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gpsyeyes
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
Posted by purplegirl
I feel so upset and torn about this. I want to stay home when the baby is born (after my maternity leave ends, I mean) but I feel like financially it will be too huge of a stretch to do. But the idea of leaving an infant in day care or with a babysitter makes me so sad. I dont want someone else raising my own child.
People keep asking me what my plans are and I feel so stupid but I still honestly don't know! Is anyone else going through this?
I feel exactly the same way. I will have to return to work - my income is much greater than my husband's & we need it to survive. I should be out 3 months & then return. I am hoping to do daycare on a part time basis using my mom 2 days a week. It is going to be very difficult & this is the main reason I was not going to have to have children because I would be unable to stay home with them. Things changed, however, when I became unexpectantly pregnant and we have to go with the changes! I think it will work out & as another post says, we are raising our children, not the "caregivers"!
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
Posted by Ang-Rich
I will be returning to work once my paid maternity leave is up - not considering unpaid leave at this point. It's a hard decision but a necessary one.
I am fortunate to have a great paying job in a field I like with great benefits. It would hurt my family financially if I were to stay home and I refuse to allow DH to take on a second job and lose more time from his child although he would do it in a heartbeat if it was what I wanted.
I agree with the poster above - no one but my husband and I will raise our child. The daycare center will watch my child, care for my child, and provide some education to my child during the day but we will instill his/her values,we will teach him/her right from wrong, we will sacrifice ourselves to provide a better life for him/her, we will be her core.
Ang - I was going to say the SAME exact thing!!!!!!
Since when was daycare considered a foster home????  I have never heard a parent of a school-aged child sayign that the teacher was raising her child! My baby would be in daycare for about the time a child would be in school anyway. I take the baby home, spend time with him/her, spend weekends with him/her. I'm sure I will get the brunt of the crying and boo boos... I hope to be my child's best friend too - but, I'm hoping my child will have an assortment of friends to choose from. Not for nothing, but I'm a 33 year old woman - my child will need better peers!
If I won the lottery, or someone told me - hey - you want me to pay your bills for you, I would say - "sh*t yeah - come on kid, we are sleeping late every morning and frolicking in the park all day," but since neither seem to be a reality at this point in my life, and my career has been built slowly and painfully, brick by brick in my life, AND we can hardly get by on 2 incomes as it is, day care is our only option.
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MrsBlueSash
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
I don't associate day care with being sad. I will work, willingly, after the baby is born. I look forward to leading a balanced life. I know its not everyone's preference, and I can appreciate the opposite, but it suits how I feel about what I need. I think I will still be a great mom even if I work.
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| Posted 1/4/07 9:46 AM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
Posted by MrsBlueSash
I think I will still be a great mom even if I work.
You will be an amazing mom!!!!!!! 
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| Posted 1/4/07 9:47 AM |
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vegalady
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
Yes i will be going back to work but not sure after 3-6 months DH and I are still deciding on that. I think i will need some time to myself b/c i get very antsy sitting in the house. I think i will go crazy if I did that.
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| Posted 1/4/07 9:51 AM |
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smdl
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
Most likely but I am working on a part-time career change at this time. So it will slow to start but eventually I will leave my full time work.
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| Posted 1/4/07 9:52 AM |
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krwm
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
I'll be going back to work, but working from home 3 days a week in the office 2 days. The 2 days I'm in the office my mom will be watching him and hopefully (still haven't asked her...) maybe 1-2 days that I'm home I may have my MIL watch him for part of the day.
I don't think there is anything wrong with day care. You've gotta do what you gotta do.
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| Posted 1/4/07 9:58 AM |
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MrsBlueSash
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
Posted by Ang-Rich
Posted by MrsBlueSash
I think I will still be a great mom even if I work.
You will be an amazing mom!!!!!!!
Aww thanks!  As will you!!!! And everyone on this board. We all care so much about doing things right, which I think is half the reason we're here talking it up about every subject under the sun, so we can learn from each other.
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| Posted 1/4/07 10:49 AM |
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gpsyeyes
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
Aww thanks! As will you!!!! And everyone on this board. We all care so much about doing things right, which I think is half the reason we're here talking it up about every subject under the sun, so we can learn from each other.
You have summed it up nicely!
