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So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

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Posted by Lolita4Life

unbelievable.... i neve acted as if LI was stuck up.... but i think SHE is. its as if she thinks she is better ofr living in LI. hence her thread title "LI girl in Harlem???"Chat Icon
eta: you dont think she intended harm... thats fine, when i saw her op i was going to give her some nice advice, then i saw that ppl were tryingt o do just that and she attacked THEM.




and to everyone whos wondering what DebG is talking about, im sure its my comment about getting in her suv and so forth.
not stereotyping LI Deb, just the type of person she comes off as. and many ppl thought it was funny anyway. as they should, it was all in good fun.



Well To be honest the next poster kind of ripped into her thus making her defensive .. but I think Her Saying LI girl meant or was implying she is not street savy why would she be that, it seems she lives a sheletered life but in no way do I think she was speaking about race but more less the crime factor. I have been on 168th street it scared the christ out of me ... it is a little rough .IMO but I wouldn't descriminate going if I had to or my friend lived there. And I have also been on the reverse side there and have been called deragatory racial slurs so I think more a less it's a matter of what you are comfprtable with!




IMO, when discussing being afraid to go to Harlem it is only natural for people to assume that race is part of the issue. It is a fact that Harlem is a prodomianately African American area. Where as it is a rumor that Harlem is the part of the city where gangs roam the streets shooting at people and the homeless crowd the area. There are areas of Harlem that are rough, but there are areas of Chelsea, the West Villiage, the East Village etc. that are rough. Harlem just has a bad rap and I wish more people would give it a chance.

Just FYI, 168 Street is Washington Heights not Harlem.




I understand 168th is washington heights no difference really and it isn't prodominately African american .. so i am not sure where you are getting that from, the movies ??? give it a chance ok I will when I see changes not (race trust me I have multiple nationalities in my family as well as soon to be in laws) but changes There is no way in Heck most of US will walk down the street at 3 AM ..I would love to see it, just like I wouldn't walk down parts of queens by myself at 3am I am not gpoing to be there either,

Posted 7/10/06 12:47 PM
 
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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

Well, the ethnic makeup of washington heights is different than that of harlem.

Posted 7/10/06 12:48 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

Posted by Lolita4Life

people yell things EVERYWHERE though! ive NEVER been to ONE place in my whole life where ppl didnt say/yell thigns to girls.



I go out all the time and dont have obsenities yelled at meChat Icon

ETA- Im not singling one place over another- but if I dont feel safe... I dont feel safeChat Icon

Message edited 7/10/2006 12:50:52 PM.

Posted 7/10/06 12:50 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

Posted by Lolita4Life

people yell things EVERYWHERE though! ive NEVER been to ONE place in my whole life where ppl didnt say/yell thigns to girls.



Amen to that!!!!!


When I lived in Harlem there was a group of older gentlemen that sat in their lawn chairs on the street. Everytime I would walk by them to go to the train they would tell me how lovely I looked. Not in a sleazy way, just "You sure look pretty miss." Much better then when I would get off the train in the theatre district and hear what great t!ts I have!!!!

Posted 7/10/06 12:50 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

Posted by Lolita4Life

people yell things EVERYWHERE though! ive NEVER been to ONE place in my whole life where ppl didnt say/yell thigns to girls.



It had nothing to do with me being a girl and yes I know IT's everywhere I am not an idiot Jes. Why are we bashing this girl because she is afraid, I mean people are afraid of a lot of things.. do we bash them no.. so why this because there is a possible factor that it could be because of race .. it has been her experience there who are we to judge?

Posted 7/10/06 12:50 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

Posted by JenniferEver

Well, the ethnic makeup of washington heights is different than that of harlem.




HARLEM tooo There is spanish Harlem No ????

Posted 7/10/06 12:51 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

Posted by Princessmaris

Posted by Lolita4Life

people yell things EVERYWHERE though! ive NEVER been to ONE place in my whole life where ppl didnt say/yell thigns to girls.



I go out all the time and dont have obsenities yelled at meChat Icon

ETA- Im not singling one place over another- but if I dont feel safe... I dont feel safeChat Icon



really? cuz whwn im visitng on LI i DO!

although its more common in the city due to the fact that LI is full of ppl driving in their cars while the city is mostly everybody walking.

not a day goes by when someone doesnt say something to me.

