Another sleeping issue post and a dh vent

So in a quick recap form yesterday..Allison was sick last week and in my bed alot because she was havign coughing fits, now that she is better she wants to come in my room at 3 am when she wakes up and she is wide awake when she wakes up.Thinks its play time

Ok so last night she woke up at 230 and i didnt go in and she settled down in about a minute with just alittle whining. i was soo happy and went back to sleep.4 am comes and she is up. i go in and she is WIDE AWAKE. She is on all fours trying to crawl around her crib. I give her the pacifier and walk away. She is on and off whining for about 10 minutes. Then just when she got quite for about 2 minutes she starts SCREAMING. Now i am back at work today after spring break and my dh says just bring her in here today is not the day to do cio b/c she is going to have hard enough time being without you after being home with you for over a week. So i am too tired to argue and in the bed she comes. Now my thing was it was 4 am not like it was 2 am i get up about 530 anyway and i was asleep by 930 last night so even though i was and am tired i figured it was a good time to cio b/c it wasnt like it was the middle of the night.I said yesterday how i didnt wnat to do cio b/c of my neigbors downstairs and all but i am reconsidering. anyway so i dont know what to do. Dh is no help he is like how am i suuppose to know what to do? So we are thinking maybe putting her to bed later? you think that will work.
Is it possible she doesnt need more than 9 hours at night sleeping time?
The thing is when i used to go in she was half asleep sort of and the pacifier would put her rightback now she is full of energy.Even when i took her in my room she doenst just go to sleep she is flapping her hands allaround and cooing. HELPPPPPPPPPP
Sorry so long

Message edited 4/11/2007 8:13:08 AM.

Re: Another sleeping issue post and a dh vent

WE had a similar night last night. Ryan woke at 1am crying on his belly - I went in a flipped him and he stared at the ceiling for like another hour before falling back to sleep - then 5:30am he is up, I change/feed him and PRAY he goes back to sleep but nope, he just flopped around the crib til I got him at 7. I KNOW they need more than 9 hours sleep at night (Right?!?!?!?) and since Ryan doesn't nap well during the day I know this is a problem for us. I wish I knew how to fix it. I"m thinking once he starts actually crawling (vs. rocking on all fours and WANTING to crawl) he might expell some energy during the day and stop waking up??? I wish I had advice for you but I know exactly what you're going thru. I am exhausted today!!!

Re: Another sleeping issue post and a dh vent

thanks. Allison doesnt nap well during the day either

Re: Another sleeping issue post and a dh vent

I think you and your husband need to agree to a plan before bedtime and then stick to it. The middle of the night is an awful time to discuss the approach you should take.

Remember your downstairs neighbors probably don't like the short but multiple wake ups they are already hearing, I'm sure they'd be willing to suffer through a week for a long term improvement. You should tell them its happening if you go the CIO route, but not ask permission. They will want to know that you are aware of the disruption and that an end is in sight.

Three things to remember:
1) No matter how sure some people here seem, none of us know what we are doing. We are all guessing and hoping for the best.
2) There is no magic answer that works for all families. There will be trial and error.
3) If you start CIO be ready to give it a real try, which may mean hearing crying for two hours straight. If you give in after just a bit you are going to prolong the effort in the long term. If you aren't ready to see it through, don't use the approach until you are ready.

Message edited 4/11/2007 8:19:59 AM.

Re: Another sleeping issue post and a dh vent

thanks Calla good points you make. i agree the middle of the night is not the time to discuss things. i should have mentyioned i thouht we had agreed to do cio but he caved in to his little girl crying..

My neighbors have two young kids too so they probobly would understand!

Re: Another sleeping issue post and a dh vent

They need more than 9 hours of sleep. Ds used to be like that. But now I follow a pretty strict schedule and even though he doesn't nap for long, he does nap 3 times a day and sleeps for about 12 hours overnight. Putting her to bed earlier may be more helpful then putting her to bed later. It sounds like she may be overtired and that's keeping her from settling down.