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neener1211
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Re: babysitting/daycare/inlaw question
no friggin' way!
Because you are aware of his pot smoking, if he was ever arrested while your child was in his care, I think you could be brought up on charges of knowingly endangering your child.
I feel like this is a story in Newsday, where you read it and you think, what were those parents thinking letting their child stay there (if God forbid something happened).
Message edited 3/7/2011 12:08:19 PM.
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CrankyPants
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Re: babysitting/daycare/inlaw question
No way. I'm surprised anyone said yes-I wish the people who did would come on and give their reasons.
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question2010
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Re: babysitting/daycare/inlaw question
Thank you all for your responses. I just needed that reassurance.
It is "funny" because if any of you wrote this post, I would have said the exact same thing you are all saying. I agree, it would be irresponsible parenting for me to let him watch my child, even in my house, alone. My gut instinct says no, and that is what I am goiing to go with. I just have to figure a way to go about saying, thanks, but no thanks. What do I do if dh gets mad because in the past he has thought I judged his family for this. How do I go about having his whole family hate me? more advice would be appreciated!
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tann22
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Re: babysitting/daycare/inlaw question
No Way!
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brownie
Baby #1 is here!
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Re: babysitting/daycare/inlaw question
Posted by question2010
Thank you all for your responses. I just needed that reassurance.
It is "funny" because if any of you wrote this post, I would have said the exact same thing you are all saying. I agree, it would be irresponsible parenting for me to let him watch my child, even in my house, alone. My gut instinct says no, and that is what I am goiing to go with. I just have to figure a way to go about saying, thanks, but no thanks. What do I do if dh gets mad because in the past he has thought I judged his family for this. How do I go about having his whole family hate me? more advice would be appreciated!
So your DH has no problems with the baby staying with his pot-smoking dad? 
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Re: babysitting/daycare/inlaw question
I'm going to go with definitely not.
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nferrandi
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Re: babysitting/daycare/inlaw question
Posted by CrankyPants
No way. I'm surprised anyone said yes-I wish the people who did would come on and give their reasons.
I said yes. It would be with the agreement that there would be no pot smoking during babysitting hours. I guess I'm in the minority, but I don't think smoking pot makes this man a bad person. And as long as his ability isn't impaired while watching DC then I don't think it's as big of a deal as the majority of you do. But that's just my opinion.
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| Posted 3/7/11 1:21 PM |
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bicosi
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Re: babysitting/daycare/inlaw question
Nope, sorry.. I'd NEVER take that chance or want to put my child in that position EVER. 
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brownie
Baby #1 is here!
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Re: babysitting/daycare/inlaw question
Posted by nferrandi
Posted by CrankyPants
No way. I'm surprised anyone said yes-I wish the people who did would come on and give their reasons.
I said yes. It would be with the agreement that there would be no pot smoking during babysitting hours. I guess I'm in the minority, but I don't think smoking pot makes this man a bad person. And as long as his ability isn't impaired while watching DC then I don't think it's as big of a deal as the majority of you do. But that's just my opinion.
To clarify, I don't think the FIL is a bad person b/c he smokes pot, but I still wouldn't want him to watch my child (just as I wouldn't want any one doing something illegal, or smoking, or drinking, or anything else distracting while watching my child).
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robynfs
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Re: babysitting/daycare/inlaw question
I would rather my son in daycare if I were you.
From my experience, people who abuse the drug in that manner have the mindset that they are 100% ok when they smoke and nothing would ever happen. This is just my experience, so I wouldn't trust him.
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| Posted 3/7/11 1:30 PM |
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carlowlou
loving my babies!
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Re: babysitting/daycare/inlaw question
there is zero chance this arrangement would be happening if it were my child. the argument with the family wouldnt even scare me, who cares what they think? your child is your priority.
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4PsInaPod
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Re: babysitting/daycare/inlaw question
nope.
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Ian&EmmesMommy23
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Re: babysitting/daycare/inlaw question
Posted by nferrandi
Posted by CrankyPants
No way. I'm surprised anyone said yes-I wish the people who did would come on and give their reasons.
I said yes. It would be with the agreement that there would be no pot smoking during babysitting hours. I guess I'm in the minority, but I don't think smoking pot makes this man a bad person. And as long as his ability isn't impaired while watching DC then I don't think it's as big of a deal as the majority of you do. But that's just my opinion.
but how WOULDNT his ability be impaired? i used to smoke pot and i know, whether "you" believe it or not, you are impaired. you're not quick to react and you're sluggish. i dont see how he would have the energy to play with the child or remember feeding times, etc.
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summertime
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Re: babysitting/daycare/inlaw question
Posted by question2010
This is going to be my first child and my FIL said he would watch our son one day a week. The one day would help us financially, but if we had the extra day of daycare, it wouldnt break the bank.
This seemed great when he first offered, but As I get closer to becoming an actual parent and having my son, I am very hesitant.
My FIL smokes pot morning, noon, and night. He has huge bags of it and even smokes with his kids and has been since they were 17. My dh does not, because he does not agree with that, but his siblings do. My FIL is a good guy and really cares about his family. He is there for us for anything we need, but I can't get past this pot thing. I am 98% sure he would not smoke before or during watching my son, but I really can't say I am 100% sure. Then there is the moral issue. Do I want someone who thinks it is ok to smoke with his 17 year old children to be watching my son, even if it is only one day per week? I don't know what to do.. When I spoke to dh about it, he said his dad knows better than to put our child in jepordy. My dh wants him to babysit, but the closer I get to being a mom, the stronger my feelings get to not having him watch him. I know if I tell him no, it wont be good and my dh family will dislike me which will cause issues with me and dh.
I think though, if I found out the babysitter smoked all the time, I wouldn't have hired her.
What would you do? Please respond.... Am I over reacting?
Are you overreacting???? UM NO your UNDERreacting. Seriously I would not even consider it. AT ALL. period
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