Posted 7/10/06 12:52 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

Posted by unbelievable

Posted by heidla

Posted by unbelievable

Posted by Lolita4Life

unbelievable.... i neve acted as if LI was stuck up.... but i think SHE is. its as if she thinks she is better ofr living in LI. hence her thread title "LI girl in Harlem???"Chat Icon
eta: you dont think she intended harm... thats fine, when i saw her op i was going to give her some nice advice, then i saw that ppl were tryingt o do just that and she attacked THEM.




and to everyone whos wondering what DebG is talking about, im sure its my comment about getting in her suv and so forth.
not stereotyping LI Deb, just the type of person she comes off as. and many ppl thought it was funny anyway. as they should, it was all in good fun.



Well To be honest the next poster kind of ripped into her thus making her defensive .. but I think Her Saying LI girl meant or was implying she is not street savy why would she be that, it seems she lives a sheletered life but in no way do I think she was speaking about race but more less the crime factor. I have been on 168th street it scared the christ out of me ... it is a little rough .IMO but I wouldn't descriminate going if I had to or my friend lived there. And I have also been on the reverse side there and have been called deragatory racial slurs so I think more a less it's a matter of what you are comfprtable with!




IMO, when discussing being afraid to go to Harlem it is only natural for people to assume that race is part of the issue. It is a fact that Harlem is a prodomianately African American area. Where as it is a rumor that Harlem is the part of the city where gangs roam the streets shooting at people and the homeless crowd the area. There are areas of Harlem that are rough, but there are areas of Chelsea, the West Villiage, the East Village etc. that are rough. Harlem just has a bad rap and I wish more people would give it a chance.

Just FYI, 168 Street is Washington Heights not Harlem.




I understand 168th is washington heights no difference really and it isn't prodominately African american .. so i am not sure where you are getting that from, the movies ??? give it a chance ok I will when I see changes not (race trust me I have multiple nationalities in my family as well as soon to be in laws) but changes There is no way in Heck most of US will walk down the street at 3 AM ..I would love to see it, just like I wouldn't walk down parts of queens by myself at 3am I am not gpoing to be there either,



Well, I am speaking of census reports not what I have seen in the movies. I am also speaking as someone who lived in Harlem. Washington Heights is different in that is is prodominately Dominican in population. How do I know, I live there currently.

Posted 7/10/06 12:52 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

Posted by unbelievable

Posted by JenniferEver

Well, the ethnic makeup of washington heights is different than that of harlem.




HARLEM tooo There is spanish Harlem No ????

spanish harlem is on the east sideChat Icon

Posted 7/10/06 12:52 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

Posted by Lolita4Life

Posted by Princessmaris

Posted by Lolita4Life

people yell things EVERYWHERE though! ive NEVER been to ONE place in my whole life where ppl didnt say/yell thigns to girls.



I go out all the time and dont have obsenities yelled at meChat Icon

ETA- Im not singling one place over another- but if I dont feel safe... I dont feel safeChat Icon



really? cuz whwn im visitng on LI i DO!

although its more common in the city due to the fact that LI is full of ppl driving in their cars while the city is mostly everybody walking.

not a day goes by when someone doesnt say something to me.




It has nothing to do with LI Jess- Ive gone to the city- and not had dirty things yelled at me....

Posted 7/10/06 12:53 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

Posted by unbelievable

Posted by Lolita4Life

people yell things EVERYWHERE though! ive NEVER been to ONE place in my whole life where ppl didnt say/yell thigns to girls.



It had nothing to do with me being a girl and yes I know IT's everywhere I am not an idiot Jes. Why are we bashing this girl because she is afraid, I mean people are afraid of a lot of things.. do we bash them no.. so why this because there is a possible factor that it could be because of race .. it has been her experience there who are we to judge?



first off, that comment was not for you.

second, if im basing her its because of her attitude. although i dont even think im bshing her.

third, oh its just me thats argueing with this girl?

fourth, like i said, i was going to give her some informative advice, but then saw that was already done. and she rejected it and got nasty with them.

