based off the other thread,the clomid one

i gotta say u girls scared me a bit..

we r not dumb and know this is going to be super hard..i mean how could 2 babies not be

but i was not prepared for terms like,body never the same again,cannot leave the house

i don't even know what i am asking here...i guess tips?

anything we should know..be prepared for

thanks!

Re: based off the other thread,the clomid one

The best advice I can give is Don't think, just do. If you sit there and think ,"how am I going to do this?" and "How am I going to manage that?" you'll just get too overwhelmed with everything. When it comes time for something like taking them both to the store just figure out what you'll need and go. You'll amaze yourself at how much of a multitasker you'll become!

If it was really that bad and unmanagable would I have had #3 only 21 months later?

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I cant speak from experience-yet but Gina I really think it depends on the pregnancy and the person. As the PP poster said, just do!! Don't think about how overwhelming/difficult it will be to manage... Mind over matter.. that's the approach Im going with.

Now check in with me in 4 months and remind me to step away from the ledge.

If it helps any, my Dr did say to me "some women breeze right thru it" and I think that's true.. some do and some don't. Same with a singleton..

As far as permanent damage to my body.. well, the jury is still out.

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It is very hard, but do not try to think about it now. You will just be able to do it! All twin mommies can!! You will be able to leave the house, but not for a bit. I think I took my preemies out together for the first time alone when they were home for a month or 2. Now, I take them places all the time!
THe best advice I can give to get through those first few months is to have food and help lined up. Lots of food!!!! and lots of help with the house hold things. A friend cleaned my kitchen and I was sooooo thankful. When a third person was there to feed the dogs, heat up food, clean the bathroom, hand you babies while nursing it was so huge.
For us we had to turn people away because they were so small (baby B went home under 4lbs) and scared the HELL out of us in the nicu about the risks of them getting sick once they were home.

You can do this!!!! and you're gonna be great!

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Re: based off the other thread,the clomid one

Don't stress. You'll figure it out!

Some days are crazy. Some nights are beyond crazy. It's all worth it!

You'll get on a schedule.
You'll figure out what works for you.
You'll get out of the house on your own w/ the babies.
You'll get better at it everyday.

You'll do great!

Re: based off the other thread,the clomid one

Glad you asked the question Gina because that thread scared me too..I remember thinking with my singleton that life would be forever changed, but he just enhanced it, we adjusted, and all is wonderful.

I am 'TRYING' to go into this pregnancy the same way, that yup..it will be hard, but we will work as a team family, and find our groove eventually...of course I say this from the safety of the babies being comfy in the womb...lol

We are not the first to do this, nor the last...we will survive

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As far as your body I feel like it is the luck of the draw. I had a pretty difficult pregancy (no pain though) and I am lucky with the exception of stretched out abs my body is the same, no residual problems or aches/pains.

And honestly you do what you have to do!
I closed on my house the day my twins were discharged form the NICU (10 days after birth), DH was working on our new house and we moved when they were 3 weeks old. We managed!

Yes there were a few days I called my husband crying saying I can't do this...one time he left work and by the time he got home 30 minutes later, both babies were napping and I was eating lunch! haha

I agree with the pp. Just do things! Don't worry about it as long as you are organized things are not bad at all! I started with the mentality that "we can always leave" if we need to. I think at this age (19 months) it is harder to stay home.

It is worth it a million times over!

based off the other thread,the clomid one

I was the same way when I was pregnant. I was very scared. I constantly heard from people wow one is hard I cannot imagine two. Well guess what it is not bad at all. The first few months are tough because they are not sleeping thru the night and eat bottles more frequently but we got through it and I would do it again. You have to realize that yes life will change and you cannot just run to the store quickly or anything quickly but you get into a routine and it becomes your normal. Try to stick to a schedule. If one baby wakes up to eat you need to wake the other one to eat. When people say never wake a sleeping baby they are talking about having one baby not multiples.

based off the other thread,the clomid one

I will tell you the first 3 months are the hardest but once you get past that you should be fine.....I was lucky bc I had help for the first month and my kids pretty much put themselves on the same schedule...I never had to wake anyone for a feeding they just seemed to get up at the same time and 3 yrs later they are pretty much still on the same schedule with the times they each wake up.......Will your body be the same after having them....probably not but look at Julie she look AMAZING after having twins and so does Jen....I on the other hand wasnt so luck with the issues I developed from the pregnancy....and as far as not being able to leave your house...that is a crock of shit........Get your ass up and out once those babies are born.....make the kids get adjusted to your life and your daily routine as well.... I always took my kids out and 3 yrs later I am still out and about with them....DO NOT sit at home you need to get out it will be so much better for you and the babies.....Hell is an old lady like me can get out the hoouse with 3 kids I am sure you can do it with 2 kids.....Good luck to you............

