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MrsSpring
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
Posted by maybebaby
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wow its not even that bad.
i know theres kids who prob would need it more than her esp since she got it for free.
i actually think she looks better with the old ears.
In fairness, the ears don't look exactly like they will right after surgery. My sisters looked weird and almost TOO flat and unnatural. They pin they back more severely because with time, they loosen up a bit...in a few months they will be perfect!
true and i think her hairs really messy and that threw me off too
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
Posted by mrsboss
I remember 2 friends getting their ears pinned back in the 1980's.
I started the orthodontist when I was 8. Oral surgery and braces by 9-10. Was my mom being vain? Why do parents pay for braces? They dont want their kids to have a snaggletooth smile. And they dont want their kids to have ears that look like open car doors.
This is not a big deal at all.
I think braces are a different story, there is actually a health benefit to having teeth aligned and not pushing against each other
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| Posted 4/15/11 11:08 AM |
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Bearcat
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
i don't see a problem with it. kids are cruel to other kids who look even slightly different.
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| Posted 4/15/11 11:16 AM |
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JessInCA
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
I get why they did it, but 7 is SO young for a voluntary, non-medically-necessary surgery... I don't know if I would've made the same choice if it were my kid.
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| Posted 4/15/11 11:41 AM |
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
Posted by Annie91606
Watching this brought tears to my eyes.
I was born with a malformed ear (much worse than hers). I had SIX surgeries as a child to try and fix it, starting when I was only 3 years old.
I was teased as a kid because of my ear. But the worst memories of my childhood that haunt me to this day? Those f#$% operations.
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| Posted 4/15/11 11:51 AM |
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Otherme
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
Posted by rojerono
I get how hard it is being a kid. I get that kids can be real JERKS. When Robbie first got his glasses he was teased. But you know my proudest moment? He didn't care. He has centered enough and sure enough of himself that he didn't put more stock in the words of his peers than in how he felt about himself. Noah gets teased A LOT because he is small. They call him Tiny, they call him Squirt. He gets annoyed.. but he doesn't take it to heart. He gets that he's worth more than the height from the tip of his head to his toes. And you know what? I take some of that credit because I have told these kids over and over and over that what you see is NOT the whole story. That they are loved, they are valued, they are smart, they are beautiful.
I just feel like that little girl - whose ears were NOT that bad - doesn't think that what she looks like defines her self worth becuase of this. Because what happens when they tease her about her freckles? Do they bleach her skin? What if she needs glasses? Do they give her Lasik? What if her boobs are smaller than her friends when she's older - do they buy her a new pair? Where do you draw the line with this lesson? When is it enough to say "You know what - it doesn't matter what ANYONE thinks.. I know I'm beautiful"
And again - in that video she did not seem to be the one who initiated the conversation about getting the surgery. She didn't seem remotely bothered by her ears. She said she wasn't really teased. Her mother did it to PREVENT teasing in the future. It's just.. to me.. the wrong message. BUT - not my kid. I just hope that the girl doesn't wind up with an obsession with physical perfection that leads to her teasing someone else for bad teeth, big ears or whatnot.
Thank you.. as usual you say things much more eloquently and better than i end up doing! I wholeheartedly agree with both your posts on this
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| Posted 4/15/11 12:02 PM |
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caps612
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
I don't see anything wrong with the situation. Why should she have to be uncomfortable with herself, self conscious, etc. if SHE really wanted it, I don't see the any problem.
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| Posted 4/15/11 12:02 PM |
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maybebaby
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
OK-just watched the video (i didn't get a chance to before)..and I have to say...I think the girl should have been older and really asked for the surgery.
She really didn't seem to care or feel that it bothered her much...this was def. more of the mothers doing.
I don't think the ear pinning surgery is a HUGE deal BUT..it is still surgery, and i remember my sister being in a LOT of pain when it was over and she was 13!!
I wouldn't have done it for my 7 year old. If the child came to me and asked i would contemplate it, but they would be a bit older.
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| Posted 4/15/11 12:05 PM |
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ChrisDee
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
It may be sad but it is reality and I would do it for my kid in a heartbeat if she was being teased or having self esteem issues. What she has is a birth defect, not a big nose.
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| Posted 4/15/11 12:07 PM |
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browneyes
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
Posted by fight the future
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I watched the video and kept waiting for them to show the little girl saying how she was bullied, but they never did. It was all the mom's POV and how she wanted to 'prevent' her daughter from potentially being bullied in the future.
