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monkeybride
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Re: At a loss for words..input appreciated
Posted by alexlynn7
Posted by LuvMy2Girls
I wouldn't tell him is a shameful place. That's teaches him that the pleasure he feels and sex is a bad shameful embarrassing thing down the line when he gets older. Then he'll hide it.
I feel sorry for your nephew.
I would let him do it, but just remind him there's a time and place.
I let my girls touch there, i don't want them to be ashamed of their bodies and their sensitive areas.
It teaches self awareness.
totally agree. this is how i will handle it too.
the term "shame shame" for genitals makes me cringe 
Yes we have family members that say this and it drives me bonkers 
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Re: At a loss for words..input appreciated
I wouldn't have said those words but I definitely wouldn't let him do it in public. When I change his diaper he touches his penis, as we call all private parts by there correct name, but I try and explain it to him about keeping it private but I don't think at 2 he gets it yet.
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| Posted 8/15/08 11:54 AM |
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Kidsaplenty
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Re: At a loss for words..input appreciated
Message edited 8/17/2008 6:33:06 PM.
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| Posted 8/15/08 11:55 AM |
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computergirl
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Re: At a loss for words..input appreciated
I actually never heard the "shame shame" term before. Honestly, that is disturbing, I had no idea moms said stuff like this. My DS touches himself, I never really gave it any thought except to tell him only to do it at home.
Not to make light of the situation, but these are prob the same type of women who swear on a stack of Bibles that their husband NEVER masturbates 
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| Posted 8/15/08 12:03 PM |
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MsMBV
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Re: At a loss for words..input appreciated
Um, they are kids. I hate when people do the whole "Shame" thing when it comes to their bodies. I think that is more damaging then letting the kid find his penis.
DHs grandmother tells DS shame shame everytime I change his diaper...no matter how many times I ask her not to I always pick him up & tell him he has nothing to be ashamed of.
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| Posted 8/15/08 12:38 PM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: At a loss for words..input appreciated
Seriously? I'd find some article from a well known pediatrician on the topic and send it to her. Other than that, there isn't much you can do unfortunately.
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| Posted 8/15/08 12:45 PM |
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Ladybug63
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Re: At a loss for words..input appreciated
Posted by alexlynn7
Posted by LuvMy2Girls
I wouldn't tell him is a shameful place. That's teaches him that the pleasure he feels and sex is a bad shameful embarrassing thing down the line when he gets older. Then he'll hide it.
I feel sorry for your nephew.
I would let him do it, but just remind him there's a time and place.
I let my girls touch there, i don't want them to be ashamed of their bodies and their sensitive areas.
It teaches self awareness.
totally agree. this is how i will handle it too.
the term "shame shame" for genitals makes me cringe
I agree!! I think its so sad that he was punished for exploring his OWN body.
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| Posted 8/15/08 12:46 PM |
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mosh913
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Re: At a loss for words..input appreciated
Posted by greeneyes361708
They yell at him and tell him, "Thats your shame shame. You should be ashamed of youjrself." And tell him to go in the corner.
OmG, that is terrible. No offense, but your SIL sounds very ignorant and obviously has no idea about child development. I still can't get over the fact that they have him go to the corner! The poor kid
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| Posted 8/15/08 1:30 PM |
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dawnygirl25
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Re: At a loss for words..input appreciated
Posted by LuvMy2Girls
I wouldn't tell him is a shameful place. That's teaches him that the pleasure he feels and sex is a bad shameful embarrassing thing down the line when he gets older. Then he'll hide it.
I feel sorry for your nephew.
I would let him do it, but just remind him there's a time and place.
I let my girls touch there, i don't want them to be ashamed of their bodies and their sensitive areas.
It teaches self awareness.
well said Michelle
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CkGm
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Re: At a loss for words..input appreciated
That is absolutely AWFUL what they did. As a therapist and child advocate, I would be so upfront with them about how damaging it is to call his penis- "shame, shame" parts
You are handling it perfectly. Its is natural what he is doing and absolutely nothing to be ashamed about. That story is just so sad.
