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jes81276
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are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
DS was invited to his first classmate birthday party. On the invitation it stated that the birthday girl was registered at Toys R Us. Honestly, I was shocked! Is this common now? I've never heard of this.
P.S. He's 3 years old
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Posted 3/25/11 8:10 PM  |
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sunny
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
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| Posted 3/25/11 8:13 PM |
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
I wouldn't give one but I think they are pretty common. The stores have pretty strict return policies now, so I think some parents are trying to avoid getting doubles.
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| Posted 3/25/11 8:32 PM |
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BargainMama
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
I wouldn't do it, but many do. I think it's helpful though because half the time I have no clue what to get.
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| Posted 3/26/11 9:43 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
I don't think it's the norm. I do think it's fine to put a wish list together to keep track of what your child wants & if someone asks for ideas, volunteer the info.
Or they could just use my method - say anything Legos or Polly Pockets & then bang my head against the wall at all the little pieces.
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| Posted 3/26/11 9:51 AM |
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familyoffive
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
I have never heard of that! Personally I have always been asked by parents what my son or daughter would like when they RSVP. Once my son's hit about 10 or 11 everyone just stared to buy gift cards.
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| Posted 3/26/11 10:17 AM |
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Moehick
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
Not the norm for me, never saw one or will do one for DD's.
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| Posted 3/26/11 10:24 AM |
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computergirl
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
DS has been going to classmate bday parties for 2 years now and I never saw one! I wouldn't do it... I would feel like I'm dictating certain price points for gifts. I would prefer someone just asked me what DS was into and I could give general categories of things.
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| Posted 3/26/11 11:36 AM |
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julesrbf
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
Sorry to crash, but DH's cousins did this for their daughter's birthday party last year and we were - we had no idea this was a "thing"! We purposely bought off of the registry because we were put off by it.
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| Posted 3/26/11 11:58 AM |
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MrsGmomof3
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
I find it EXTREMELY tacky... but yes, I have seen it, and no, I do not buy "off the registry". I normally get a gift card for the kid.
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| Posted 3/26/11 3:07 PM |
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Kassie
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
I personally would never do it but I wish everyone had a running wish list so i can buy off that list! I have such a hard time with girl gifts! DS is getting better at picking presents for his friends...he remembers what each kid brings for show and share and picks the most popular ones!
Next boy gift: a little tikes bowling set.
Next girl gift: a tangled princess dress up set from Disney store.
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| Posted 3/27/11 12:08 AM |
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
DS will be 4 this year. This is the first year I ever created a wish list for him. I didn't put it on the invitation and have only told people if they asked for ideas. Most of the items are $10, maybe $15. We have a big family and lots of friends to invite and I never know what to tell people so making a wish list was really just a way for me to be organized  of course I don't expect people to buy him something off of there, it's just some ideas.
I never even knew wish lists existed until we recently have gone to parties and the kids had them.. I find them helpful in picking a gift. I like to buy something that will be used and enjoyed.
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| Posted 3/27/11 11:43 PM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
Posted by Kassie
I personally would never do it but I wish everyone had a running wish list so i can buy off that list! I have such a hard time with girl gifts! DS is getting better at picking presents for his friends...he remembers what each kid brings for show and share and picks the most popular ones!
Next boy gift: a little tikes bowling set.
Next girl gift: a tangled princess dress up set from Disney store.
So, you don't want to make a wish list, but you wish everyone else did?
I don't understand why everyone is against a registry, but still want a list of what to buy, and to not buy duplicates.
You're never required to buy from a registry, but it gives you a good idea of what the child likes, and if you don't have any ideas of your own, you can buy from there, and know that there won't be any duplicates, and it won't be returned. I think it saves a lot of people a lot of time and frustration, on both sides.
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| Posted 3/28/11 8:10 AM |
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SweetCin
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
Posted by GoldenRod
Posted by Kassie
I personally would never do it but I wish everyone had a running wish list so i can buy off that list! I have such a hard time with girl gifts! DS is getting better at picking presents for his friends...he remembers what each kid brings for show and share and picks the most popular ones!
Next boy gift: a little tikes bowling set.
Next girl gift: a tangled princess dress up set from Disney store.
So, you don't want to make a wish list, but you wish everyone else did?
I don't understand why everyone is against a registry, but still want a list of what to buy, and to not buy duplicates.
You're never required to buy from a registry, but it gives you a good idea of what the child likes, and if you don't have any ideas of your own, you can buy from there, and know that there won't be any duplicates, and it won't be returned. I think it saves a lot of people a lot of time and frustration, on both sides.
I agree w/ Shawn. I tend to go crazy when it comes time to buy bday gifts & would love an "idea" list of what to buy; as long as there was a wide range of gifts/prices on the list.
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| Posted 3/28/11 8:56 AM |
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BeachMom
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
I wouldn't do it, but with the return policies lately it's not a bad idea. i dont think it is the norm though.
Personally we get most birthday gifts either on the internet, target or walmart. I'm not making a trip to toys r us for a birthday present.
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| Posted 3/28/11 9:35 AM |
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dpli
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
I've done it, but only gave the info to people if they asked what to get him. I don't think I had anything on there over $30 and it's generally family who are buying for him.
The down side that I saw on here was that it's a wish list, NOT a registry. So, when someone buys a gift, it isn't removed from the list and the birthday boy/girl could end up with 6 of the same thing. If no receipts are given to the parent (I rarely get them), you are stuck with all the duplicates.