IMO its not something i'd do to a 7 year old - i don't know why she couldn't have helped her daughter love herself for who she is, instead of teaching her that she was somehow imperfect and needed to be fixed.
She had a really cute face, and her ears weren't that bad, especially when her hair covered them. It just seemed to be a rather extreme fix for something that didn't seem to be a big issue in the first place.
I'm sorry but...
I know this isn't exactly what you said but -- there's no way this mother put her kid through surgery.. PAID FOR SURGERY ... for her own desires.
That kid had wonky ears. Everyone saying 'oh they're not that bad.' -- Well try them on for yourselves.
Kids are AWFUL. And her ears not only stick out but the one is folded over.
You don't think she was teased? You think her mom is making it up? No f-ing way.
i disagree im sorry but from the way the video showed it looked like it was the mother who wanted the surgery. The little girl said that she was not being bulied or made fun of. Her mother seems like it was important to her to get it done b.c she was not happy with the way her dd looked. however the dd seemed like she realy didnt care.
I agree if a child is truly unhappy or being bullied then yes if you can fix it then you should but that dosnt seem like the case here, this little girl seemd happy. Maybe when she gets a little older then it should be done, But 7 realy??
Also the mother didnt pay for the surgery it was FREE> There are other childern out there with much worse facial problems that could of used that. But thats just my opinion.
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| Posted 4/15/11 12:14 PM |
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peanutbutter2
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
I may be in the minority, but I don't really see anything wrong here. Children are committing suicide due to being bullied. I don't really see a problem with a parent trying to prevent bullying with a relatively small procedure such as this as an issue.
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| Posted 4/15/11 12:14 PM |
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waterspout4
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
Flame me if you want, but we have been looking into getting DS's birthmark removed. He was born with a birthmark on his upper lip, nose, forehead and all the way down the back of his head. We waited a few years to see how much it faded. And recently it has gotten darker in certain areas. Kids already ask him why his face is red. Adults even have comments.
We have gone to the pediatrician and a new nurse will say "Well obviously you are here for the rash on his face." Each time it was said killed me on the inside. Now he knows it is being said and he asks why he is red and why kids are asking him about it. He is only 3 1/2!!!!!!!!!!!!! How much worse will it get??!?!?
The surgery is cosmetic and the cost is a financial strain, which is the only reason it hasn't been done yet. But I am scared for the future. Kids are sick!
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| Posted 4/15/11 12:30 PM |
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
Posted by waterspout4
Flame me if you want, but we have been looking into getting DS's birthmark removed. He was born with a birthmark on his upper lip, nose, forehead and all the way down the back of his head. We waited a few years to see how much it faded. And recently it has gotten darker in certain areas. Kids already ask him why his face is red. Adults even have comments.
We have gone to the pediatrician and a new nurse will say "Well obviously you are here for the rash on his face." Each time it was said killed me on the inside. Now he knows it is being said and he asks why he is red and why kids are asking him about it. He is only 3 1/2!!!!!!!!!!!!! How much worse will it get??!?!?
The surgery is cosmetic and the cost is a financial strain, which is the only reason it hasn't been done yet. But I am scared for the future. Kids are sick!
 Good luck! My mom has a large cafe au lait spot on most of her face that was much darker when she was a kid and she always hated it and wished it was gone.
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AScottWolf
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
I knew a few people who had this done when they were younger. For some reason I never thought of it as real plastic surgery if someone was just their ears pinned back.
* I can't view the video so I might just be talking out of arse here lol. I don't know exactly what the extent of her surgery was.
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| Posted 4/15/11 12:55 PM |
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Nik211
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
i think she may have grown into her ears if they were left alone....i had big ears and i def grew into mine compared to how they looked when i was younger....mine were just big (and my face was so tiny!) but they weren't cupped like that little girls...there were so many times that i wanted to get my ears pinned back when i was younger and i would beg my Mom to let me have surgery and i would hide my ears with my hair but i am SO SO SO SO SO SO glad i left them alone....ironically i wear my hair up all the time now! and nobody makes fun of my ears (except my DH who knows that i was "all ears" when i was a kid and tries to bust my chops  )
to each their own but i didn't think her ears looked that much better after the surgery....
i'm on the fence about how i feel...if it was my kid that was getting teased i'd probably want the surgery for them too but 7 seems young to me...the only thing that bothered me was the little girls seemed indifferent about her ears kwim?
