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05mommy09
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Anyone here have a manic depressive relative
I know my mom has issues- but shes driving me crazy!
She dosent take her meds, she skips Dr.'s apt's... and she is sooooooooo nasty!
I can handle the sluggishness, the "im not leaving the house" and all that stuff... but the nastiness is sooooo hard...
I swear- something that is not even close to being an argument... she makes a HUGE deal- and literally just stops talking to me for days on end....
I love her, and try to help her in every way I can- but Im so tired of "fighting" with her- when there is nothing to even fight about!
How do you handle it??? I try to blow it off- and remind myself... in a few days she'll be normal again... but its soooo fustrating when I wanna tell her something... and she refuses to pick up the phone... or just hangs up on me!
How do I intervene- make her take her meds... follow through with her apt.'s????
When she takes her meds... I can see such a HUGE difference... and I can immediately tell when she stops taking them... However she denies there being any difference....so she picks and chooses when she takes them...
This has been going on for years and every day it gets worse... I forsee this being a VERY serious thing if she dosent get better fast...
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Re: Anyone here have a manic depressive relative
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| Posted 8/29/06 10:53 PM |
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nyteacher13
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Re: Anyone here have a manic depressive relative
I definitely have one or two... One is diagnosed...
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| Posted 8/29/06 11:19 PM |
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MABLE03
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Re: Anyone here have a manic depressive relative
Just be careful with her watching your son 
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| Posted 8/29/06 11:21 PM |
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peabody
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Re: Anyone here have a manic depressive relative
My friend's husband and it's a tough situation. I feel for her, she has a heard of gold and so much patience.
He is a really good guy, but this disease really puts a strain on the relationship.
Is she diagonosed as bipolar? What meds is she on? And who prescribed them?
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| Posted 8/29/06 11:37 PM |
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bluefairyli
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Re: Anyone here have a manic depressive relative
i am bipolar and since i was a kid they had me as add well now i am on thr right meds and i feel great yes i have my ups and downs butnow there normal not to the extereme. I have delt with this all my life, and now my son has it too. She needs to keep her doc. apt and stay on her meds. you got FM.
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| Posted 8/30/06 12:14 AM |
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Porrruss
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Re: Anyone here have a manic depressive relative
I had a dear friend who was diagnosed manic-depressive and refused to take her meds. It was exhausting. I'm sorry I don't have any advice.
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| Posted 8/30/06 5:51 AM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Anyone here have a manic depressive relative
Posted by MABLE03
Just be careful with her watching your son
Thanks for the tip.....
Im actually not 100% of what her diagnosis is- I try not to pry- and although she admits she is depressed.... she has never actually informed me om what her true diagnosis is....
She loves her counselor, but her psychiatrist was horrible.. and she just switched... and she said so far so good....but a Dr can only do so much.... if she dosent live up to her end of the deal- then she is never gonna get better!
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| Posted 8/30/06 7:47 AM |
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IrishTracy
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Re: Anyone here have a manic depressive relative
She must take her meds. I have a an Aunt who has gone of her meds & it was REALLY bad.
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| Posted 8/30/06 7:53 AM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Anyone here have a manic depressive relative
i dont think she like goes off them completly- rather than she just isnt consistent w/ taking them...
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| Posted 8/30/06 7:59 AM |
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skygirl
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Re: Anyone here have a manic depressive relative
My mom is manic depressive/bipolar and a whole lot of other things.
What happens with her is that when she is on the right combo of meds she feels normal and thinks she no longer needs them.
As far as how I handle the mood swings, nastiness (all the ups and downs) I talk to dh and a few of my friends, just getting it out helps.
I also make it clear to my mom in a nice but firm way that I willl not deal with her nastiness and will speak to her tomorrow. THe following day when I call, she is usually ok- but she knows that I am not doing the pity party.
I know its hard, please feel free to fm me if you want to talk, I know how difficult it can be.
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| Posted 8/30/06 8:09 AM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Anyone here have a manic depressive relative
Posted by skygirl
My mom is manic depressive/bipolar and a whole lot of other things.
What happens with her is that when she is on the right combo of meds she feels normal and thinks she no longer needs them.
OMG- my mom is the same exact way-
Thanks for your input- its def. helpful!
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| Posted 8/30/06 8:23 AM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: Anyone here have a manic depressive relative
I'm sorry. That's really hard
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| Posted 8/30/06 11:20 AM |
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Phyl
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Re: Anyone here have a manic depressive relative
Posted by Princessmaris
Posted by skygirl
My mom is manic depressive/bipolar and a whole lot of other things.
What happens with her is that when she is on the right combo of meds she feels normal and thinks she no longer needs them.
OMG- my mom is the same exact way-
Thanks for your input- its def. helpful!
Unfortunately that is common for them to feel better so they don't take the meds.Sorry you are going thru this
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| Posted 8/30/06 11:53 AM |
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nov04libride
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Re: Anyone here have a manic depressive relative
Do you know what manic depression is? Because what you are describing does not sound like it, unless she has episodes where she is totally opposite...Otherwise it is just depression. The manic refers to the dramatic highs and lows. Often bipolar people go on spending binges, spending thousands at a time during the euphoria periods.
Can you talk to your dad and find out what exactly is wrong with her? Without being able to talk to her about her issue it's hard to know what she should be doing to correct it.
You can't legally force her to go to appts or take medicine. Unless you feel she is a danger to others you can't even have her committed. But maybe your father can monitor her more closely if they are living together.
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| Posted 8/30/06 11:57 AM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Anyone here have a manic depressive relative
Posted by nov04libride
Do you know what manic depression is? Because what you are describing does not sound like it, unless she has episodes where she is totally opposite...Otherwise it is just depression. The manic refers to the dramatic highs and lows. Often bipolar people go on spending binges, spending thousands at a time during the euphoria periods.
Can you talk to your dad and find out what exactly is wrong with her? Without being able to talk to her about her issue it's hard to know what she should be doing to correct it.
You can't legally force her to go to appts or take medicine. Unless you feel she is a danger to others you can't even have her committed. But maybe your father can monitor her more closely if they are living together.
Dramatic highs and lows... describes her very well....
My dad knows nothing... I have more info than he does... and I dont have very much
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| Posted 8/30/06 2:08 PM |
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MrsS2005
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Re: Anyone here have a manic depressive relative
Unfortunately I don't think there's much you can do. You can't force her to take her medicine and you can't get information from her psychiatrist b/c it's confidential. How does your mom behave during her highs and lows? Do you leave your son alone with her? Do you worry about leaving him in her care?
I'd lean on your DH, family, and friends for support. I'm sorry you're going through this. It's very tough dealing with a relative who suffers from mental illness.
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| Posted 8/31/06 11:56 AM |
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Beth
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Re: Anyone here have a manic depressive relative
I have some one in my family who is very ill
it's so sad- esp b/c my cousin and my sister are 3 weeks apart
and my sister hits and exceeds every milestone- while my cousin is not doing well at all 
it compunds it for my aunt to see my sister do so well - while my cousin needs alot of help
I hope he gets it soon- it's very hard on my Grandma as well
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| Posted 8/31/06 11:59 AM |
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antoinette
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Re: Anyone here have a manic depressive relative
we just found out that my MIL has had it for 15yrs and has been on lithium  Im a but shocked but it def explains alot. It seems to be pretty common though because dh's mom, aunt and g ma have it. 
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| Posted 8/31/06 12:11 PM |
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