agree with this. I honestly got along with boys better when I was growing up, so I know I would've been MISERABLE in an all girls school.
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nov04libride
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
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I loved my education and excelled at so many things in school....in our school girls could and did anything, school govt, sports, plays, you name it. If I had boys in school with me I may not have gotten such good grades.
I can see this, but how does this prepare women for reality? Ultimately we all join the workforce, and I am sure I would be in a higher position if I worked in an all-female environment. I am judged by men who do not want to promote me because I am of child-bearing age, and could either quit or not devote as much of my time and effort to my position should I get pregnant, and there are men who believe women are just not as forceful or effective supervisors. Sexist, yes, but it is reality. I think being taught in an environment being sheltered from reality would ultimately hinder my ability to adjust to the reality that does exist beyond the confines of a single-sex environment.
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Moehick
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Posted by nov04libride
Posted by Moehick
I loved my education and excelled at so many things in school....in our school girls could and did anything, school govt, sports, plays, you name it. If I had boys in school with me I may not have gotten such good grades.
I can see this, but how does this prepare women for reality? Ultimately we all join the workforce, and I am sure I would be in a higher position if I worked in an all-female environment. I am judged by men who do not want to promote me because I am of child-bearing age, and could either quit or not devote as much of my time and effort to my position should I get pregnant, and there are men who believe women are just not as forceful or effective supervisors. Sexist, yes, but it is reality. I think being taught in an environment being sheltered from reality would ultimately hinder my ability to adjust to the reality that does exist beyond the confines of a single-sex environment.
So do you really think that any person that went to a same sex school is unable to deal with reality? Do you think we all don't work with people and shrivel up into a ball when the opposite sex is near?
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nov04libride
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Posted by Moehick
So do you really think that any person that went to a same sex school is unable to deal with reality? Do you think we all don't work with people and shrivel up into a ball when the opposite sex is near?
I don't think I said unable, I think I said not as prepared to work with members of the opposite sex.
ETA: Obviously not from any innate ability or lack thereof, but just from not having had the experiences of working with boys throughout school and/or college. I would imagine going from a single-sex high school to a co-ed college would be a dramatic change, but obviously I didn't go through it myself. All the girls I knew who went to single-sex high schools hated it, but I also think they had little or no say in being sent.
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dm24angel
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
No..I think my children should get a public education to start early in seeing the "world" with learning things and how to adjust to men/women, boys/girls and other experiences a public co-ed school offers.
I support public school a lot...
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Moehick
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
I went from an all girls high school to a coed college with no difficulty. I also worked part time in high school which provided me with the much needed interaction with the male sex. There are plenty of other ways to learn to interact with the opposite sex than in a classroom, where in my high school the focus was on learning.
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| Posted 8/14/05 8:58 PM |
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dm24angel
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Posted by Moehick
I went from an all girls high school to a coed college with no difficulty. I also worked part time in high school which provided me with the much needed interaction with the male sex. There are plenty of other ways to learn to interact with the opposite sex than in a classroom, where in my high school the focus was on learning.
I think yoru experience was great....but Im not 100% convinced its the majority experience..so thats why I will choose differently...
Also- I believe in a more rounded experience other then learning. I will instill in my children the power and results of learning, but I want my children to have social aspects that an all male, all female school wont offer.....BUT Im not against it at all..just in my own situation, or my own beliefs
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luvsbob4603
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
no because i would want them to be in a mix school boys and girls.
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Posted by Aliasmom
I don't think I would, kids need to learn to socialize with both sexes.
I agree!
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Posted by Moehick
I went from an all girls high school to a coed college with no difficulty. I also worked part time in high school which provided me with the much needed interaction with the male sex. There are plenty of other ways to learn to interact with the opposite sex than in a classroom, where in my high school the focus was on learning.
I completely agree with this.