Posted 7/10/06 12:54 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

Posted by Lolita4Life

Posted by unbelievable

Posted by JenniferEver

Well, the ethnic makeup of washington heights is different than that of harlem.




HARLEM tooo There is spanish Harlem No ????

spanish harlem is on the east sideChat Icon





YEs but is it not a part .... She never stated exactly where she was going Jes Chat Icon

Posted 7/10/06 12:55 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

Posted by Princessmaris

It has nothing to do with LI Jess- Ive gone to the city- and not had dirty things yelled at me....


well consider yourself EXTREMELY lucky. youre one of the ery fewChat Icon

Posted 7/10/06 12:55 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

Posted by unbelievable

Posted by Lolita4Life

Posted by unbelievable

Posted by JenniferEver

Well, the ethnic makeup of washington heights is different than that of harlem.




HARLEM tooo There is spanish Harlem No ????

spanish harlem is on the east sideChat Icon





YEs but is it not a part .... She never stated exactly where she was going Jes Chat Icon



ummmmmm she said "HARLEM" a few hundred times!

Posted 7/10/06 12:56 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

Posted by Lolita4Life

Posted by unbelievable

Posted by Lolita4Life

people yell things EVERYWHERE though! ive NEVER been to ONE place in my whole life where ppl didnt say/yell thigns to girls.



It had nothing to do with me being a girl and yes I know IT's everywhere I am not an idiot Jes. Why are we bashing this girl because she is afraid, I mean people are afraid of a lot of things.. do we bash them no.. so why this because there is a possible factor that it could be because of race .. it has been her experience there who are we to judge?



first off, that comment was not for you.

second, if im basing her its because of her attitude. although i dont even think im bshing her.

third, oh its just me thats argueing with this girl?

fourth, like i said, i was going to give her some informative advice, but then saw that was already done. and she rejected it and got nasty with them.




NO but you are the one who started A thread LI in BKLYN ... educate the girl don't be Rude.


Her attitude IMO started because of the second poster on that thread.

Posted 7/10/06 12:57 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

And what's the difference if she's afraid of black people or dominicans in wash. heights?
Chat Icon

ps: I like washington heights. my ex's family owns a jewelry store there.

Posted 7/10/06 12:58 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

Posted by unbelievable

Posted by Lolita4Life

Posted by unbelievable

Posted by Lolita4Life

people yell things EVERYWHERE though! ive NEVER been to ONE place in my whole life where ppl didnt say/yell thigns to girls.



It had nothing to do with me being a girl and yes I know IT's everywhere I am not an idiot Jes. Why are we bashing this girl because she is afraid, I mean people are afraid of a lot of things.. do we bash them no.. so why this because there is a possible factor that it could be because of race .. it has been her experience there who are we to judge?



first off, that comment was not for you.

second, if im basing her its because of her attitude. although i dont even think im bshing her.

third, oh its just me thats argueing with this girl?

fourth, like i said, i was going to give her some informative advice, but then saw that was already done. and she rejected it and got nasty with them.




NO but you are the one who started A thread LI in BKLYN ... educate the girl don't be Rude.


Her attitude IMO started because of the second poster on that thread.



She didn't want to be educated.

Posted 7/10/06 12:58 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

Posted by Lolita4Life

Posted by unbelievable

Posted by Lolita4Life

Posted by unbelievable

Posted by JenniferEver

Well, the ethnic makeup of washington heights is different than that of harlem.




HARLEM tooo There is spanish Harlem No ????

spanish harlem is on the east sideChat Icon





YEs but is it not a part .... She never stated exactly where she was going Jes Chat Icon



ummmmmm she said "HARLEM" a few hundred times!



Forget it Jes I meant where exactly in Harlem.

Posted 7/10/06 12:59 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

Posted by JenniferEver

And what's the difference if she's afraid of black people or dominicans in wash. heights?
Chat Icon

ps: I like washington heights. my ex's family owns a jewelry store there.



there is no difference so I am not sure what you mean... Of course you like Washington heights .. you were a part of it or your Boyfriends family was so there is some roots there.

