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nycbuslady
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am i missing something?
My family does not do baby showers. But, we definitely do bridal showers. Those are usually hosted by the mother of the bride. The few baby showers I've been to were also hosted by the grandmother-to-be. I think it would be weird to host your own shower, IMO.
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am i missing something?
My mother hosted both of my showers but I helped her plan them. I didn’t think it was weird. My baby shower was in my backyard! It’s a lot of work for someone to plan and she appreciated the help.
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busymomonli
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am i missing something?
My coworker just threw her own bridal shower AND bachelorette party. And while I don't think the word "entitled" really fits, I do think its a generational thing and has ALL to do with social media. It goes along the lines of gender reveals, and engagement and pregnancy photo shoots. It's all about the social media photo op. I can barely find one photo of myself pregnant let alone a photo shoot.
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NervousNell
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Re: am i missing something?
Posted by busymomonli
My coworker just threw her own bridal shower AND bachelorette party. And while I don't think the word "entitled" really fits, I do think its a generational thing and has ALL to do with social media. It goes along the lines of gender reveals, and engagement and pregnancy photo shoots. It's all about the social media photo op. I can barely find one photo of myself pregnant let alone a photo shoot.
I hated how I looked pregnant so much that that I literally have ONE photo of me pregnant and my face is cut out of it. It's just my belly. It was the weekend before I gave birth and DH said, you should have ONE picture of your pregnant belly to show her later in life.
So I let him take one picture, belly only.
And there's a stain on my shirt.
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| Posted 9/1/21 7:35 AM |
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Posted by busymomonli
My coworker just threw her own bridal shower AND bachelorette party. And while I don't think the word "entitled" really fits, I do think its a generational thing and has ALL to do with social media. It goes along the lines of gender reveals, and engagement and pregnancy photo shoots. It's all about the social media photo op. I can barely find one photo of myself pregnant let alone a photo shoot.
Bingo.
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Posted by busymomonli
My coworker just threw her own bridal shower AND bachelorette party. And while I don't think the word "entitled" really fits, I do think its a generational thing and has ALL to do with social media. It goes along the lines of gender reveals, and engagement and pregnancy photo shoots. It's all about the social media photo op. I can barely find one photo of myself pregnant let alone a photo shoot.
I hated how I looked pregnant so much that that I literally have ONE photo of me pregnant my face is cut out of it. It's just my belly. It was the weekend before I gave birth and DH said, you should have ONE picture of your pregnant belly to show her later in life.
So I let him take one picture, belly only.
And there's a stain on my shirt.
I don't have many either for both kids. I am not the type to want to take a ton of pictures either especially back then when it wasn't like you were showing anyone how big you were getting.
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Deeluvsvinny
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Re: am i missing something?
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yes, it's common now.
Maybe I'll get flamed for this, but I think it's all about entitled millennials. (And I'm considered an older Millennial, so I think I can say it).
Showers used to be a surprise your mom/family/friends threw to celebrate your marriage or baby. no one cared about themes, decor, etc. It was fun and of course the gifts.
Now, it's a show, mostly for Instagram pictures. there's an esthetic, people hire Party Designers that bring in backdrops, props, balloon garlands, etc, etc. Even if they don't hire someone to do it, they DIY it all so that it looks a certain way. it's no longer about what is being celebrated, it just a show.
How is it entitled? I mean people would typically have a shower for a wedding or baby and the mother or family/friends would throw it, so was it really ever a secret? Very doubtful. So why not save your family the expense of having to throw one and do it yourself.
Showers used to be thrown for you by your loved ones. You got whatever your mom or friends could do. Coffee & Cake at home or a mega event at a reception hall- whatever it was, it was. You had no say in theme/decor, etc. My sister and her friends are true millennials. And I love them dearly, they are wonderful people and have become my good friends, but when it comes to parties- it's all about Instagram. Don't get me wrong, I've gone to quite a few I've had a great time and been awed by what they come up with. I've been known to throw my own instagram-able party (all DIY) too. I just feel like sometimes the pressure is on about how the party looks or how amazing it is and the event being celebrated is just a side note. Sometimes it's nice to be old school and simple.
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klingklang77
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Re: am i missing something?
