Pressure

Do you get pressure about getting PG from someone/s?

And if so WHO?

AND how do you deal with it?

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we get pressure all the time from extended family who do not know our situation

i usually tell them, make them feel like sh*t

and they stop

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I get it mostly from co-workers

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I have some co-workers make comments, but it's random and not often. But I feel self conscious because I have gained so much weight and it makes me wonder if people are speculating.

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I had a M/C in Sept and people(that know) constantly ask me so are you pregnant yet? Ummmmm insensitive yet? My Mom is the biggest culprit

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i swear i hear something from my co-workers in what feel like a everyday basis.

and not from anyone specific...yet it is constant

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i know this is horrible but my IL's are relentless on this issue. i just told them that were not TTC until after AUg bc im in my friends bridal party. they were so disappointed but.... WHATEVER STOP ASKING!!!!

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I get it from my mom the most, but co-workers get their comments in every now and then. I just tell them I'm not ready and they leave me alone.

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Posted by Redhead

i swear i hear something from my co-workers in what feel like a everyday basis.

and not from anyone specific...yet it is constant

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DH's family makes a lot of comments...and I do hear it at work from time to time. It can be annoying especially since we aren't trying yet.

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co-workers and by this point I have no shame in telling they the troubles we are having. I have to hear intimate details 24/7 from 2 pregnant co-workers and the rest about their kids, and then I had enough pressuring about when is it gonna be "us" and now I just tell them...

pressure to have a child from others is ridiculous , makes ya feel like crap..

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see i just do not want to tell them that is makes me sad
I know they are asking and kidding withme because they care about me and want to see me happy.
But it also does make me want to pull my hair out

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Posted by CaptainCharisma424

we get pressure all the time from extended family who do not know our situation

i usually tell them, make them feel like sh*t

and they stop

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my ILs are constant with this. i actually said recently , wow good thing we're not trying yet bc i'd feel bad that i wasnt PG yet but that hasnt stopped them. worst part is, i told them we plan on starting in june and now im starting to question whether i am really ready and whether we should wait a few more mos but they'll be all over me come june

at work, its the opposite for me. women in my field seem to wait much longer than i would be and i actually get embarrassed that we're hoping to TTC soon bc when the subject comes up bc they act like oh you're way too young (i'll be 29) to be thinking about that.

guess you just cant please everyone (or anyone)

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I get asked by people at work all of the time "so when are you going to have kids" I tell them "in the very near future" My family know that we are TTC so every phone call is...Did Genna get AF yet?? Its so annoying!

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I get it from my sister and my mom the most.

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I simply tell people..."when you fork over the money for the future baby's college tuition"

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I also get pressure from co-workers. A whole bunch of girls got married the same year I did and a lot of them are preggo already, so everyone says "When's it your turn??" to me and DH all the time.

I know it comes from a good place, so I usually just smile and say "not yet" but I wish I had the balls Don has to say "It *****, we're trying, it's harder than you think - BACK OFF."

But it's work, and I like to keep my private life private and keep the peace.

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I was getting it from my sister who now knows my situation (long story) and his parents. His parents are elderly and want to see a child of mine before "they go" their words not mine. I am not telling them my situation, I just tell them that they have his daughter and our 3 furbabys.

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Oh at 39 believe me I hear it all the time -- but most of my friends and family know that I had a mis, and know we are trying so they don't really pressure us.

Plus my mom has 9 grandchildren and his parents have 12, so they are really looking more forward to GREAT grandchildren...pressure is on our nieces and nephews at this point!

I do get tons of "Oh my friend adopted and then wham!" or "If you would just relax..."
Yes if I just relax my perimenopausal hormones will go back to being my 20s hormones???

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I get it so bad from all areas. I was just at a shower this afternoon and my name was metioned first as next up.

My inlaws, forget about it. They are convinced that I am barren and DH is sterile. They can't grasp the concept at all. We will be married for 4 years, and I am so tired of it.

My parents are never going to be happy. I come from a big Irish Catholic family, were more then 5 kids is the norm. So even when I have my 2, people are going to nag me for more. DH tells them no way, that I spent too much of my life already living in a "tribe"

I always tell people, why do you want to wreck my good time???? When the time is right it will happen.

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I hear it from co-workers all the time, they pretty much think that since I've been married for over 2yrs and I'm still not preggo that I don't want kids. Everyone else who is married that I work with either has kids or is pregnant, so they make that assumption.

Its pretty annoying, but of course I'm not going to get into my reasoning with them...

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We mostly get pressure from my MIL. We haven't told anyone in our family that we are ttc so we usually laugh it off/make a joke about it.

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Thankfully we do not get too much pressure for anyone. I have PCOS so everyone knows better than to ask me. Just once in awhile my MIL will ask DH if I am, but she will never ask me to my face. I always tell everyone, when there is something for you to know we will tell you, until then just leave us alone.