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pickles16
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almost slapped my MIL on mother's day
So, yes I'm insanely emotional, but this I thought was just too much.
We went out to breakfast with MIL for mother's day. Now to preface, my MIL has Diabetes from being clinically obese. She is a nurse, and thinks she knows everything about medicine and my DH listens to her like she were writing the holy grail herself....so i tell her how i've gained 3 pounds already (I'm 8 weeks) mind you I quit smoking the second I got pregnant!!!! So I don't think 3 pounds is too bad....she tells me how thats too much already, and I need to watch it!!!!!! She's telling me I need to watch MY weight!!!!!!!!! My entire family is very normal weight, my mother gained a total of 15 pounds with me, she is now 50 and has a body of a 25 year old, my dad has been in great shape forever, and I take after the both of them....DH now is on me about what I'm eating...I'm eating fruits ALL DAY long and the only thing I can stomach in the morning are bagels at this point!!!!
I nearly got up from the table and told her if anyone needs to watch their weight its her.....
Sorry needed to vent, it just really ticked me off....
ETA:I hope I didn't offend anyone, that was not my intent!!!!
It just peeves me off that she doesn't watch her weight at all..her own daughter yells at her about what she eats, but has the nerve to tell me to watch what I eat....I just thought it was hypocrtical
Message edited 5/13/2008 2:25:13 PM.
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nicrae
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Re: almost slapped my MIL on mother's day
You have to just ignore people and I'd slap DH if he dares to say anything about what you are eating. Tell him when he is pg then he can talk. 3 lbs in not a big deal especially if you just quit smoking! Good for you! 
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| Posted 5/13/08 2:24 PM |
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Katie111806
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Re: almost slapped my MIL on mother's day
It wouldn't have been *almost* slapped if I was in your shoes - I would have wacked her!
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| Posted 5/13/08 2:27 PM |
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headoverheels
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Re: almost slapped my MIL on mother's day
oh i can't believe you didn't slap her! that would have been totally justified, IMO
3 lbs at 8 weeks is GREAT especially since you just quit smoking. you can tell your MIL - and you DH - that i said to SHOVE IT!!
well, maybe not your DH - i don't know how big he is 
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| Posted 5/13/08 2:31 PM |
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wannabemom
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Re: almost slapped my MIL on mother's day
yeah.... this is the job of moms and MIL's... to test your patience.
just look the other way... she's obviously obese, and her weight is impacting her health greatly... you are not in her position, and still won't be after  is here...
there will be many more opportunities for her to jab at you in the future... if you turn the other cheek it's hard in the short-term (and frankly MIL doesn't deserve getting away with it), BUT it will be MUCH easier for you in the long term...
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neener1211
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Re: almost slapped my MIL on mother's day
I would have looked at her up and down and said, "You're kidding right? YOU'RE telling me to watch MY weight?" Reaaaaall sarcastically.
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| Posted 5/13/08 2:50 PM |
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Re: almost slapped my MIL on mother's day
OK Well I don't even drink but I sure know sour grapes when I see 'em:
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| Posted 5/13/08 2:53 PM |
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08BabySurprise
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Re: almost slapped my MIL on mother's day
Posted by colette
OK Well I don't even drink but I sure know sour grapes when I see 'em:
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bicosi
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Re: almost slapped my MIL on mother's day
Posted by colette
OK Well I don't even drink but I sure know sour grapes when I see 'em:
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OMG! lmaooooooo
What a witch! Don't pay her any mind and tell your DH to step off!
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Dragonfly75
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Re: almost slapped my MIL on mother's day
Don't stess. I gained 12 pounds my first trimester, but gained less than 30 pounds throughout pregnancy. I took it all off by 6 weeks post-partum.
DH's family made comments to me about my weight early on, too. It really hurt because I was eating well and exercising, but my body just put on more weight than usual early on.
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Re: almost slapped my MIL on mother's day
I have gained 12 lbs my entire pregnancy ( I am being induced tomorrow at 38 weeks) and my BIL and MIL have both told me I should watch what I eat, and that I shouldnt eat the things that I do.
F them...people dont know how to think before they speak
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| Posted 5/13/08 3:15 PM |
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MrsRivera
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Re: almost slapped my MIL on mother's day
Unfortunately, I've already learned that everyone feels its their business to make stupid comments like that. When I announced I was pg, my mom was like "Congratulations!!!!! But you have to be extra careful since you're already overweight". It's annoying--but I've learned to chalk it off to ignorance and stupidity.
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| Posted 5/13/08 3:16 PM |
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pickles16
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Re: almost slapped my MIL on mother's day
Thanks ladies.You definitely made me feel better...I have her telling me to watch my weight and my skinny minny mother telling me I'm not eating enough...how funny
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twinkletoes807
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Re: almost slapped my MIL on mother's day
Dude...how did you control herself. If I was thin like you and your big ol' MIL said that... she would'be gotten it from me. Since I am a chubster to begin with, I really do have to watch my weight... and I tell people to shut up if they remind me of it! Next time... take no prisoners!! 
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pickles16
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Re: almost slapped my MIL on mother's day
Posted by twinkletoes807
Dude...how did you control herself. If I was thin like you and your big ol' MIL said that... she would'be gotten it from me. Since I am a chubster to begin with, I really do have to watch my weight... and I tell people to shut up if they remind me of it! Next time... take no prisoners!!
What kills me the most is she is always preaching to DH what he should or shouldn't be eating bc unfortunately DH takes after her and has to watch himself carefully....I can do that for him now that I am his wife, and I've done pretty good my entire life with my weight, so I think he should be listening to me, his wife....she is urging him to go to Weight Watchers now..which I honestly don't think will work for DH, I know its amazing, but I know DH too well and I know what will work for him and I don't think WW will work....oh well....the joys of having a know it all MIL
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MrsS2005
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Re: almost slapped my MIL on mother's day
That would've really pi$$ed me off.
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CkGm
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Re: almost slapped my MIL on mother's day
I love helpful MIL's- Mine is known to "remind" me to go to the gym and actually offered me a reward if I had a salad one night instead of the burgers everyone else(including her) were having!
I know how hard it is to bite your tongue but I decided I am not going to any longer since one day I might just deck her. I would discuss this with her calmly before she pulls something like this again.
At least this is my plan with my MIL but I always chicken out
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pickles16
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Re: almost slapped my MIL on mother's day
Posted by CkGm
I love helpful MIL's- Mine is known to "remind" me to go to the gym and actually offered me a reward if I had a salad one night instead of the burgers everyone else(including her) were having!
I know how hard it is to bite your tongue but I decided I am not going to any longer since one day I might just deck her. I would discuss this with her calmly before she pulls something like this again.
At least this is my plan with my MIL but I always chicken out
I did tell DH that I thought it was wrong of her, but DH who is beyond close with his mom, his response was, she was just trying to help you..tell you to eat better...I basically responded telling him SHE had no right telling ME to eat better, and he got it, but he won't say anything to her
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Stefanie
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Re: almost slapped my MIL on mother's day
Your mil as well as your dh needs to zip it when it comes to your weight. YOU are in control of your body.
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Lizzy
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Re: almost slapped my MIL on mother's day
Just point me in her direction -- I'll whack her for you
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pickles16
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Re: almost slapped my MIL on mother's day
Posted by Lizzy
Just point me in her direction -- I'll whack her for you
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