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SweetestOfPeas
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Another spinoff to SAHM
for those of you who want to be a SAHM but cannot afford to do so in this area, which is worse in your opinion:
moving OOS so that you can afford to stay home?
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sending your kid/s to daycare?
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Re: Another spinoff to SAHM
My reasons aren't really because we can't afford...well...we can't, but I wouldn't want to
ANYWAY...to answer your question...In our situation, the worst would be for us to move OOS.
Plain and simple.
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| Posted 10/11/06 10:28 AM |
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Shelly
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Re: Another spinoff to SAHM
This is quite a loaded question. Its a choice I already made so I'll answer it. I chose to put by daughter in daycare.
My DH has his own business and I am an attorney- so it would be very difficult for either one of to start over. DH woudl have to start his business from scratch. He has no connections anywhere the cost of living is significantly less than in NYC.
Also we have no family oustide NY, so my daughter would be completely separated from her family. We have a small family, but we are very close. Watching my daughter grow up with my neice is one of the best things in my world. The way my neice loves my daughter is just heart warming. I couldn't take that away from my daughter.
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| Posted 10/11/06 10:28 AM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Another spinoff to SAHM
To answer my own Q
I have nothing against daycare. I worked for company for 11 yrs who offered Montessori daycare on the premises. but IMO, that is the only way I can see myself going back to work - if the facility was under the same roof as my job.
Otherwise, I would rather move OOS.
My DH's cousin & wife just moved to OH from Los Angeles b/c they could not afford to have her be a SAHM. After a year of dropping her kid off everyday, they had enough and decided that it was worth it to move.
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| Posted 10/11/06 10:34 AM |
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MrsBlueSash
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Re: Another spinoff to SAHM
If I lived near family and moving OOS would take me away from them I'd rather stay and send my kids to daycare then move.
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| Posted 10/11/06 10:35 AM |
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Jax430
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Re: Another spinoff to SAHM
I'd rather send my kids to daycare. We have no desire to live away from the tristate area.I have nothing against daycare, I just wish I had the option to stay home.
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| Posted 10/11/06 10:37 AM |
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MegZee
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Re: Another spinoff to SAHM
luckily (well hopefully too, lol) FH's parents will watch our future children 3x per week, my mom 1x per week (she still works full time, but has days during the week off - FH's parents are retired- well his mom was a SAHM) and I would be able to work from home once a week. but we'll see what happens!
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| Posted 10/11/06 10:39 AM |
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nov04libride
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Re: Another spinoff to SAHM
Posted by Jax430
I'd rather send my kids to daycare. We have no desire to live away from the tristate area.I have nothing against daycare, I just wish I had the option to stay home.
Same here. I would definitely move within the tristate area (NY, NJ, CT, even PA), but much further I would not consider.
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| Posted 10/11/06 10:40 AM |
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Re: Another spinoff to SAHM
Tough one. I guess I would prefer daycare.
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| Posted 10/11/06 10:41 AM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: Another spinoff to SAHM
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
for those of you who want to be a SAHM but cannot afford to do so in this area, which is worse in your opinion:
moving OOS so that you can afford to stay home?
or
sending your kid/s to daycare?
It isn't always about money. I am returning to work part time for professional reasons. A lot of the licences I worked very hard for would expire within a short time if I didn't return to work. Plus, I have a lot of flexiblity in my job that I don't want to give up especially if I have to find a job in a year or so.
So, I will hire a nanny/babysitter for the 24 hours I'm at work. When she's a little older, she will go to daycare where she will benefit from the interaction with other children.
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| Posted 10/11/06 10:46 AM |
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LisaI
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Re: Another spinoff to SAHM
*If* we couldn't afford to live in our area, *personally* sending our child to daycare would be worse for us. We've already made the move oos and couldn't be happier with our decisions (we didn't fully make the move decision based on cyhildren , for she didn't come until 3-4 years after the move).
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| Posted 10/11/06 10:49 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Another spinoff to SAHM
I've already made the decision too - both of my kids are in full-day daycare. While moving out of state seemed like a good option at the time, I prefer the school districts in LI. Also having family nearby is invaluable.
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| Posted 10/11/06 11:16 AM |
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stickydust
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Re: Another spinoff to SAHM
The thing is I live OOS and I still cannot afford to be a SAHM. I guess it depends where out of state you live - anywhere near a major city i still going to be expensive just maybe not as expensive. I am an attorney so I make a decent salary and we just can't afford to give it up.
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| Posted 10/11/06 11:24 AM |
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sirk1020
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Re: Another spinoff to SAHM
Before moving OOS I would send my kids to daycare - I think
...we are don't have kids yet so I can't say for sure - but that would be my first instinct
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| Posted 10/11/06 11:24 AM |
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antoinette
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Re: Another spinoff to SAHM
This is a tough one. But since I would like to move out of state I would say move... My DH doesnt want to move oos so we are in the process of buying a new place in LI. I have to go back to work but Im trying to get something at night so to avoid daycare. Im not against daycare completely but since I have been home with my son for over a year it would be very difficult and heart wrenching for me. Then if we have another child we could never afford 2 daycare bills so I would be home again anyway.
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| Posted 10/11/06 11:27 AM |
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Redhead
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Re: Another spinoff to SAHM
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
for those of you who want to be a SAHM but cannot afford to do so in this area, which is worse in your opinion:
moving OOS so that you can afford to stay home?
or
sending your kid/s to daycare?
being near my family is my FIRST PRIORITY...IMO it is what truly matters MOST in my life..
i would be doing a lot of sacrificing of whatever before i moved OOS...
And i just do not look at daycare as a HORRIBLE option
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| Posted 10/11/06 6:53 PM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: Another spinoff to SAHM
Daycare or an au pair before moving OOS. In my job I can have flexibility of working from home maybe one day a week. If I get another position other than what I have now down the road I could even have more flexibility. Some people I work with work from home Monday and Friday and do daycare or a babysitter 3 days. I guess it would depend on your job if you could make it work.
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| Posted 10/11/06 7:24 PM |
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