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Jesaroo
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Need Opinions QUICK!
hey guys. im dropping off my resignation letter in a minute, just wanted to get opinions before i do. thanks.
Dear Rose,
I regret to inform you that I will no longer be working for Red Pearl. I am truly sorry, it is just not working out.
I tried to stay on as to be helpful through the holiday season, but you can only see it as me abandoning you. It is just very stressful everyday to be reminded that I took another job. Taking on another one was not to hurt you, it was a better opportunity for me and I am sorry you can’t see that. I’m just tired of coming home upset all the time. I am sure you are unaware of how little jabs you say can actually be really hurtful.
I absolutely loved working at the shop but it seems in the long run it just won’t be. I want to thank you very much for the opportunity to work for you. I truly appreciate it and I wish for the best for Red Pearl.
All the Best,
Jes
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skygirl
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Re: Need Opinions QUICK!
I think its very well written and appropriate.
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| Posted 12/3/05 7:49 PM |
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neenie
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Posted by Lolita4Life
hey guys. im dropping off my resignation letter in a minute, just wanted to get opinions before i do. thanks.
Dear Rose,
I regret to inform you that I will no longer be working for Red Pearl. I am truly sorry, it is just not working out.
I tried to stay on as to be helpful through the holiday season, but you can only see it as me abandoning you. It is just very stressful everyday to be reminded that I took another job. Taking on another one was not to hurt you, it was a better opportunity for me and I am sorry you can’t see that. I’m just tired of coming home upset all the time. I am sure you are unaware of how little jabs you say can actually be really hurtful.
I absolutely loved working at the shop but it seems in the long run it just won’t be. I want to thank you very much for the opportunity to work for you. I truly appreciate it and I wish for the best for Red Pearl.
All the Best,
Jes
it depends on which route you want to go.
if you have to see this woman all the time, since the store is right by you, and it would make things uncomfortable. then i would take out alot of it, and make it more professional and objective.
but, if you want to get your point across to her that shes miserable and was making you miserable- then i think it gets the job done.
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| Posted 12/3/05 7:50 PM |
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Shelly
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Overall, its very good. I would just cut out the middle part. I don't think you have to give her an explanation or to discuss your critcisms of her. It serves no purpose. If it were me, I would not want any personality conflicts documented on paper.
Dear Rose,
I regret to inform you that I will no longer be working for Red Pearl. I am truly sorry, it is just not working out.
I absolutely loved working at the shop but it seems in the long run it just won’t be. I want to thank you very much for the opportunity to work for you. I truly appreciate it and I wish for the best for Red Pearl.
All the Best,
Jes
Just that would be perfect.
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| Posted 12/3/05 7:51 PM |
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neenie
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Posted by Shellyesq
Overall, its very good. I would just cut out the middle part. I don't think you have to give her an explanation or to discuss your critcisms of her. It serves no purpose. If it were me, I would not want any personality conflicts documented on paper.
Dear Rose,
I regret to inform you that I will no longer be working for Red Pearl. I am truly sorry, it is just not working out.
I absolutely loved working at the shop but it seems in the long run it just won’t be. I want to thank you very much for the opportunity to work for you. I truly appreciate it and I wish for the best for Red Pearl.
All the Best,
Jes
Just that would be perfect.
thats what i was trying to say (you said it better, shelly) 
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| Posted 12/3/05 7:52 PM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Need Opinions QUICK!
I would take out the entire 2nd paragraph. It's not necessary to include what went wrong and it's a little too personal. Keep it short, sweet and professional.
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| Posted 12/3/05 7:52 PM |
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Jesaroo
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Re: Need Opinions QUICK!
well, i figure whether i sugarcoat it or not she will still be a witch to me, so i WANT her to know what a beeeotch she is.
thats my most dreaded thing: seeing her..
but honestly, i know what hours she usually works and i dont think ill really ever be running into her. i can work around it.
but yeah, of course thats the major sukky thing.
eta: but the 2nd paragraph explains my reasons for leaving
Message edited 12/3/2005 7:53:58 PM.
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| Posted 12/3/05 7:52 PM |
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Jesaroo
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Re: Need Opinions QUICK!
maybe i will make two copies. one with all of it, one missing paragraph 2 and see what my coworker thinks i should leave her.
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| Posted 12/3/05 7:54 PM |
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neenie
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you dont have to sugar coat it- and you also dont have to give her a reason- just Notice. thats all.
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| Posted 12/3/05 7:55 PM |
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skygirl
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I think that its was appropriate because this woman made her feel so awful an it probably made ( Lolita)her feel good writing expressing it to her.
ETA- I guess you DON'T owe your boss the expanation but I sympathize with how crappy she made you feel
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| Posted 12/3/05 7:55 PM |
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BabyAvocado
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You don't have to give a reason. If you want to, you can SAY those things to her but hand her the simplified letter. Like Shelley said, you don't want those types of conflicts documented on paper.
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| Posted 12/3/05 7:56 PM |
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Shelly
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Posted by Lolita4Life
well, i figure whether i sugarcoat it or not she will still be a witch to me, so i WANT her to know what a beeeotch she is.
thats my most dreaded thing: seeing her..
but honestly, i know what hours she usually works and i dont think ill really ever be running into her. i can work around it.
but yeah, of course thats the major sukky thing.
eta: but the 2nd paragraph explains my reasons for leaving
It doesn't matter why you're leaving. You're leaving. If she asks you why- you can always tell her. If she agreed to be nicer would you stay? would you believe her?? I think it is just a jab that makes you feel better.
