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mitabtrfly
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Absolutely terrified...
of piercing DD's ears now. She just made 2 months on the 4th and I said I was going to do it then, but now am really scared. I believe it stems from seeing her getting her shots and how she reacted. I just don't know if I'll be able to handle seeing her go through that pain AGAIN....and even more so, I feel horrible for her.
Am I crazy? I know she won't remember it..but still....I just can't help but feel like I'm a bad mommy for doing this to her.
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julybaby07
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
MY dd cried for 2 sec. Don't worry about it she will look so cute at the end. 
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| Posted 10/5/07 11:33 PM |
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mitabtrfly
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
Posted by julybaby07
MY dd cried for 2 sec. Don't worry about it she will look so cute at the end.
Really? What is the cleaning process for them?
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| Posted 10/5/07 11:37 PM |
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karacg
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
Posted by mitabtrfly
of piercing DD's ears now. She just made 2 months on the 4th and I said I was going to do it then, but now am really scared. I believe it stems from seeing her getting her shots and how she reacted. I just don't know if I'll be able to handle seeing her go through that pain AGAIN....and even more so, I feel horrible for her.
Am I crazy? I know she won't remember it..but still....I just can't help but feel like I'm a bad mommy for doing this to her.
Why are you doing it then?? 
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| Posted 10/6/07 12:10 AM |
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aliasPook
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
We did it at 8 months and she didn't cry at all... Dr did tell me I had to wait longer though than two months, I think it was three months or five months. Is teh dr doing it or will it be done in the store?
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| Posted 10/6/07 12:29 AM |
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
Posted by karacg
Posted by mitabtrfly
of piercing DD's ears now. She just made 2 months on the 4th and I said I was going to do it then, but now am really scared. I believe it stems from seeing her getting her shots and how she reacted. I just don't know if I'll be able to handle seeing her go through that pain AGAIN....and even more so, I feel horrible for her.
Am I crazy? I know she won't remember it..but still....I just can't help but feel like I'm a bad mommy for doing this to her.
Why are you doing it then??
I agree
I didn't get my ears pierced til I was seven and I know girls who didn't get theirs done til college. She doesn't have to get them done when she is a baby.
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| Posted 10/6/07 8:23 AM |
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gottaluvmusik
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
My mother did mine at 3 months and I still have not gone for Cadence... I might go this weekend she is 5 months... DOnt be scared it is better to do it when they are younger.... IMO....
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| Posted 10/6/07 8:32 AM |
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Dragonfly75
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
IMHO, it's silly to pierce a baby's ears, especially if you think she will hurt and cry. Why put her or yourself through that? Why would you want to have to take care of her healing ears when there is already so much else to take care of? I would wait until she's older.
This is just a huge peeve of mine. The other day a little girl was in a stoller crying and grabbing for her ears and her mom was yakking on the cell phone about how she just got the baby's ears pierced. I found it really disturbing -- the mom seemed completely out of touch with her daughter -- more concerned about telling everyone that she had pierced the baby's ears than in comforting the child. I hope I don't sound harsh, I just get really disturbed by this.
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| Posted 10/6/07 8:33 AM |
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julybaby07
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
Posted by mitabtrfly
Posted by julybaby07
MY dd cried for 2 sec. Don't worry about it she will look so cute at the end.
Really? What is the cleaning process for them?
I got them done at the doctor'soffice at 2 months and she told me to apply neosporin (bacitracin) every day and turn them twice a day for 6 weeks.
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| Posted 10/6/07 8:36 AM |
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MrsPowers
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
Posted by karacg
Why are you doing it then??
I can't speak for her but for many people it is a cultural thing. Some hispanic cultures like to have the babies ears pierced before her christening.
A baby so young won't remember the pain and it isn't that painful.
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Sassyz75
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
then don't do it.
we aren't doing DD's ears.. it will be something she can ask for when she is old enough to take care of them herself.
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| Posted 10/6/07 9:08 AM |
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MelToddJulia
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
I was very scared too, and as we were walking into the jewelry store I told my DH forget it, I'll take her next week--lol
He said no lets just get it over with, so we went in and it was harder on me then it was for Julia, she cried for like 2 seconds, then once we got her in the car she was sleeping.
ETA: Julia was 3 months when we took her, its really better to do it now when they are small and dont know where there ears are, if you wait till there older, the chances of them getting and infection are high!
You have to clean the earings with a q-tip and alcohol 3 times a day, back and front.
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pinkandblue
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
Posted by gottaluvmusik
My mother did mine at 3 months and I still have not gone for Cadence... I might go this weekend she is 5 months... DOnt be scared it is better to do it when they are younger.... IMO....
I agree..i pierced dd's at 3 1/2 months
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| Posted 10/6/07 9:13 AM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
Posted by Dragonfly75
IMHO, it's silly to pierce a baby's ears, especially if you think she will hurt and cry. Why put her or yourself through that? Why would you want to have to take care of her healing ears when there is already so much else to take care of? I would wait until she's older.
This is just a huge peeve of mine. The other day a little girl was in a stoller crying and grabbing for her ears and her mom was yakking on the cell phone about how she just got the baby's ears pierced. I found it really disturbing -- the mom seemed completely out of touch with her daughter -- more concerned about telling everyone that she had pierced the baby's ears than in comforting the child. I hope I don't sound harsh, I just get really disturbed by this.
just want to say, that mother was an idiot
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| Posted 10/6/07 9:14 AM |
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Lucky
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
We did DD's at 10 months. We had them done at the ped's office after she had a shot. She was crying already so I told him just go for it. She was fine 5 minutes afterwards.
