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Rycois
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KateDevine
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
I'd just put them away until Christmas
They are going to be gone for eons anyway!!
Buy something small from each of them and call it a day
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| Posted 10/16/09 9:58 PM |
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JennyPenny
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
I can't say how i'd react because i've never been in the situation, but I think i'd be happy about it. They probably just wanted him to feel special about becoming a big brother, or didn't want him to feel left out. I wouldn't worry about it.
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| Posted 10/16/09 9:59 PM |
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Rycois
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| Posted 10/16/09 10:00 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
Honestly, I do think they are probably too big of gifts for the situation, but I wouldn't be too upset. I'm sure they're just trying to make him feel special with the new baby getting so much attention.
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| Posted 10/16/09 10:01 PM |
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juju
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
you're not overreacting at All! I would be pis sed too! Keep the Kitchen at their house and he can play with it there
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| Posted 10/16/09 10:02 PM |
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
Posted by KateDevine
I'd just put them away until Christmas
They are going to be gone for eons anyway!!
Buy something small from each of them and call it a day
I was going to suggest the same thing. While its annoying that they bought big ticket items, just think about how much money they saved you!!
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JChia
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
I think I'd be happy about it. yes, they are big ticket gifts, but I'm sure Ryan could use other things for xmas! New big boy bed, or a table or or - well, we know there are tons of other things!!!
It would drive me crazy that they didn't mention it to me prior though.
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Rycois
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
Posted by JChia
I think I'd be happy about it. yes, they are big ticket gifts, but I'm sure Ryan could use other things for xmas! New big boy bed, or a table or or - well, we know there are tons of other things!!!
It would drive me crazy that they didn't mention it to me prior though.
My issue is I have a 4 yr old sister who is growing out of a lot of things that Ryan inherits - so my list for him is short. I bet they bought the same kitchen my sister offered to give him but I didn't take it b/c we planned on getting him a different/new one.
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| Posted 10/16/09 10:09 PM |
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KateDevine
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
Posted by SweetCaroline
Posted by KateDevine
I'd just put them away until Christmas
They are going to be gone for eons anyway!!
Buy something small from each of them and call it a day
Plus, why leave it behind? If you bought a kitchen for your grandchild, wouldn't you want to present it to him? If he gets it and loves it - mommy bought it 
Why do your ILs do anything that they do? They make no sense! (Which I understand b/c my MIL doesn't either!)
And keep it packed up til Christmas and then buy him something else fun!
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nferrandi
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
Posted by SweetCaroline
Posted by JChia
I think I'd be happy about it. yes, they are big ticket gifts, but I'm sure Ryan could use other things for xmas! New big boy bed, or a table or or - well, we know there are tons of other things!!!
It would drive me crazy that they didn't mention it to me prior though.
My issue is I have a 4 yr old sister who is growing out of a lot of things that Ryan inherits - so my list for him is short. I bet they bought the same kitchen my sister offered to give him but I didn't take it b/c we planned on getting him a different/new one.
Can you just ask them to keep it at their house? Then you can get him the one you want for your house.
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| Posted 10/16/09 10:11 PM |
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headoverheels
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
i'd be annoyed - but Ryan isn't going to "get" that these gifts are for becoming a big brother, so that wouldn't worry me.
it sounds like something my MIL would do too  and if they pull that this year i'm going to have something to say since we have no room for more crap. 
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Kidsaplenty
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
Eh, I wouldn't let it bother me. Look at it this way-he'll have a couple of great new toys to keep him occupied while you're busy with the baby.
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| Posted 10/16/09 11:05 PM |
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yankinmanc
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
Thats awesome and I think really nice of them! I would love it if my in laws bought Noah something that big and thoughtful. He won't realise its from them, but I think its really nice. If there are other underlying issues, well thats a different issue in itself, but it sounds like a nice thing to do.
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Sweets13
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
Sorry...but THIS is not something to get all upset over. I am sure there are other items you can buy him for Christmas. We were planning on getting DS an Escalade for his birthday. My inlaws bought it for him and we were not upset at all! Grandparents are an important role in our family and if they get joy out of buying our children "big ticket" items, why should I get all pissy about it?
The only thing I would be upset about is that they left it behind and didn't give it to him themselves.
ETA:I don't see anything wrong with DS getting a kitchen for becoming a big brother. What if you put the bench away for X-mas?
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Ang-Rich
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
Posted by KateDevine
I'd just put them away until Christmas
They are going to be gone for eons anyway!!