Trust me, you never know when your paths will cross again in life. YOu may apply for a job 5 years down the line and there she is. I left a job and never thought it would come back again, but a few years later someone asked me to get a reference from them. I just believe its better to never burn your bridges. JMO.
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| Posted 12/3/05 7:56 PM |
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Jesaroo
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Re: Need Opinions QUICK!
well, to be honest this woman is just evil. she has made me cry wayyyyyyy too much over the 2 years i have worked for her. i feel like she deserves it. NO ONE tells her the way she truly is. i feel like this is the perfect opportunity. not being too mean of courrse (with her, i could be much worse) but maybe it will open her eyes up to see that she took me for granted.
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| Posted 12/3/05 7:57 PM |
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neenie
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Posted by Shellyesq
I just believe its better to never burn your bridges. JMO.
exactly. it might bring momentary satisfaction- but its not worth the chance of it coming back to bite you in the azz, IMO.
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| Posted 12/3/05 7:57 PM |
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Jesaroo
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Re: Need Opinions QUICK!
i agree, i wish i had a way not to burn the bridge, but i know its not an option with her.
maybe i will just bring two versions and let the girl i know working pick it out!
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| Posted 12/3/05 7:58 PM |
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neenie
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Posted by Lolita4Life
well, to be honest this woman is just evil. she has made me cry wayyyyyyy too much over the 2 years i have worked for her. i feel like she deserves it. NO ONE tells her the way she truly is. i feel like this is the perfect opportunity. not being too mean of courrse (with her, i could be much worse) but maybe it will open her eyes up to see that she took me for granted.
thats how my supervisor at my old job was. just straight up MEAN in every way possible. But, i did a good job there, and if i ever had to give them as a reference, i knew that all they could say was that i was a great worker (and i actually DID have to put them down for this job that i'm at now). I know you want to Make a difference- but people like that dont Change, and unfortunately, Youre not going to be the one to enlighten her 
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| Posted 12/3/05 7:59 PM |
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Shelly
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Re: Need Opinions QUICK!
Posted by Lolita4Life
well, to be honest this woman is just evil. she has made me cry wayyyyyyy too much over the 2 years i have worked for her. i feel like she deserves it. NO ONE tells her the way she truly is. i feel like this is the perfect opportunity. not being too mean of courrse (with her, i could be much worse) but maybe it will open her eyes up to see that she took me for granted.
I know how that feels... trust me. But like I said you never know when it could come back and bite you in the azz. Buts its up to you. Unfortunately in business, sometimes you just have to take some sh#it. If you really want to tell her how you feel, do it orally- not in writing. That can really haunt you. If anyone calls her for a reference, she can send it to them...
ETS: I have worked in employment law and things get sent around that you would never think!! It really could come back to haunt you. If she keeps a file on you- it will always be there. Think in the long wrong- what if you have a conflict with a future employer- Do you really want that letter floating around? It could be used against you.
But of course, in the end, its your decision.
Message edited 12/3/2005 8:02:23 PM.
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mishy
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Re: Need Opinions QUICK!
Good luck with everything.....
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| Posted 12/3/05 8:01 PM |
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Jesaroo
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Jes
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Re: Need Opinions QUICK!
well i would give another girls name for a reference there. not her.
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| Posted 12/3/05 8:02 PM |
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Shelly
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Posted by Lolita4Life
well i would give another girls name for a reference there. not her.
What if they don't ask for a reference by name but by title? Or if the other girl is out. She could end up on the phone. You never know...
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| Posted 12/3/05 8:03 PM |
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Jesaroo
is not the girl you knew
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Jes
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Re: Need Opinions QUICK!
ok, ill get this other girls opinion since she knows rose.
my mom thinks i should leave it in b/c MAYBE she will 2nd guess herself....
and it true that no matter which letter i leave she will still have the same reaction.
everyone who knows her thinks i hsould leave the full one! lol
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| Posted 12/3/05 8:03 PM |
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Tany
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Jess, I think you should keep it simple and to the point.
I know it was horrible working for her, but this is still a business matter.
I agree with the other girls.
but yet again it's your choice.
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| Posted 12/3/05 8:04 PM |
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Jesaroo
is not the girl you knew
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Jes
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Re: Need Opinions QUICK!
Posted by Shellyesq
Posted by Lolita4Life
well i would give another girls name for a reference there. not her.
What if they don't ask for a reference by name but by title? Or if the other girl is out. She could end up on the phone. You never know...
true, true, but to be honest before we were "red pearl", we were "metaphors"... whihc has since closed! i could just use metaphors then. or something.
i dont know, i dont see me needing her as a refernce though.
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| Posted 12/3/05 8:05 PM |
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Jesaroo
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Jes
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Re: Need Opinions QUICK!
ok, well you ladies certainly gave me something to think about.
thanks for your opinions ladies!!!!!!!!!
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| Posted 12/3/05 8:05 PM |
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neenie
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Posted by Lolita4Life
ok, ill get this other girls opinion since she knows rose.
my mom thinks i should leave it in b/c MAYBE she will 2nd guess herself....
and it true that no matter which letter i leave she will still have the same reaction.
everyone who knows her thinks i hsould leave the full one! lol
you could still *tell* her how you feel- i just agree with Shelly- that you should never have that kind of stuff in writing.
good luck with whichever you decide
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