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ggt08
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
I went to both catholic and public school before I made the decision to go to an all girls school. It was my choice and I had a great time there. The boys school was across the street so I got plenty of "socialization" there!!!
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AJsMommy122
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
When the time to choose a high School comes around I think my child will be old enough and capable of making his own decisions on where HE would like to go.
Personally It doesn't matter to me either way.
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Christine
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
I wouldn't rule out an all girl/boy school because of that reason, it would really depend on the academic program of the school.
It was important to my parents that we go to an all girl school in Manhattan. Their reasoning was that we would meet people from all over the city and we would also be exposed to what the city has to offer -- ballet, theater, museums, etc. The all girl thing was so that we didn't get caught up with boys and paid more attention to the teachers.
At the time I probably didn't give it much thought since most of the people I knew went to all girl or all boy high schools.
In retrospect, I am sort of glad I did. I was one of those introverted super quiet self consious kids that struggled with interacting on any level in school and I now feel that I would have been even worse if there were boys in the class too.
You are not isolated from the opposite sex by spending a few hours a day outside of their company. While I was in HS, I worked and had friends and went to dances and had dates etc. Sure, it was a little different when I started college but it's not as if I needed an adjustment period to get used to interact with them or anything.
Sorry this turned into a book. 
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BigB
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
When one speaks of socialization, take a good look at classrooms today. Co-ed classrooms during the day as well as at recess and lunch are gender oriented. Very few children interact with children of a different gender. My nephews for example wouldn't even consider playing with girls. They think they are cute, but that is it. They certainly don't want to wrestle with them (well, not yet at least!)
So, same sex education is not so far off the beaten path.
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MrsJ
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
I would - as long as I could afford it!
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Sassyz75
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
I would send my child to a all girl/all boy school if it was a GREAT school.
I'm adverse to private school as it is.
I would only send my daughter to an all girl school if it was an empowerment thing- it allows girls to compete in subjects that they traditionally feel they have to take a back-seat to boys in- like math/science.... However- if it's an all-girl school b/c of the sexual element- then no way!
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MsMBV
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
no, but if they wanted to go to an all girls/boys school, then that is fine.
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nov04libride
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Posted by neeniebean86
I think that these are the Exact reasons why single sex schools are beneficial. I dont mean this as a personal attack, so please dont take it that way, but what your argument here is saying to me is that Women are going to be repressed and undervalued when they enter the workforce, and so they should learn that lesson early on in life. I think that being in an all Female school allowed my intelligence to flourish without reservation of what guys might think.
I don't mean that girls should accept and deal with men being superior, I mean that they should learn to prove themselves at a very young age. I do feel that it is an uphill battle for women...Not to say that we should stop trying, but that we must work harder to prove ourselves. Being voted as President or #1 athlete in a school with no boys just wouldn't hold the same status to me as in a co-ed school.
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Posted by BigB
When one speaks of socialization, take a good look at classrooms today. Co-ed classrooms during the day as well as at recess and lunch are gender oriented. Very few children interact with children of a different gender. My nephews for example wouldn't even consider playing with girls. They think they are cute, but that is it. They certainly don't want to wrestle with them (well, not yet at least!)
So, same sex education is not so far off the beaten path.
What grade are you talking about? I know that I had best guy friends in grades K-3, then again in 7-12. It fell off a bit in 3-6 when we hit puberty and I got boobs.
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Janice
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Weird tidbit-I remember watching The View one morning, and they had the women from Stepford wives on, they were asking who went to an all girl school...
all girls school-Meredith, Barbara, Elizabeth, Joy, Glenn Close, Nicole Kidman
attended co-ed-Star Jones and Faith Hill.
It was always weird to me that how out of 8 successful women, 6 attended all girls. Maybe just a coincidence
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Palebride
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Posted by BigB
When one speaks of socialization, take a good look at classrooms today. Co-ed classrooms during the day as well as at recess and lunch are gender oriented. Very few children interact with children of a different gender. My nephews for example wouldn't even consider playing with girls. They think they are cute, but that is it. They certainly don't want to wrestle with them (well, not yet at least!)
So, same sex education is not so far off the beaten path.
Children in elementary schools are far different from adolescents and teenagers in middle and high school.
I teach in a middle school, and the students all interact with each other equally.....and if I notice that they are sticking to the same groups in class - I make sure to have them switch their partners.
I work very hard to break down gender barriers in the classroom - to help the students all feel comfortable with themselves and each other.
To answer the question...I wouldn't send my child to a private school personally. I work in a public school, so I think it might be hypocritical of me to send my children to a private school.
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nov04libride
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Posted by Janice
Weird tidbit-I remember watching The View one morning, and they had the women from Stepford wives on, they were asking who went to an all girl school...
all girls school-Meredith, Barbara, Elizabeth, Joy, Glenn Close, Nicole Kidman
attended co-ed-Star Jones and Faith Hill.
