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PrincessP
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advice re: MIL
well today out of the blue my MIL calls and says how we should talk and that she misses the baby terribly. Okay, well she seriously hasnt called since dd was 2 months old shes now 4 months going on 5. They came to the baby naming and spitefully did not give a gift. They havent bought her anything and everything was real sour from the time I left the hospital with the baby. I dont know what to say. Seriously, for me...this is working. I am not getting aggravated. Shes gonna get on the phone and tell me what is good for dd (to see them) and again I know a fight will occur after she sees dd. This happened before we were married. Lets just say they like things the way they want it and have to be in control. For me, dd is doing just fine and dh and I are not arguing over what his parents do and dont do. I need advice on how to handle this conversation. Thanks for your input.
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Posted 4/14/07 5:20 PM  |
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PrincessP
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Re: advice re: MIL
I forgot to say that in the interim I had a few very close deaths that they havent acknowledged either. I am a little bitter to say the least.
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| Posted 4/14/07 5:21 PM |
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DebG
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Re: advice re: MIL
If you don't want to readmit her into your life, than don't.
OR talk to her and lay down the law. Be respectful but firm.
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| Posted 4/14/07 5:24 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: advice re: MIL
I think you know what my advice is going to be, since we've discussed this at length. I think you need to stay away. She has no respect for you and your family. I say tell her where to shove it. Politely, of course!
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| Posted 4/14/07 5:29 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: advice re: MIL
Posted by prncssrachel
I think you know what my advice is going to be, since we've discussed this at length. I think you need to stay away. She has no respect for you and your family. I say tell her where to shove it. Politely, of course!
LOL...you are funny! I knew you'd be on my side...hehe
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| Posted 4/14/07 5:32 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: advice re: MIL
Posted by DebG
If you don't want to readmit her into your life, than don't.
OR talk to her and lay down the law. Be respectful but firm.
ITA. You don't need the aggravation and if your DH is ok with it, then forget it.
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| Posted 4/14/07 5:38 PM |
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Moehick
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As long as DH doesn't care then don't invite the toxicity back into your life
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| Posted 4/14/07 5:47 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: advice re: MIL
I forgot to add....he probably does care. He wont want me to not call her back but I am not going to listen to her plans to come back into our lives. Last time we spoke dd was 2 months and she thought the best idea was for me and dh to DROP HER OFF. could you evene imagine!
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| Posted 4/14/07 5:51 PM |
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you should do what is right for your family.....sometimes this means biting your tongue for your DHs sake
make sure you MIL knows YOU are your DDS Mother and you know whats best for her
I say it doesnt hurt to give it another chance..........if it doesnt work out at least your DH will know you tried
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| Posted 4/14/07 6:12 PM |
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sumlynmad
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Re: advice re: MIL
im new so does anyone want to fill me in on the initial problem? or repost it if u have it?
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| Posted 4/14/07 6:17 PM |
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Moehick
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Re: advice re: MIL
Well if it does matter to your DH then how about letting him take her to see them if he wanted to make the effort?
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| Posted 4/14/07 6:23 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: advice re: MIL
Posted by Moehick
Well if it does matter to your DH then how about letting him take her to see them if he wanted to make the effort?
That might make me ...ILLLLLL! LOL 
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| Posted 4/14/07 6:34 PM |
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