Posted 7/10/06 1:00 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

Posted by JenniferEver

Posted by unbelievable

Posted by Lolita4Life

Posted by unbelievable

Posted by Lolita4Life

people yell things EVERYWHERE though! ive NEVER been to ONE place in my whole life where ppl didnt say/yell thigns to girls.



It had nothing to do with me being a girl and yes I know IT's everywhere I am not an idiot Jes. Why are we bashing this girl because she is afraid, I mean people are afraid of a lot of things.. do we bash them no.. so why this because there is a possible factor that it could be because of race .. it has been her experience there who are we to judge?



first off, that comment was not for you.

second, if im basing her its because of her attitude. although i dont even think im bshing her.

third, oh its just me thats argueing with this girl?

fourth, like i said, i was going to give her some informative advice, but then saw that was already done. and she rejected it and got nasty with them.




NO but you are the one who started A thread LI in BKLYN ... educate the girl don't be Rude.


Her attitude IMO started because of the second poster on that thread.



She didn't want to be educated.



we didn't give her a chance.

Posted 7/10/06 1:01 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

Posted by unbelievable

Posted by Lolita4Life

Posted by unbelievable

Posted by Lolita4Life

Posted by unbelievable

Posted by JenniferEver

Well, the ethnic makeup of washington heights is different than that of harlem.




HARLEM tooo There is spanish Harlem No ????

spanish harlem is on the east sideChat Icon





YEs but is it not a part .... She never stated exactly where she was going Jes Chat Icon



ummmmmm she said "HARLEM" a few hundred times!



Forget it Jes I meant where exactly in Harlem.




Chat Icon True. For those of us that live in the city it is very definate where what area ends and another begins, but if don't live in NYC I think it all just gets jumbled together.

Posted 7/10/06 1:01 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

I think some people are missing the point as I had stated earlier and unbelievable keeps bringing up. This OP was not as bad as you think. The second person is EXACTLY what started the controversy followed by other people attacking her based on the first persons response. Lolita, I think it would have been great for you to nicely educate her however your strategy might have been. I think thats what she was looking for more or less. I think some of her wording was indeed off but her nastiness stemmed from poster #2.

Posted 7/10/06 1:04 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

Posted by unbelievable

Posted by JenniferEver

And what's the difference if she's afraid of black people or dominicans in wash. heights?
Chat Icon

ps: I like washington heights. my ex's family owns a jewelry store there.



there is no difference so I am not sure what you mean... Of course you like Washington heights .. you were a part of it or your Boyfriends family was so there is some roots there.



I'm just saying, it doesn't matter where exactly she was going in harlem. The attitude is the same. Also, I don't think she even knew. It didn't seem like she knew harlem well enough to even know what the area was like where she was going. She seemed to just have a vague idea of what "HARLEM" looks like. Also, we were saying wash heights v harlem, so I said what difference does it make, where it is, it's the attitude.

Posted 7/10/06 1:06 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

Folks...I think you're honestly wasting your breath, finger-typing energy, and sentiments on this person....and through this thread...

It's only causing hostility among people here...and goes back to what I said earlier in this post....she probably did it to get an edge out of folks and start drama.

Race (and that's what I'm seeing through her post) is a huge topic up for debate, along with Politics, and Religion....people do their best to stay clear of those topics b/c they tend to get heated...this girl/poster probably had that intenion!

Soooo...let's hug it out b!tch! LOL

Posted 7/10/06 1:07 PM
 

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Re: So I See the Reason Not Too Many Post ON LIW Anymore....

Posted by JenniferEver

Posted by unbelievable

Posted by JenniferEver

And what's the difference if she's afraid of black people or dominicans in wash. heights?
Chat Icon

ps: I like washington heights. my ex's family owns a jewelry store there.



there is no difference so I am not sure what you mean... Of course you like Washington heights .. you were a part of it or your Boyfriends family was so there is some roots there.



I'm just saying, it doesn't matter where exactly she was going in harlem. The attitude is the same. Also, I don't think she even knew. It didn't seem like she knew harlem well enough to even know what the area was like where she was going. She seemed to just have a vague idea of what "HARLEM" looks like. Also, we were saying wash heights v harlem, so I said what difference does it make, where it is, it's the attitude.



Well from what I read she already was there before hence her apprehension of going again Chat Icon

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