Any Interfaith moms? Holiday question...Long..Need advice..

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Re: Any Interfaith moms? Holiday question...Long..Need advice..

My DH is also Jewish and I'm Catholic. Kids are being raised Catholic, DH does not practice at all and does not want to teach them about judiaism, at least yet.

However, we have had to address racism with one set of parents. We told them in no uncertain terms that we don't like or believe the same things, and those thoughts would not be tolerated, we want to teach our children to judge people on their personality, not what they look like. So, if I were in your situation, I'd tell my parents that while the kids are being raised catholic, they are being exposed to the jewish faith as well, which I'm excited about as I feel it will help teach tolerance.

Good luck, I know it's not an easy discussion.

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For us, I want to make it clear to everyone that we, my child and I...are Jewish. We don't celebrate Christmas, its not our holiay. But, Grandma and Grandpa celebrate Christmas and they want to share that with you so they are giving you presents, and we give them gifts also! To let them know we are happy that they celebrate Christmas.
We celebrate Chanukah, we light the candles, sing the songs and enjoy ourselves. Daddy celebrates Christmas (like Grandma & Grandpa, so because of that, I make Daddy a nice Christmas dinner...)

There is always going to be competition...you can't stop that.

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Message edited 9/29/2007 8:57:16 PM.

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I am truly sorry. To not respond to a special invite like a baptizm is uncalled for.
Personally, I would tell both sides that due to the comments made during the holidays that you and DH will NOT be spending the holidays with family anymore. It will be a time for YOUR family, in your home only. I would then say that when both sides are ready to accept and RESPECT your new family that you will reconsider your position in the matter.

I would call my mom before leaving for LI for the holidays and make it very clear that if there is ONE negative comment you will leave with your daughter at that very moment.

This is just stupid. Your child might be catholic but of course, she needs to know and respect her father's religious beliefs- as she is learning about respecting millions of others beliefs too. Maybe your families need the lesson as well. Hugs.

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Posted by sweetness

DH's family didn't even respond to her christening invitations. TheY aren't any better than my family, they are constantly insulting my religion in front of me.

This is kind of crap i deal with, first it was always from DH's family, now it begun to come from mine too.

I just dont' know what to do anymore

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totally understand!! I am jewish and DH is catholic and our baby will be jewish, Dh is not that religious and doenst think its fair to raise the baby cathlic when he doesnt really follow the religion other then to celebrate x-mas and easter, this def caused issues with his family b/c they are very catholic, but its none of their business, this is our decision, we will still celebrate both holidays, and we have a tree and a manorah, but the baby will have a baby naming or briss and will not get gifts from santa at our house for x-mas, he/she will get a present from mommy and daddy and then on x-mas day, he will get more presents at his aunts house (where x-mas is held). I just had his family over for their first chanukkah dinner and it went well, they brought chanukkah gifts for me and DH, which was sweet, but my SIL couldnt resist getting me also a poinsetta for an "early christmas gift" LOL. however, it has been a long 31/2 years of dealing with the religion issue and we still hear comments form his SIL about how DH should go to church, etc. He doesnt want to!! So leave him a lone!! People need to butt out and mind their own business, she even made a comment that she will make sure our baby knows about jesus, um excuse me, you will NOT be teaching my child ANYTHING about jesus, my DH will do that, thank you very much! Dh mom made a comment a couple years ago that she is just afraid the baby will have more in common with my family then hers b/c if the religion, which i think is ridiculous, but i guess she just feels insecure, plus i am the first jewish person to marry in their family (one of my SIL was jewsih but converted and is raising the children catholic), well once this baby comes , they will just have to deal!!

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