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
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Posted by Deeluvsvinny
yes, it's common now.
Maybe I'll get flamed for this, but I think it's all about entitled millennials. (And I'm considered an older Millennial, so I think I can say it).
Showers used to be a surprise your mom/family/friends threw to celebrate your marriage or baby. no one cared about themes, decor, etc. It was fun and of course the gifts.
Now, it's a show, mostly for Instagram pictures. there's an esthetic, people hire Party Designers that bring in backdrops, props, balloon garlands, etc, etc. Even if they don't hire someone to do it, they DIY it all so that it looks a certain way. it's no longer about what is being celebrated, it just a show.
How is it entitled? I mean people would typically have a shower for a wedding or baby and the mother or family/friends would throw it, so was it really ever a secret? Very doubtful. So why not save your family the expense of having to throw one and do it yourself.
Showers used to be thrown for you by your loved ones. You got whatever your mom or friends could do. Coffee & Cake at home or a mega event at a reception hall- whatever it was, it was. You had no say in theme/decor, etc. My sister and her friends are true millennials. And I love them dearly, they are wonderful people and have become my good friends, but when it comes to parties- it's all about Instagram. Don't get me wrong, I've gone to quite a few I've had a great time and been awed by what they come up with. I've been known to throw my own instagram-able party (all DIY) too. I just feel like sometimes the pressure is on about how the party looks or how amazing it is and the event being celebrated is just a side note. Sometimes it's nice to be old school and simple.
I think it’s also largely a cultural thing as they are mostly in North America. An Australian coworker of mine used to get so mad when she started seeing American style bridal showers in Australia.
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StaceyWill
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Re: am i missing something?
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Posted by busymomonli
My coworker just threw her own bridal shower AND bachelorette party. And while I don't think the word "entitled" really fits, I do think its a generational thing and has ALL to do with social media. It goes along the lines of gender reveals, and engagement and pregnancy photo shoots. It's all about the social media photo op. I can barely find one photo of myself pregnant let alone a photo shoot.
I hated how I looked pregnant so much that that I literally have ONE photo of me pregnant and my face is cut out of it. It's just my belly. It was the weekend before I gave birth and DH said, you should have ONE picture of your pregnant belly to show her later in life.
So I let him take one picture, belly only.
And there's a stain on my shirt.
Same. I HATE pictures of myself and rarely take them, so I didn't even think to take any while pregnant. There is one of me in the hospital the night before I gave birth, but I'm lying down - so you can't really see the belly. And my face looks really happy (sarsasm - I was in a heap of pain). Thank you DH for taking it. 
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Re: am i missing something?
Is it really that much different then throwing yourself a birthday party? I have no issue with whoever wants to throw whatever. If I wanna go...I go.
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BFNY516
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am i missing something?
I think let the young millennials get their insta-“worthy” pics if it means the olds get to use Snapchat and weird filters that make their skin look overly blurred and have reindeer ears. I think that’s fair.
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Deeluvsvinny
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Re: am i missing something?
Posted by BFNY516
I think let the young millennials get their insta-“worthy” pics if it means the olds get to use Snapchat and weird filters that make their skin look overly blurred and have reindeer ears. I think that’s fair.
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| Posted 9/1/21 11:10 AM |
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lululu
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Re: am i missing something?
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
Posted by RainyDay
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
yes, it's common now.
Maybe I'll get flamed for this, but I think it's all about entitled millennials. (And I'm considered an older Millennial, so I think I can say it).
Showers used to be a surprise your mom/family/friends threw to celebrate your marriage or baby. no one cared about themes, decor, etc. It was fun and of course the gifts.
Now, it's a show, mostly for Instagram pictures. there's an esthetic, people hire Party Designers that bring in backdrops, props, balloon garlands, etc, etc. Even if they don't hire someone to do it, they DIY it all so that it looks a certain way. it's no longer about what is being celebrated, it just a show.
How is it entitled? I mean people would typically have a shower for a wedding or baby and the mother or family/friends would throw it, so was it really ever a secret? Very doubtful. So why not save your family the expense of having to throw one and do it yourself.