Posted by nov04libride
I can see this, but how does this prepare women for reality? Ultimately we all join the workforce, and I am sure I would be in a higher position if I worked in an all-female environment. I am judged by men who do not want to promote me because I am of child-bearing age, and could either quit or not devote as much of my time and effort to my position should I get pregnant, and there are men who believe women are just not as forceful or effective supervisors. Sexist, yes, but it is reality. I think being taught in an environment being sheltered from reality would ultimately hinder my ability to adjust to the reality that does exist beyond the confines of a single-sex environment.
I think that these are the Exact reasons why single sex schools are beneficial. I dont mean this as a personal attack, so please dont take it that way, but what your argument here is saying to me is that Women are going to be repressed and undervalued when they enter the workforce, and so they should learn that lesson early on in life  I think that being in an all Female school allowed my intelligence to flourish without reservation of what guys might think. In the perspective of a "high school girl", its less likely that i would raise my hand and participate in certain discussions if a guy i had a crush on was sitting next to me in class- its more likely that the whole time, i'm just going to be wondering how it would make me look to him (like i did in Jr. high). I truly believe that the confidence i gained from being separated from that type of situation is what has Contributed to the confidence i have Now in the workforce. So, no, i dont think that women need to learn early on that 'its a man's world so they better get used to it'.
Also- there was no problem adjusting to college- i felt just as prepared, if not more so, than any other students there. i was able to use engllish and research papers from HS for half of the papers that i needed to write in my freshman year of college
i know everyone debates the whole "preparing you for the real world", but honestly, i feel like HS, in general, is a Bubble- and most of my friends that went to co-ed schools have said the same thing. I also dont think that college "prepares you for reality" in the way that people are even saying that HS should- i used to sleep late, drink all night, and show up in pajamas- None of those seemed to carry over into my Present 'reality'. Nonetheless, it still served its Educational purpose.
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Moehick
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Well said Neenie
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Posted by neeniebean86
Posted by Moehick
I went from an all girls high school to a coed college with no difficulty. I also worked part time in high school which provided me with the much needed interaction with the male sex. There are plenty of other ways to learn to interact with the opposite sex than in a classroom, where in my high school the focus was on learning.
I completely agree with this.
Posted by nov04libride
I can see this, but how does this prepare women for reality? Ultimately we all join the workforce, and I am sure I would be in a higher position if I worked in an all-female environment. I am judged by men who do not want to promote me because I am of child-bearing age, and could either quit or not devote as much of my time and effort to my position should I get pregnant, and there are men who believe women are just not as forceful or effective supervisors. Sexist, yes, but it is reality. I think being taught in an environment being sheltered from reality would ultimately hinder my ability to adjust to the reality that does exist beyond the confines of a single-sex environment.
I think that these are the Exact reasons why single sex schools are beneficial. I dont mean this as a personal attack, so please dont take it that way, but what your argument here is saying to me is that Women are going to be repressed and undervalued when they enter the workforce, and so they should learn that lesson early on in life I think that being in an all Female school allowed my intelligence to flourish without reservation of what guys might think. In the perspective of a "high school girl", its less likely that i would raise my hand and participate in certain discussions if a guy i had a crush on was sitting next to me in class- its more likely that the whole time, i'm just going to be wondering how it would make me look to him (like i did in Jr. high). I truly believe that the confidence i gained from being separated from that type of situation is what has Contributed to the confidence i have Now in the workforce. So, no, i dont think that women need to learn early on that 'its a man's world so they better get used to it'.
Also- there was no problem adjusting to college- i felt just as prepared, if not more so, than any other students there. i was able to use engllish and research papers from HS for half of the papers that i needed to write in my freshman year of college
i know everyone debates the whole "preparing you for the real world", but honestly, i feel like HS, in general, is a Bubble- and most of my friends that went to co-ed schools have said the same thing. I also dont think that college "prepares you for reality" in the way that people are even saying that HS should- i used to sleep late, drink all night, and show up in pajamas- None of those seemed to carry over into my Present 'reality'. Nonetheless, it still served its Educational purpose.
WEll said. I went to an all-girls high school and then on to an engineering school that was predominately male. I'd like to think I did great for myself in my chosen career, which is male dominated, and I can thank both my all -girls HS education and college education for that.
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