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beautyq115
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Re: What would make you get a divorce? -Aliasmom's post
Definetely any form of abuse...and cheating
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Posted 4/11/06 9:21 PM |
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Bri
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Re: What would make you get a divorce? -Aliasmom's post
Posted by KristenNYC
cheating=kissing, sex, and any sexual behavior that disrespects his pledge of love to me. He cheats, he's out.
This is how I feel, however I also know that if this ever happened I might think/act differently at that point in time . . .
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Posted 4/11/06 9:24 PM |
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PiyoPika566
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Re: What would make you get a divorce? -Aliasmom's post
trust is a huge issue with me, so personally if the trust is gone, the relationship is gone.....
I consider the following cheating physically = kissing on the lips, touching inappropriately, and obviously sex... also I would not tolerate emotional cheating either.
It's really hard to say anything for certain without being in the situation (which I hope I will NEVER be in).. but I know it would be pretty hard for me to trust my mate again, after any of the above happened.
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Posted 4/11/06 9:28 PM |
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adviceplease
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Re: What would make you get a divorce? -Aliasmom's post
Posted by KristenNYC
I completely disagree.
DM, I love ya, but I am not in the same boat of thinking as you.
If my husband were to cheat on me, that would mean that he has ZERO respect for me. A man can control his actions.
I believe in my husband 200%, but if he ever did, I would have to accept that my trust in him was false, and he dosent deserve to be trusted.
Im going to be very graphic here. If your husband cheats on you, is banging some girl, and he dosent give a flying &^&&^ at the time, he obviously dosent give a flying you know what about your marriage, or YOU for that matter.
I think most of us agree that sex with someone is considered cheating. If my husband had sex with someone, I could honestly say that it would be the end for me. I think many of the women here are responding to something other than sex.
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Posted 4/11/06 10:07 PM |
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kms717
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Re: What would make you get a divorce? -Aliasmom's post
Romantic or sexual involvement with anyone other than me. Once that trust is betrayed it is very hard to recover especially if it was an ongoing thing. I'm not an advicate of divorce, I came for a broken family and although I think I turned out fine, I always longed to have my parents together. To this day I still wonder how things could have been. If you are both willing to save your marriage it is possible, but it will take a lot of work and forgiveness.
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Posted 4/11/06 11:50 PM |
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itsbabytime
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Re: What would make you get a divorce? -Aliasmom's post
Since DH and I have been together for a long time, first, it would make a difference to me whether the "cheating" took place before or after our marriage. To me, after vows makes a huge difference.
I consider cheating to encompass a broad range of things from any kind of physical contact (kissing included), any kind of attempted physcial contact to, what I've seen on these boards lately...communicating inappropriately with people on myspace etc.
That said...what would make me leave for sure...
*** SEX (in any form whatsoever) since we have been married.
*** physical AND emotional "relationship" with another woman at any point in our relationship together that continued over a period of time.
AND, finally, if he did something I considered cheating, i forgave him for it (i.e. not one of the two above) AND, he did it AGAIN...I don't care if it was the Myspace thing...he would be OUT! For me, if u don't learn your lesson after seeing the hurt something causes....its not a mistake...its a pattern of behavior.
GOOD LUCK TO YOU
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Posted 4/12/06 8:41 AM |
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sirmay
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Name: william
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Re: What would make you get a divorce? -Aliasmom's post
Message edited 10/14/2007 5:57:25 AM.
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Posted 10/14/07 5:35 AM |
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