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| Posted 3/28/11 10:21 AM |
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A3CM
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
i definitely think its becoming more the norm than people think...
i have done it for all my kids birthdays & Christmas and people actually thank me for it.
we have things from $5 - $500 on the kids lists and family usually buys the bigger items, but it still gives people the option.
i also put clothing sizes on their gift "registries" in case people want to get them clothes.
i see nothing wrong with them.. BTW my kids are 20 months and 3.5 years old.
i LOVE the idea and i just wish MORE people did it.
whattogive (.) com actually has a registry where you can post things from all different stores and not just one.
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| Posted 3/28/11 6:16 PM |
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rojerono
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
I've done them before but only offer them when people ask what they should buy for my kid, ya know?
I don't mind them and think they are just 'suggestions' so the host has something to say when they get the inevitable 20,000 calls asking what their kid likes!
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| Posted 3/29/11 6:14 AM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
Plus, as DC get older, they want very specific items, and if you dare get them the wrong Bakugan character, you're in big trouble!
I'll probably set one up soon for both DC so DW and I remember what the kids want.... 
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| Posted 3/29/11 7:44 AM |
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LisaI
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
Not for a classmate...weird. but if it's the norm. for them in their family I get it. My GF does this all the time for her kids (well they make their own lists) and I love it.
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| Posted 3/29/11 8:33 AM |
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AnnBrunoXO
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
honestly - i hope this is not becoming the "norm"
that is just ridiculous. Kids (at that age) should learn to appreciate whatever is given to them by family and friends. I have no problem if you know they like a specific thing and you purchase it for them - but to teach the child to go out and make a list of everything he/she wants - is crazy to me. What if they don't get what is on the list? What are these parents going to tell them then?
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| Posted 3/29/11 8:57 AM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
Posted by AnnBrunoXO
honestly - i hope this is not becoming the "norm"
that is just ridiculous. Kids (at that age) should learn to appreciate whatever is given to them by family and friends. I have no problem if you know they like a specific thing and you purchase it for them - but to teach the child to go out and make a list of everything he/she wants - is crazy to me. What if they don't get what is on the list? What are these parents going to tell them then?
They have a list in their heads anyway, and they get upset when they don't get what they want, with or without a registry. This won't affect the child in any way. Most of the times, they won't even know it exists.... I just see it as making things much easier for the parents (of the child, and the people going to the party). I'm all for making things easier....
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| Posted 3/29/11 9:23 AM |
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AnnBrunoXO
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
Posted by GoldenRod
Posted by AnnBrunoXO
honestly - i hope this is not becoming the "norm"
that is just ridiculous. Kids (at that age) should learn to appreciate whatever is given to them by family and friends. I have no problem if you know they like a specific thing and you purchase it for them - but to teach the child to go out and make a list of everything he/she wants - is crazy to me. What if they don't get what is on the list? What are these parents going to tell them then?
They have a list in their heads anyway, and they get upset when they don't get what they want, with or without a registry. This won't affect the child in any way. Most of the times, they won't even know it exists.... I just see it as making things much easier for the parents (of the child, and the people going to the party). I'm all for making things easier....
I understand what you mean - but its just not necessary - you really nailed it on the head when you said its "just easier for the parents". What would be the big deal if the parents ran back to Toys r us and exchanged or returned a few gifts for their child? Why has that become such a hassle? At 3 years old - life is just beginning for them - they don't need to set expections of what to get for their birthday. I thought that was supposed to be a surprise. I have 2 kids and they have never gotten upset by what they have received as birthday gifts - we usually buy them something they really want and they know to thank everyone for whatever other gifts they receive. Its the surprise element that should makes birthdays special for the child not giving them a gift that their parents had them register for to make their life easier.
In the end - to each his own.
Also - if the child gets upset with what they got for their birthday - well - TOUGH - that's part of growing up.
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| Posted 3/29/11 10:05 AM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
Posted by AnnBrunoXO
I understand what you mean - but its just not necessary - you really nailed it on the head when you said its "just easier for the parents". What would be the big deal if the parents ran back to Toys r us and exchanged or returned a few gifts for their child? Why has that become such a hassle?
But, it's two presents to Toys-R-US, one back to Target, 4 from Walmart, 1 from Sears, and 4 on-line. Some with receipts, some without.
It's still exactly the same surprise for DC as if there wasn't a registry. What's the difference between me keeping a mental or paper list and telling people over the phone, or giving them a link? I don't think things have changed at all, just becoming easier. As long as I can remember, even for myself, there have always been "wish lists", they were just non "official" or on-line, but they've always been there.
Every party DS's been to, I ask the parents what the child wants. Every party for DC, I get asked what they want, so everyone already expects a "list" of some type.
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| Posted 3/29/11 11:08 AM |
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dpli
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Re: are registries for birthdays the "norm" now?
Posted by AnnBrunoXO
I have no problem if you know they like a specific thing and you purchase it for them - but to teach the child to go out and make a list of everything he/she wants - is crazy to me.
My DS doesn't know about his list. I make the list and only give it out when asked what he would like. I don't see how it's different from someone asking what he wants for his BD or Christmas and me telling them. 
If he gets something off the list, great. If he doesn't, he doesn't. I just see it as a way to give people suggestions because off the top of my head I can't always remember what he would like. I also think the list gives people a range of prices to choose from, since I am not going to assume what they would want to spend on a gift by suggesting one or two things.
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