Showers used to be thrown for you by your loved ones. You got whatever your mom or friends could do. Coffee & Cake at home or a mega event at a reception hall- whatever it was, it was. You had no say in theme/decor, etc. My sister and her friends are true millennials. And I love them dearly, they are wonderful people and have become my good friends, but when it comes to parties- it's all about Instagram. Don't get me wrong, I've gone to quite a few I've had a great time and been awed by what they come up with. I've been known to throw my own instagram-able party (all DIY) too. I just feel like sometimes the pressure is on about how the party looks or how amazing it is and the event being celebrated is just a side note. Sometimes it's nice to be old school and simple.
I think it’s also largely a cultural thing as they are mostly in North America. An Australian coworker of mine used to get so mad when she started seeing American style bridal showers in Australia.
Just curious but why did she care? How did it affect her personally? If she didn't like it I don't think anyone was forcing her to go.
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PitterPatter11
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am i missing something?
My sister is younger and while my parents and her ILs helped with the cost, my sister is “extra”. She wants it to look a certain way and be at a specific venue. Because of this, she chipped in.
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| Posted 9/1/21 11:44 AM |
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klingklang77
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Re: am i missing something?
Posted by lululu
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
Posted by RainyDay
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
yes, it's common now.
Maybe I'll get flamed for this, but I think it's all about entitled millennials. (And I'm considered an older Millennial, so I think I can say it).
Showers used to be a surprise your mom/family/friends threw to celebrate your marriage or baby. no one cared about themes, decor, etc. It was fun and of course the gifts.
Now, it's a show, mostly for Instagram pictures. there's an esthetic, people hire Party Designers that bring in backdrops, props, balloon garlands, etc, etc. Even if they don't hire someone to do it, they DIY it all so that it looks a certain way. it's no longer about what is being celebrated, it just a show.
How is it entitled? I mean people would typically have a shower for a wedding or baby and the mother or family/friends would throw it, so was it really ever a secret? Very doubtful. So why not save your family the expense of having to throw one and do it yourself.
Showers used to be thrown for you by your loved ones. You got whatever your mom or friends could do. Coffee & Cake at home or a mega event at a reception hall- whatever it was, it was. You had no say in theme/decor, etc. My sister and her friends are true millennials. And I love them dearly, they are wonderful people and have become my good friends, but when it comes to parties- it's all about Instagram. Don't get me wrong, I've gone to quite a few I've had a great time and been awed by what they come up with. I've been known to throw my own instagram-able party (all DIY) too. I just feel like sometimes the pressure is on about how the party looks or how amazing it is and the event being celebrated is just a side note. Sometimes it's nice to be old school and simple.
I think it’s also largely a cultural thing as they are mostly in North America. An Australian coworker of mine used to get so mad when she started seeing American style bridal showers in Australia.
Just curious but why did she care? How did it affect her personally? If she didn't like it I don't think anyone was forcing her to go.
Consumerism and materialistic reasons, I think. She didn’t care for Halloween either and disliked the trick or treat tradition that started happening there.
It’s really difficult to explain. Let’s just say I received a lot of criticism there on all things American. And it wasn’t just her. My in-laws did it and lots of other people, too. I’ll leave it at that.
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LuckyStar
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Re: am i missing something?
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
Posted by RainyDay
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
yes, it's common now.
Maybe I'll get flamed for this, but I think it's all about entitled millennials. (And I'm considered an older Millennial, so I think I can say it).
Showers used to be a surprise your mom/family/friends threw to celebrate your marriage or baby. no one cared about themes, decor, etc. It was fun and of course the gifts.
Now, it's a show, mostly for Instagram pictures. there's an esthetic, people hire Party Designers that bring in backdrops, props, balloon garlands, etc, etc. Even if they don't hire someone to do it, they DIY it all so that it looks a certain way. it's no longer about what is being celebrated, it just a show.
How is it entitled? I mean people would typically have a shower for a wedding or baby and the mother or family/friends would throw it, so was it really ever a secret? Very doubtful. So why not save your family the expense of having to throw one and do it yourself.