It was always weird to me that how out of 8 successful women, 6 attended all girls. Maybe just a coincidence
Perhaps this also speaks to the wealth and income level of their families growing up...  Lower income families wouldn't have the resources for any type of private school.
ETA: When my mother went to college, many colleges were still all-women, and there were many more all-male colleges. She was offered scholarships to any of the seven sisters but turned them down to go to a SUNY.
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Bri
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
nope
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MrsBumbleb
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
If we have a boy DH would like for him to attend Chaminade like he did. If we have a girl he wants her to attend a private school not necessarily all girls. I have mixed feelings since I have bitter memories from my all girls and private school days.
I also think it depends on the child and the family situation though.
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ggt08
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
I am glad my parents let ME make the decision. out of my 6 siblings, I chose catholic school and the rest chose public...but it was our choice. (this was for HIGH SCHOOL)
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MsMBV
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Posted by kdelace
I am glad my parents let ME make the decision. out of my 6 siblings, I chose catholic school and the rest chose public...but it was our choice. (this was for HIGH SCHOOL)
I would definitely let a child make the choice. It was not for me, expecially since I was not friendly with girls (I was always more friendly with guys).
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Posted by nov04libride
I don't mean that girls should accept and deal with men being superior, I mean that they should learn to prove themselves at a very young age. I do feel that it is an uphill battle for women...Not to say that we should stop trying, but that we must work harder to prove ourselves. Being voted as President or #1 athlete in a school with no boys just wouldn't hold the same status to me as in a co-ed school.
It held the same status to me- there was still competition, and just b/c it wasnt from the 'male' end- didnt mean it wasn't just as strong or that it was less competitive. that sounds pretty self defeating to say that any sort of victory is without value if it is without male influence?
And i also believe that its quite idealistic to say HS women need to learn to prove themselves at a young age. Yes, looking at it from the perspective of someone in their mid 20s, that seems logical, but how many 14 year olds do you know that sit around thinking about how Prove themselves in class Vs. how they can get a boy that they hae a crush on to like them?
Posted by nov04libride
Perhaps this also speaks to the wealth and income level of their families growing up... Lower income families wouldn't have the resources for any type of private school.
not always true. we were Poor growing up.. and i dont mean 'i didnt get a car at 16', but more like 'we're having mac and cheese for dinner again for the 12th night in a row' kind of poor- but its something that was important to my parents, and they sacrificed in every way humanly possible to make it happen- b/c it was That important to them.
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ggt08
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
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Posted by kdelace
I am glad my parents let ME make the decision. out of my 6 siblings, I chose catholic school and the rest chose public...but it was our choice. (this was for HIGH SCHOOL)
I would definitely let a child make the choice. It was not for me, expecially since I was not friendly with girls (I was always more friendly with guys).
I was also more friendly with guys than with girls... At the time,I still made the choice though to go and I had a great time!! If I had to do it all over again, I am not so sure since I not religious...
eta.. It had NOTHING o do with status or wealth in my family.... I am by far rich and my father worked extra hours etc. just so I could go to the school I wanted....
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nov04libride
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Posted by neeniebean86
Posted by nov04libride
I don't mean that girls should accept and deal with men being superior, I mean that they should learn to prove themselves at a very young age. I do feel that it is an uphill battle for women...Not to say that we should stop trying, but that we must work harder to prove ourselves. Being voted as President or #1 athlete in a school with no boys just wouldn't hold the same status to me as in a co-ed school.
It held the same status to me- there was still competition, and just b/c it wasnt from the 'male' end- didnt mean it wasn't just as strong or that it was less competitive. that sounds pretty self defeating to say that any sort of victory is without value if it is without male influence?
And i also believe that its quite idealistic to say HS women need to learn to prove themselves at a young age. Yes, looking at it from the perspective of someone in their mid 20s, that seems logical, but how many 14 year olds do you know that sit around thinking about how Prove themselves in class Vs. how they can get a boy that they hae a crush on to like them?
Posted by nov04libride
Perhaps this also speaks to the wealth and income level of their families growing up... Lower income families wouldn't have the resources for any type of private school.
not always true. we were Poor growing up.. and i dont mean 'i didnt get a car at 16', but more like 'we're having mac and cheese for dinner again for the 12th night in a row' kind of poor- but its something that was important to my parents, and they sacrificed in every way humanly possible to make it happen- b/c it was That important to them.
OK then, maybe these women are successful because their parents always encouraged them academically and made sacrifices to finance their education. I know many of the parochial schools here are much cheaper than I would think, so it's not like you have to be wealthy, but many families would not make it a priority. I would never send my kids to parochial but that's for different reasons all together.
There are many very exclusive, very expensive all-girls schools in the city I had many friends go to.