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
I know how you feel, i always said i wanted to get DD ears pierced young and now im scared to. My DH doesnt want to get them pierced at all. My neice had it done young and shes fine.. I go back and forth.
I do agree that there is so much other things to have to deal with, why would you want to add this, but I still want to.. but i dont lol...
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| Posted 10/6/07 10:44 AM |
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dm24angel
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
I would have them done only at the Ped's office and if your nervous, then the natural thing IMO is to wait. ITs not like its something she NEEDS to have
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
Do you HAVE TO pierce her ears?
I did not get mine pierced until I was 11.
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hbugal
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
Do it now...we waited with the twins and it was a nightmare!!!!!!!!!!!!
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leighla
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
Posted by smdl
Do you HAVE TO pierce her ears?
I did not get mine pierced until I was 11.
That's what I was thinking too.
Maybe it's just because I have a boy, but I never understood why people feel the need to pierce ears so early.
It's painful, it's more work and what if she doesn't want them when she's older?
I chose to have mine done when I was 13.
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| Posted 10/6/07 2:36 PM |
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mitabtrfly
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
Posted by leighla
Posted by smdl
Do you HAVE TO pierce her ears?
I did not get mine pierced until I was 11.
That's what I was thinking too.
Maybe it's just because I have a boy, but I never understood why people feel the need to pierce ears so early.
It's painful, it's more work and what if she doesn't want them when she's older?
I chose to have mine done when I was 13.
No I don't HAVE TO, but I WANT TO, and that's my reasoning. No one has to "understand" it. It's not something that has to be understood, it's just something that is done and has been done and I'm choosing to do. The same way you don't HAVE to circumsize a boy when they are born, it can be done when they are older, but it's done right? Piercing (IMO) along with circumcision are worse when they are older because they know the pain they are going to feel.
I was merely expressing how I felt, the same way I didn't and don't want her to feel pain when she gets her shots, but she HAS to get them done right? If it were up to me I would never want her to feel any pain, but that is not a reality.
You can agree with me if you want, but if you don't that's fine also. Either way, I just wanted advice from those who have girls and understand.
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| Posted 10/6/07 6:11 PM |
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mitabtrfly
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
Posted by hbugalla
Do it now...we waited with the twins and it was a nightmare!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks.!!! I already made the appointment for next week 
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| Posted 10/6/07 6:11 PM |
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leighla
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
Posted by mitabtrfly
No I don't HAVE TO, but I WANT TO, and that's my reasoning. No one has to "understand" it. It's not something that has to be understood, it's just something that is done and has been done and I'm choosing to do. The same way you don't HAVE to circumsize a boy when they are born, it can be done when they are older, but it's done right? Piercing (IMO) along with circumcision are worse when they are older because they know the pain they are going to feel.
Well, I don't agree that it's the same thing as circumcision because that is done for religious and health reasons.
Piercing ears is purely cosmetic.
But you are right, I don't have to agree.
My response was out of the fact that you are "terrified" to do it because it will hurt her. Why do something you are terrified to do if you don't have to?
Either way, good luck. I hope it turns out well for you both.
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
Posted by mitabtrfly
Posted by leighla
Posted by smdl
Do you HAVE TO pierce her ears?
I did not get mine pierced until I was 11.
That's what I was thinking too.
Maybe it's just because I have a boy, but I never understood why people feel the need to pierce ears so early.
It's painful, it's more work and what if she doesn't want them when she's older?
I chose to have mine done when I was 13.
No I don't HAVE TO, but I WANT TO, and that's my reasoning. No one has to "understand" it. It's not something that has to be understood, it's just something that is done and has been done and I'm choosing to do. The same way you don't HAVE to circumsize a boy when they are born, it can be done when they are older, but it's done right? Piercing (IMO) along with circumcision are worse when they are older because they know the pain they are going to feel.
I was merely expressing how I felt, the same way I didn't and don't want her to feel pain when she gets her shots, but she HAS to get them done right? If it were up to me I would never want her to feel any pain, but that is not a reality.
You can agree with me if you want, but if you don't that's fine also. Either way, I just wanted advice from those who have girls and understand.
Apples and oranges IMO.
I have a girl and I don't understand the ear piercing I'll do it when she is old enough to ask. I had mine done when I was 9 or 10. It was a lot of maintenance and I don't need that added to our daily routine at this point in life!
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| Posted 10/6/07 6:27 PM |
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Dragonfly75
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Re: Absolutely terrified...
Posted by mitabtrfly
No I don't HAVE TO, but I WANT TO, and that's my reasoning. No one has to "understand" it. It's not something that has to be understood, it's just something that is done and has been done and I'm choosing to do. The same way you don't HAVE to circumsize a boy when they are born, it can be done when they are older, but it's done right? Piercing (IMO) along with circumcision are worse when they are older because they know the pain they are going to feel.
I don't think you can really compare piercing a baby's ears because you think it's cute with an ancient religous tradition or circumsizing that's done out of health concerns.
When you post that you are "terrified" about inflicting unnecessary pain, of course people are going to advise you to wait or not pierce the baby's ears.
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