Showers used to be thrown for you by your loved ones. You got whatever your mom or friends could do. Coffee & Cake at home or a mega event at a reception hall- whatever it was, it was. You had no say in theme/decor, etc. My sister and her friends are true millennials. And I love them dearly, they are wonderful people and have become my good friends, but when it comes to parties- it's all about Instagram. Don't get me wrong, I've gone to quite a few I've had a great time and been awed by what they come up with. I've been known to throw my own instagram-able party (all DIY) too. I just feel like sometimes the pressure is on about how the party looks or how amazing it is and the event being celebrated is just a side note. Sometimes it's nice to be old school and simple.
I think it’s also largely a cultural thing as they are mostly in North America. An Australian coworker of mine used to get so mad when she started seeing American style bridal showers in Australia.
Interesting. I went to Australia on my honeymoon. We met a few Australian and Kiwi couples on the trip (one got engaged while we were there) and became friends on FB. This was 8 years ago and I’ve seen pictures of their showers, hens parties, kids parties, etc. over the years. They look exactly like you would see here in the US. All of them. So I think your coworker lost the battle
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angelicd77
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am i missing something?
While, I agree, its strange to host your own shower... I'm struggling with the millennial generalization. I'm a Millennial, born in 88 and nobody I know older or younger in this "generation" is anything like this. If anything, its the generation after us that does all this nonsense and it gets blamed on us. Idk, it doesnt really effect me either way, I just hear it enough that I had to put it out there
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| Posted 9/1/21 1:37 PM |
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LuckyStar
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Re: am i missing something?
Posted by LuckyStar
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
Posted by RainyDay
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
yes, it's common now.
Maybe I'll get flamed for this, but I think it's all about entitled millennials. (And I'm considered an older Millennial, so I think I can say it).
Showers used to be a surprise your mom/family/friends threw to celebrate your marriage or baby. no one cared about themes, decor, etc. It was fun and of course the gifts.
Now, it's a show, mostly for Instagram pictures. there's an esthetic, people hire Party Designers that bring in backdrops, props, balloon garlands, etc, etc. Even if they don't hire someone to do it, they DIY it all so that it looks a certain way. it's no longer about what is being celebrated, it just a show.
How is it entitled? I mean people would typically have a shower for a wedding or baby and the mother or family/friends would throw it, so was it really ever a secret? Very doubtful. So why not save your family the expense of having to throw one and do it yourself.
Showers used to be thrown for you by your loved ones. You got whatever your mom or friends could do. Coffee & Cake at home or a mega event at a reception hall- whatever it was, it was. You had no say in theme/decor, etc. My sister and her friends are true millennials. And I love them dearly, they are wonderful people and have become my good friends, but when it comes to parties- it's all about Instagram. Don't get me wrong, I've gone to quite a few I've had a great time and been awed by what they come up with. I've been known to throw my own instagram-able party (all DIY) too. I just feel like sometimes the pressure is on about how the party looks or how amazing it is and the event being celebrated is just a side note. Sometimes it's nice to be old school and simple.
I think it’s also largely a cultural thing as they are mostly in North America. An Australian coworker of mine used to get so mad when she started seeing American style bridal showers in Australia.
Interesting. I went to Australia on my honeymoon. We met a few Australian and Kiwi couples on the trip (one got engaged while we were there) and became friends on FB. This was 8 years ago and I’ve seen pictures of their showers, hens parties, kids parties, etc. over the years. They look exactly like you would see here in the US. All of them. So I think your coworker lost the battle
ETA I just saw your other post about consumerism. We were there at Christmas time and I have never in my life seen such a display and decorations of this magnitude. I’ve also never seen such unhealthy food. Me thinks the Australians are perhaps somewhat delusional about the US.
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lululu
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Re: am i missing something?
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by lululu
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
Posted by RainyDay
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
yes, it's common now.
Maybe I'll get flamed for this, but I think it's all about entitled millennials. (And I'm considered an older Millennial, so I think I can say it).
Showers used to be a surprise your mom/family/friends threw to celebrate your marriage or baby. no one cared about themes, decor, etc. It was fun and of course the gifts.
Now, it's a show, mostly for Instagram pictures. there's an esthetic, people hire Party Designers that bring in backdrops, props, balloon garlands, etc, etc. Even if they don't hire someone to do it, they DIY it all so that it looks a certain way. it's no longer about what is being celebrated, it just a show.
