advice- away wedding and kids

So, we are supposed to attend DH's best friend's wedding in VA this weekend. There is a pre-party for out of town guests Sat night at 7:30 and the wedding is Sunday at 5. We have two daughters, 2.5 and 1.5, not invited to the wedding. DH and I aren't in full agreement as to what to do.

My parents for months were going to come with us to VA and watch the girls while we were at the wedding, and kind of have a family vacation together. For various reasons, they can no longer go. They are still willing to watch the girls here for the weekend (fri-monday), but I am not comfortable leaving them for a whole weekend for a few reasons. 1- it is too far away for my comfort level. 2- it is a lot for my folks and although they say they are willing, I know and have seen that they get very very exhausted after a few hours with the kids. they havent had them alone for that long without a break ever. 3- my girls are super attached to me and havent been apart from me that long ever. the only time they have been away from me at night is when i was in the hospital. i was in the hospital just a few weeks ago and my little one would sit and cry by the gate near my bedroom asking for mommy. :( so, if they are not handling it well, it is not like I can just say forget it and come home. we are an 8 hour drive away.

DH's bro and SIL live in VA (right where we will be) and his father will be there as well. We asked the father if he would be willing to watch the kids sat and sun night. He doesn't seem to want to, but we might be able to get a few hours out of him. I would want the kids watched at our hotel, not at BIL's house. It is not baby proofed and much harder/more dangerous to watch 2 active toddlers who are very into climbing in a non baby proofed house. they are not very familiar with toddlers (BIL has a 12 yo son, SIL is his stepmom and wasn't involved until he was older and out of toddler age.) BIL had a massive stroke last year and has some permanent damage as a result, so I am really not comfortable leaving him in charge.

We could all go to VA, but I could skip the events and stay with the kids.

I could send DH by himself, and I could stay home with the kids.

WWYD? leave kids in NY with my parents, take kids to VA and convince FIL to watch them for a few hours, take kids to VA and I skip the events; I stay home in NY. Or any other options?

also want to add- my health hasn't been that great recently. i was diagnosed with Lyme Disease a few weeks ago, and am still having some complications. I get episodes where I get extreme fevers. Whether that will happen this weekend I can't predict...hopefully not.

Re: advice- away wedding and kids

Sounds like you need a little get away...I would def take your parents up on their offer..esp if they are willing..I am sure they will be fine..Don't worry about it and enjoy the wedding! The kids will be more comfortable at home with your parents who sounds like they see a lot more than relatives in VA! JMHO

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