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| Posted 4/15/11 1:04 PM |
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Goldi0218
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
As someone who was taunted/bullied for most of her childhood for being different and whose parents did very little other than saying "Oh it will come back to haunt them someday...", if my child asked me to fix their ears, I would do it in a heartbeat as long as it did not have an effect on future growth.
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| Posted 4/15/11 1:08 PM |
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isabelle2137
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
I have no issues with it.
If it was my child I would absolutely look into it.
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| Posted 4/15/11 1:11 PM |
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joenick
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
As a mom of 2 boys with "prominent" ears, I cried watching that video.
My boys have never said they were teased about their ears, and I pray they never are.
If ever the time came that they were teased and bullied, I don't know what I would do in that situation.
I love my boys, and their ears. To me, it's THEM. And they themselves have never complained. It's just so sad to think this could be something that they might eventually be teased about.
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| Posted 4/15/11 1:12 PM |
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maybebaby
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
Posted by joenick
As a mom of 2 boys with "prominent" ears, I cried watching that video.
My boys have never said they were teased about their ears, and I pray they never are.
If ever the time came that they were teased and bullied, I don't know what I would do in that situation.
I love my boys, and their ears. To me, it's THEM. And they themselves have never complained. It's just so sad to think this could be something that they might eventually be teased about.
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They are ADORABLE. What gorgeous boys you have!! My boys ears stick out too, just like mine do and the rest of my ENTIRE family (i'm the eldest of 29 cousins on ONE side lol!!) and honestly most of our ears are the same. We all grew into them, and even if they stick out a bit, we don't care.
My one sister had hers fixed cause they were pretty prominent, and she went to school with a bunch of VERY nasty girls. When she wore her hair back for sports, they teased her left and right. Girls can be very nasty, and what is funny is that the girls who teased her were nothing to look at and my sis is stunning! Isn't that the way it always is??
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| Posted 4/15/11 1:19 PM |
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
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juanvi
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
As I was watching I wanted to think it was ok...but I just didn't. I thought she was so cute. I guess My daughter's ears stick out a little and it makes me so sad to think that someone would ever call her Dumbo ears. maybe these mean bully type kids need their ears boxed by their parents.
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| Posted 4/15/11 3:05 PM |
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Jenn627
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
I have no issue with it. A kid I went to elementary school with had it done as well.
I don't see what the big deal is. Ear piercings, braces, etc. It's all cosmetic. I'm surprised this is news - I thought reconstructive ear surgery was pretty common in young children. 
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| Posted 4/15/11 3:13 PM |
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
Posted by fight the future
Posted by Otherme
I watched the video and kept waiting for them to show the little girl saying how she was bullied, but they never did. It was all the mom's POV and how she wanted to 'prevent' her daughter from potentially being bullied in the future.
IMO its not something i'd do to a 7 year old - i don't know why she couldn't have helped her daughter love herself for who she is, instead of teaching her that she was somehow imperfect and needed to be fixed.
She had a really cute face, and her ears weren't that bad, especially when her hair covered them. It just seemed to be a rather extreme fix for something that didn't seem to be a big issue in the first place.
I'm sorry but...
I know this isn't exactly what you said but -- there's no way this mother put her kid through surgery.. PAID FOR SURGERY ... for her own desires.
That kid had wonky ears. Everyone saying 'oh they're not that bad.' -- Well try them on for yourselves.
Kids are AWFUL. And her ears not only stick out but the one is folded over.
You don't think she was teased? You think her mom is making it up? No f-ing way.
Seriously! I love how everyone is saying they are not that bad..try them on for yourself and let me know how "not bad" they are ..no way she is growing into those. I would have done the same thing in a heartbeat.
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| Posted 4/15/11 3:32 PM |
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Sweetlax22
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
I am not against plastic surgery for kids at all, I think sometimes it is needed, but, I don't know if I would have jumped so fast in this case, I didnt think she looked bad.
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| Posted 4/15/11 4:01 PM |
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browneyedgirl
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Re: 7 year old Child Gets Plastic Surgery to Avoid Bullies
Posted by Goldi0218
As someone who was taunted/bullied for most of her childhood for being different and whose parents did very little other than saying "Oh it will come back to haunt them someday...", if my child asked me to fix their ears, I would do it in a heartbeat as long as it did not have an effect on future growth.
I would do it for my child as well
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