How is it entitled? I mean people would typically have a shower for a wedding or baby and the mother or family/friends would throw it, so was it really ever a secret? Very doubtful. So why not save your family the expense of having to throw one and do it yourself.
Showers used to be thrown for you by your loved ones. You got whatever your mom or friends could do. Coffee & Cake at home or a mega event at a reception hall- whatever it was, it was. You had no say in theme/decor, etc. My sister and her friends are true millennials. And I love them dearly, they are wonderful people and have become my good friends, but when it comes to parties- it's all about Instagram. Don't get me wrong, I've gone to quite a few I've had a great time and been awed by what they come up with. I've been known to throw my own instagram-able party (all DIY) too. I just feel like sometimes the pressure is on about how the party looks or how amazing it is and the event being celebrated is just a side note. Sometimes it's nice to be old school and simple.
I think it’s also largely a cultural thing as they are mostly in North America. An Australian coworker of mine used to get so mad when she started seeing American style bridal showers in Australia.
Just curious but why did she care? How did it affect her personally? If she didn't like it I don't think anyone was forcing her to go.
Consumerism and materialistic reasons, I think. She didn’t care for Halloween either and disliked the trick or treat tradition that started happening there.
It’s really difficult to explain. Let’s just say I received a lot of criticism there on all things American. And it wasn’t just her. My in-laws did it and lots of other people, too. I’ll leave it at that.
It's interesting the things that people get upset about. I mean who has the energy to get upset about a party? My mom got so upset when my cousin was having a sprinkle for her third child. I mean who cares??? Get over yourself. If you don't want to go or participate, just don't! No need to complain about it to anyone who will listen.
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FirstMate
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Re: am i missing something?
I don't think it's the norm but to be honest, I have not gone to many showers recently. Those that I have gone to, the guest of honor was definitely involved in some way or, at the very least, knew about it.
I also have a co-worker who was supposed to be married last year. Obviously everything was cancelled but she still had a very small shower and then she got married at town hall. Then she decided she still wanted the fan fare so she just had an elaborate shower and her big fancy wedding is coming up soon. I get the wedding component. I probably would have done the same thing but I don't think I would have had 2 showers. That's a bit much.
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Re: am i missing something?
Posted by lululu
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by lululu
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
Posted by RainyDay
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
yes, it's common now.
Maybe I'll get flamed for this, but I think it's all about entitled millennials. (And I'm considered an older Millennial, so I think I can say it).
Showers used to be a surprise your mom/family/friends threw to celebrate your marriage or baby. no one cared about themes, decor, etc. It was fun and of course the gifts.
Now, it's a show, mostly for Instagram pictures. there's an esthetic, people hire Party Designers that bring in backdrops, props, balloon garlands, etc, etc. Even if they don't hire someone to do it, they DIY it all so that it looks a certain way. it's no longer about what is being celebrated, it just a show.
How is it entitled? I mean people would typically have a shower for a wedding or baby and the mother or family/friends would throw it, so was it really ever a secret? Very doubtful. So why not save your family the expense of having to throw one and do it yourself.
Showers used to be thrown for you by your loved ones. You got whatever your mom or friends could do. Coffee & Cake at home or a mega event at a reception hall- whatever it was, it was. You had no say in theme/decor, etc. My sister and her friends are true millennials. And I love them dearly, they are wonderful people and have become my good friends, but when it comes to parties- it's all about Instagram. Don't get me wrong, I've gone to quite a few I've had a great time and been awed by what they come up with. I've been known to throw my own instagram-able party (all DIY) too. I just feel like sometimes the pressure is on about how the party looks or how amazing it is and the event being celebrated is just a side note. Sometimes it's nice to be old school and simple.
I think it’s also largely a cultural thing as they are mostly in North America. An Australian coworker of mine used to get so mad when she started seeing American style bridal showers in Australia.
Just curious but why did she care? How did it affect her personally? If she didn't like it I don't think anyone was forcing her to go.
Consumerism and materialistic reasons, I think. She didn’t care for Halloween either and disliked the trick or treat tradition that started happening there.