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| Posted 8/15/08 2:16 PM |
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Ambersmom
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Re: At a loss for words..input appreciated
Posted by LuvMy2Girls
I wouldn't tell him is a shameful place. That's teaches him that the pleasure he feels and sex is a bad shameful embarrassing thing down the line when he gets older. Then he'll hide it.
I feel sorry for your nephew.
I would let him do it, but just remind him there's a time and place.
I let my girls touch there, i don't want them to be ashamed of their bodies and their sensitive areas.
It teaches self awareness.
Same here. My boyfriend and father go nuts when she touches herself; I just remind her that if she feels the need to touch her pachoot, she has to go do it in the privacy of her own room. I don't want her feeling that her body is something to be ashamed of.
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| Posted 8/15/08 2:47 PM |
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Melbernai
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Re: At a loss for words..input appreciated
Posted by dawnygirl25
Posted by LuvMy2Girls
I wouldn't tell him is a shameful place. That's teaches him that the pleasure he feels and sex is a bad shameful embarrassing thing down the line when he gets older. Then he'll hide it.
I feel sorry for your nephew.
I would let him do it, but just remind him there's a time and place.
I let my girls touch there, i don't want them to be ashamed of their bodies and their sensitive areas.
It teaches self awareness.
well said Michelle
I agree!!
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| Posted 8/15/08 2:54 PM |
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Elizabeth
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Re: At a loss for words..input appreciated
My 2 year old likes to hump his blanket so I call him "the blanket humper" all the time...I wonder if I'm scarring him for life  My 6 year old likes to grab himself sometimes but I remind him to do it in private. Just the term shame shame sounds so weird to me.
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| Posted 8/15/08 8:29 PM |
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megsm3
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Re: At a loss for words..input appreciated
We have a bunch of nieces and nephews and their parents tell them that is something to do only in private.
I feel bad that he is being told it is shameful!
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| Posted 8/15/08 9:09 PM |
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mosh913
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Re: At a loss for words..input appreciated
Posted by Elizabeth
My 2 year old likes to hump his blanket so I call him "the blanket humper" all the time...I wonder if I'm scarring him for life My 6 year old likes to grab himself sometimes but I remind him to do it in private. Just the term shame shame sounds so weird to me.
The blanket humper  That's great! I love when families are open like that and can joke. My family was like that. Some people are so uptight! I  you!
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| Posted 8/15/08 9:11 PM |
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IheartF&M
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Re: At a loss for words..input appreciated
This story is so upsetting to me. I think you did the right thing. When I change DS & he touches himself, I let him & I tell him thats your "pee pee". I will wait until he is done exploring to put his diaper on.
"shame shame" on these parents
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| Posted 8/15/08 9:19 PM |
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aliwnec10
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Re: At a loss for words..input appreciated
Posted by LuvMy2Girls
I wouldn't tell him is a shameful place. That's teaches him that the pleasure he feels and sex is a bad shameful embarrassing thing down the line when he gets older. Then he'll hide it.
I feel sorry for your nephew.
I would let him do it, but just remind him there's a time and place.
I let my girls touch there, i don't want them to be ashamed of their bodies and their sensitive areas.
It teaches self awareness.
exactly what i would have said.
You NEVER make them feel guilty about it!!! I cannot believe they said he should be ashamed of himself!  I think they should be ashamed of themselves instead!
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| Posted 8/15/08 9:22 PM |
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pmpkn087
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Re: At a loss for words..input appreciated
Well, my DS hasn't really done it around people.
But usually I just laugh 
But he only does it when his diaper is off when we're getting ready for a bath. and he barely ever touches it.
Maybe ask her to approach the ped. about it. There was a time when Steven was touching it a lot. Turns out, he had eczema really badly.
ETS: If it's such a shameful area, she wouldn't have any children
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