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| Posted 1/4/07 10:54 AM |
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
I dont think so. We will see how the money is flowing but right now... no I will be a SAHM.
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| Posted 1/4/07 10:57 AM |
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
I will have to work for financial reasons. But my DH is a professor, and he is going on sabbatical next fall. Since I am a public school teacher, I will take leave till DH finishes his school year, then I will go back and he will be home. Then I will be off for the summer.
We won't need day care till the baby is 10 months, and then it will only be part time because DH has a great schedule.
It's hard for me to say right now how I feel about working- I really don't know if I will be happy to go back and won't know till I do it.
I think day care gets a bad rap because I know kids who are in great day care situations and benefit from the socialization. Even if she is in day care, DH and I will be the ones raising her because her most important relationships will be with us.
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Bebalina
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
I'm plannng on being a SAHM. However, I don't know for how long, I almost feel I'll go stir crazy if I'm home everyday, but for the first year I will be a SAHM after that maybe if I still feel stir crazy I'll get some temp work when my mom is in town just to get out of the house. But I will most def miss my salary.
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MommyofG
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
yes for 2 days only 4-5 hours though. I go back in March.
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megsmom
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
I go back a week from Monday..
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| Posted 1/7/07 12:13 AM |
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Michelle1123
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
I HAVE to work FT, but my mil and grandmother watch my daughter and will watch the new baby too. I wouldnt be able to afford day care, so if they werent here, I wouldnt be able to work at all, and we'd probably have to sell our house.
It really is heartbreaking 
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Eireann
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
No, I am not...and I'm very sad about it.
I went back last December when DD was 3 mos. old and it worked out great--I really, really, love my job. The whole working mom thing is a bit stressful at times, but I don't know if I'm cut out to be a SAHM--it was never a dream of mine.
Anyway, we decided that this is what's best for us right now and it could change eventually, but I am looking forward to the challenge!
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nmp070106
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
yes I have to I am the insurance carrier!! but it is ok, I think daycare is a good thing for them!
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JRG71
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
I'm not sure yet. As of right now, I only go into the office 1 day a week (normally go in 3 days, but I have a long commute), but that is temporary because our offce closed and they haven't found a new bulding.
Also - I was asked to take on some new responsibilities so I am going to see if they will make the 1 day a week schedule permamant. If they don't - I quit. 
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meganNbobby
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
i am, i have to dh & I have no choice, if we want to keep our house.
my MIL will be watching my baby i work from 8-3 so it wont be too bad, I think I would be more sad if i had a stranger watching her but since it will be my MIL, we okay with that, if it ever came up in the future that i could stay home i would love to stay home
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lvdolphins
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
I will be working. Most likely returning PT. I am thankful that my mother works PT so, I can work around her schedule.
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jax2718
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
I WOULD LOVE TO BE A STAY AT HOME MOM BUT THATS NOT GONNA HAPPEN... AFTER I GIVE BIRTH I HAVE 14 YEARS TILL I CAN RETIRE AT HALF PAY. WHICH IS NOT BAD. I WISH I COULD WIN THE LOTTERY SO I COULD BE A STAY AT HOME MOMMY...
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bayla
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
i plan on staying home for around 5 months after giving birth and will prob return part time, 3 days a week, my SIL will watch the baby one day and i will have to find a babysitter or daycare for the other 2 days.
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| Posted 1/7/07 8:35 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
I am not able to stay home with the baby. I will be taking 12 weeks off after birth and then I am going back to work FT. My mil is going to watch our daughter for us so that helps ease my mind a bit. My friend may watch her a few days and she lives close to my job. I would be able to go there at lunch if I wanted to hang out with the baby for a bit.
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| Posted 1/8/07 10:16 AM |
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steph4777
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Re: Are you going back to work after the baby is born?
Yes, I will be going back to work after this baby is born. Yes it's tough sometimes not being with the baby all day, but I'm not sad about it. I actually enjoying working and don't feel guilty about it. DS is getting excellent care at his day care.... The staff there is NOT raising my son.
I was home with DS for 9 months and I was honestly not happy being a SAHM, I felt like something was missing. It's not for everyone, but to each it's own. DH and I are doing what we need to do to provide the for our family. If it means both of us working then so be it.
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