It’s really difficult to explain. Let’s just say I received a lot of criticism there on all things American. And it wasn’t just her. My in-laws did it and lots of other people, too. I’ll leave it at that.
It's interesting the things that people get upset about. I mean who has the energy to get upset about a party? My mom got so upset when my cousin was having a sprinkle for her third child. I mean who cares??? Get over yourself. If you don't want to go or participate, just don't! No need to complain about it to anyone who will listen.
I definitely think that is a generational thing too. My mom makes comments about that all the time. She sees that and engagement parties as gift grabs.
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mrsrainbow
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Re: am i missing something?
To me it doesn't matter who throws it. Either I want to celebrate the baby or I don't, so it doesn't matter to me who pays for what. Clinging to traditional ideals of "who does what" doesn't hold a lot of weight with me.
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Sash
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Re: am i missing something?
I don’t go to many showers maybe because I’m an old fart now. But the few I have been, I noticed this trend. Ehh it’s the new normal, lol. Doesn’t matter to me who pays as long as their is booze.
I think this is better for friends and family and relieves the pressure. I also don’t think someone should miss out on a shower because no one would like to plan it for them. If friends and family are more than happy to come, why not celebrate.
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Re: am i missing something?
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I don’t go to many showers maybe because I’m an old fart now. But the few I have been, I noticed this trend. Ehh it’s the new normal, lol. Doesn’t matter to me who pays as long as their is booze.
I think this is better for friends and family and relieves the pressure. I also don’t think someone should miss out on a shower because no one would like to plan it for them. If friends and family are more than happy to come, why not celebrate.
...and good food!
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Posted by RainyDay
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
yes, it's common now.
Maybe I'll get flamed for this, but I think it's all about entitled millennials. (And I'm considered an older Millennial, so I think I can say it).
Showers used to be a surprise your mom/family/friends threw to celebrate your marriage or baby. no one cared about themes, decor, etc. It was fun and of course the gifts.
Now, it's a show, mostly for Instagram pictures. there's an esthetic, people hire Party Designers that bring in backdrops, props, balloon garlands, etc, etc. Even if they don't hire someone to do it, they DIY it all so that it looks a certain way. it's no longer about what is being celebrated, it just a show.
How is it entitled? I mean people would typically have a shower for a wedding or baby and the mother or family/friends would throw it, so was it really ever a secret? Very doubtful. So why not save your family the expense of having to throw one and do it yourself.
Showers used to be thrown for you by your loved ones. You got whatever your mom or friends could do. Coffee & Cake at home or a mega event at a reception hall- whatever it was, it was. You had no say in theme/decor, etc. My sister and her friends are true millennials. And I love them dearly, they are wonderful people and have become my good friends, but when it comes to parties- it's all about Instagram. Don't get me wrong, I've gone to quite a few I've had a great time and been awed by what they come up with. I've been known to throw my own instagram-able party (all DIY) too. I just feel like sometimes the pressure is on about how the party looks or how amazing it is and the event being celebrated is just a side note. Sometimes it's nice to be old school and simple.
I think it’s also largely a cultural thing as they are mostly in North America. An Australian coworker of mine used to get so mad when she started seeing American style bridal showers in Australia.
Just curious but why did she care? How did it affect her personally? If she didn't like it I don't think anyone was forcing her to go.
Consumerism and materialistic reasons, I think. She didn’t care for Halloween either and disliked the trick or treat tradition that started happening there.
It’s really difficult to explain. Let’s just say I received a lot of criticism there on all things American. And it wasn’t just her. My in-laws did it and lots of other people, too. I’ll leave it at that.
It's interesting the things that people get upset about. I mean who has the energy to get upset about a party? My mom got so upset when my cousin was having a sprinkle for her third child. I mean who cares??? Get over yourself. If you don't want to go or participate, just don't! No need to complain about it to anyone who will listen.
I definitely think that is a generational thing too. My mom makes comments about that all the time. She sees that and engagement parties as gift grabs.
I don't get the sprinkles when the kids are close together, and even the same sex. I didn't have a family sprinkle and my kids are far apart. I could have used one lol. I did have a shower at work though so that was nice.
Why the need for an engagement party when you will have a shower and wedding?
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