Buy something small from each of them and call it a day
I agree...with you and with Kate's suggestion. In my opinion those gifts are generous but not appropriate to congratulate him on being a big brother. It's very nice that they are all so excited and I am sure their intentions were nothing but sincere and kind - but I would put them away for Christmas and in the meanwhile give him something small. Although, if they are not around when the baby comes it's sort of pointless in my opinion. The gift should be handed to him by them otherwise no big deal, you know?
Will Ryan be getting a gift from the baby? To me THAT is the big deal and still not worthy of a kitchen or toolbench.
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Rycois
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
Posted by Ang-Rich
Posted by KateDevine
I'd just put them away until Christmas
They are going to be gone for eons anyway!!
Buy something small from each of them and call it a day
I agree...with you and with Kate's suggestion. In my opinion those gifts are generous but not appropriate to congratulate him on being a big brother. It's very nice that they are all so excited and I am sure their intentions were nothing but sincere and kind - but I would put them away for Christmas and in the meanwhile give him something small. Although, if they are not around when the baby comes it's sort of pointless in my opinion. The gift should be handed to him by them otherwise no big deal, you know?
Will Ryan be getting a gift from the baby? To me THAT is the big deal and still not worthy of a kitchen or toolbench.
Yes, but when DH suggested a "big" ticket gift from the baby I told him I didn't want to go that route. While I want him to have something from the baby (and give something to the baby) I did not want it to be a huge gift. I don't want him to think getting a sibling goes hand and hand with a new collection for his toy room - that's not what I wanted to teach him.
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MrsList
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
I think they should have checked first because it's a big item and you'd have to find a place for it AND the tool bench. Otherwise, I guess they're just being generous, although I can see how you don't want him to get spoiled and expect things like that. I would be more annoyed with DH that he didn't speak up when they told him.
Are they extravagant with all gifts or is this the first time? If they are extravagant and you're not comfortable with it, first talk to DH and then talk to them together. If they insist on spending a set amount, they can buy a regular gift and then with the rest of the money, make a deposit into a bank account for him so he has some savings when he grows up for things like a car or college.
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ChrisDee
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
Could you tell them that you already bought a kitchen for x-mas? So, thanks but it needs to go back.
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| Posted 10/17/09 8:25 AM |
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Rycois
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
Posted by ChrisDee
Could you tell them that you already bought a kitchen for x-mas? So, thanks but it needs to go back.
That's what I said to DH - why didn't he say something about my wanting to do this for Christmas once he learned that's what they bought??  I think he was caught off guard and was told as they were heading out of town, so he didn't think about it - which did annoy me.
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| Posted 10/17/09 8:33 AM |
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avamamma
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
Posted by nferrandi
Honestly, I do think they are probably too big of gifts for the situation, but I wouldn't be too upset. I'm sure they're just trying to make him feel special with the new baby getting so much attention.
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| Posted 10/17/09 8:34 AM |
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ReiRei13
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
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Eh, I wouldn't let it bother me. Look at it this way-he'll have a couple of great new toys to keep him occupied while you're busy with the baby.
ITA!! And what a great way to look at it!! Great new toys are coming out all the time, so I'm sure there's plenty of other stuff for X-MAs!! Sorry you're upset though
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| Posted 10/17/09 8:59 AM |
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Lillykat
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
I would have mixed feelings only b/c I wasn't asked first- but in the end I would be okay with it. I hate when people buy without asking - but having said that - at this age they probably won't 1) understand why they got the kitchen, or 2) for that matter I doubt they will remember whether mommy bought it or grandma bought it (even though YOU will know). All they care about is that they got the kitchen and in the end if they wanted it that is what they will be focusing on - if they left it at your home and not presented to him then he probably won't have a clue who it is from.
Also these toys are expensive. If someone else wants to buy some of them that is less money that I have to spend - so I can either take that money and buy my DC some thing else so that they get 2 big gifts OR put the money towards their college fund b.c I don't have to buy the item any more.
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| Posted 10/17/09 9:11 AM |
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jenny
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
I might be a little annoyed about the way they presented the gifts but not mad that they bought them. Stop and think for a second, wouldn't you be even more pizzed if they didn't buy anything??
I understand the IL's get a bad rap but I would hold a grudge in this situation. I would be thankful to cross the kitchen off the xmas list and just find something else.
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Re: Apparently my ILs bought Ryan his entire Christmas list for becoming a big brother
Jessee, I totally agree with you that you are not overreacting, and I am not saying that because I have my own IL issues.
To me, the issue here is that you should be the one who determines what values to instill in your child.
That being said, I agree with the PPs who said that you should put those big gifts away for Christmas and give Ryan smaller gifts from them.
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