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nov04libride
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Posted by kdelace
I am glad my parents let ME make the decision. out of my 6 siblings, I chose catholic school and the rest chose public...but it was our choice. (this was for HIGH SCHOOL)
What made you choose catholic at that age?
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Posted by marymoon
I wouldn't, unless it was a special case. If my son got into Regis, I totally wouldn't say no. A god private eeducation for free? heck yes! Or if my children had a school they really wanted to go to, I'd warn them against it, but I'm not going to say no if that's what they really want. I think a lot of people who go to same gender schools have a lot of problems communicating with the opposite gender. Thee are people who are totaly shy around the opposite sex to the point where it's debilitating (I once got replaced as a tutor because the student, who went to an al boys school was too nervous around me), and then there are peope who just don't know how to act, like guys who went to all boys schools and don't know when to quit it with burp and fart jokes, or don't know how to communicate outside of "guyspeak."
In general though, I think the more vvariety a child is exposed to in terms of race, religions, gender, etc, the more well rounded and empathic he's likely to be. I just think that diversity
is always a good thing
Interesting theory.
My husband went to an all boys Catholic High school. I have severral other friends that went to the same school & their personalities are all different. None of them fall into either of the 2 categories you described.
Also, I think he was exposed to more diversity than I was, b/c he went to a school, where people sent there kids from various parts of Westchester & the Bronx & there were children of different races & economic backgrounds.
I went to public school in a relatively small town, where most of the students came from similar backgrounds.
I don't think that one is neccessarily better than the other just because it is single sex or co-ed. In his case, it was the best option, b/c his local HS is awful & there aren't many co-ed Catholic High schools in Westchester.
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Posted by nov04libride
Posted by kdelace
I am glad my parents let ME make the decision. out of my 6 siblings, I chose catholic school and the rest chose public...but it was our choice. (this was for HIGH SCHOOL)
What made you choose catholic at that age?
I experienced both public and catholic school before going to high school and I liked parochial school better. I looked into a lot of catholic high schools as well as the public school I would have went to..
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karacg
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
I went to an all-girls high school. It had its pros and contras.
My sister, while researching colleges for her daughter, found that the vast majority of women with responsible (high-profile) positions had graduated from all-girls colleges, such as Smith, Mt. Holyoke, Mills, etc.
Just something to think about....
(PS - My niece wound up going to a small engineering school that offered full scholarship, and it's co-ed).
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nov04libride
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Posted by karacg
I went to an all-girls high school. It had its pros and contras.
My sister, while researching colleges for her daughter, found that the vast majority of women with responsible (high-profile) positions had graduated from all-girls colleges, such as Smith, Mt. Holyoke, Mills, etc.
Well, I don't agree, but I guess it depends on what field of women you are studying.
But, if you are looking at women who are successful and have made a mark on history, you are looking at an older age group--the 45-to 75 year old women, and they did not have the opportunities to attend the level schools that women now do. As I said, when my mom graduated college in '65 many of the best women went to the seven sisters--now those same women might opt to go to Harvard, Yale, schools that back then did not accept many women. The most successful 20- and 30-something women I know and who are in the news did not go to all women's colleges, and that is really the group you should look to when deciding what is best for someone entering college in this decade.
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Re: Would you send your son or daughter to an all-girls or all-boys school
Posted by marymoon
There are people who are totaly shy around the opposite sex to the point where it's debilitating (I once got replaced as a tutor because the student, who went to an al boys school was too nervous around me), and then there are peope who just don't know how to act, like guys who went to all boys schools and don't know when to quit it with burp and fart jokes, or don't know how to communicate outside of "guyspeak."
I mean, do you HONESTLY believe that that has to do with going to a same sex school?? 
b/c if so, then my DH, his friends, all my guy friends, male family members and all their guy friends were clearly absent on that day when their co-ed school taught them about proper etiquette and "co-ed speak" I see absolutely NO correlation between going to a same sex school and refraining from conversations pertaining to/and the action of Flatulation.
I also cannot fathom how going to a same sex school is socially debilitating. maybe some people have social issues in general, but to tie that into the theory that it was b/c they went to a same sex school is utterly ridiculous. Thats like saying that i dont know how to talk to jewish people because i went to a catcholic school.
Posted by marymoon
In general though, I think the more vvariety a child is exposed to in terms of race, religions, gender, etc, the more well rounded and empathic he's likely to be. I just think that diversity is always a good thing
yes... in THEORY, thats great. But, how many schools Truly offer "diversity". look at the home board, people choosing areas by school district- b/c they want their kids to go to a great school. And then, look at the demographics of those "desireable" schools. You're not going to find much diversity there. Does that mean that people who live in the North Shore school district should try to ship their kids into the city, so that they could go to a diversified school? b/c otherwise, they wont be well rounded?
theres a big difference between people's theories and the reality, and to make random generalizations with no real working knowledge of it, just seems very far fetched IMO
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