based off the other thread,the clomid one

my twins are a year now but i can't imagine it any other way - and i had 3 in 2 years and i don't think was that hjard and my kids were sick a lot

but i agree with above you just have to do - i can't stay confined in the house- so i made sure i had a stroller i could use- and started with walks - and there were times that all 3 were screaming. I knew i just had to walk faster and get everyhome - because i could not cuddle all three

the hardest thing is that you can't comfort 2 at the same time - you can hold two but not comfort them unless you tandem nursing - which is one great thing about tandem nursing.

once you find a routine - you figure out how to do things and defiently take help rom whomever offers it.

going places with your parents or parent friends are the easist - they love kids but if you just do - you can get lots

we took all 3 boys to a party in ct when my twins were 5 weeks - i was nursing one under a cover - chasing my 2 year old while my dh gave the other a bottle- it is amazing what you can accomplish - having multiples is the ultimate in multi-tasking.

but it is such a great thing - i love the bond my boyys have -they are so easy now - they play togetrher all the time

i had a relatively easy rpegnancy for twins - i was allowed to run till 22 weeks, i was able to walk a couple of miles till 34 weeks - i just listened to my body and sat down when neeeded- swimming was my saving grace

but i did not have a few scares here and there with cervix and my own blood isssues but it all worked out- i felt like everytime i went it was something else but you get through it and it is worth it in the end

my best advice - read a book on training babies how to sleep - does not have to be a twin book - and work on a schedule from day one- i used the baby whisper book because it was pro breast feeding but there are lots of good ones out there

Re: based off the other thread,the clomid one

Don't worry Gina! Yes, twins are hard work but you will be able to handle whatever comes your way and figure out what works best for you

I think what happened in the other thread was that the ladies were just trying to show that having multiples shouldn't be taken so lightly. I hear people all the time say they want twins because they are so cute or because than you are done in one shot. People just don't think of the whole picture with all the challenges associated with multiples.

You are going to be a great twin mommy!!

Re: based off the other thread,the clomid one

The first 4 months for me were very very difficult. I breastfed and pumped and pretty much never left the house. But I had my mom, two really great friends, and some family that took turns helping me overnight (DH works nights). You make it through somehow. Thank goodness it was a mild winter. I had my girls in their stroller taking walks every day it was over 40 degrees. It was great to just get out of the house and feel the sun.

My girls are almost 10 months now and I can do it all on my own. We have a great time! I don't get out much with them, but I am working on my confidence to be able to attempt it more often.

People who offer to help, make sure you pin them down on how! You want to help? Great, can you come next thursday from 2-6 and bring dinner? Make yourself a schedule so you know who you have helping you when.

Re: based off the other thread,the clomid one

Can't speak from experience yet but I have at least 8 multiple mamma friends I talk to on a regular basis. None of them has jumped off a bridge yet and all of their kids still have all their limbs. Oh and some, you can't tell they ever had twins by the way they look. So I think I will survive. It will be hard and I might need a tummy tuck sooner than later but I'll survive. Lol

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Im going to tell you MY experience and I didnt respond to the other one for this reason.

I got pg with twins - natural. Identicals they are so my egg split. SHOCK of my life.

that being said, I had a wonderful pregnancy! I was never considered high risk, had no health/medical issues. was a good candidate to go vaginally and it was my plan if both were head down. No bed rest.

Outside of the typical aches and pains you get with a pregnancy, and being tired, i had nothing more that that and gave birth via c-sec at 38wks since one was breech.

That even went well. They were in NICU for a day and went home with me.

I already had a 3 1/2 yr old at home and while I was a mom already, yes the 1st week was trying and I had a lot to learn. It only took me a month before I was out and alone and getting errands done, going for walks etc. I even had ppl tell me in BBB how brave I was but truth was, this is what to be done.

So its not always what others make it to be. yes. its hard and really, unless you are in it, you can really understand.

As for my body- I lost 15lbs and made it to pre pg weight and then even made it below my wedding weight.

I have no stetch marks and outside of a little belly pooch, i have to say I do surprise many out there when i tell them I carried twins.
As for my body and the aftermath- i applied for life insurance and came back super preferred.

so my experience is not like others...and im thankful things went this way for me.

Message edited 8/24/2012 11:45:20 AM.

Re: based off the other thread,the clomid one

thanks everyone so so much!

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And hopefully you won't need it but I recommend Mederma Stretchmark Therapy!

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u cannot see my stretch marks bc of the masses bruises from 200 mg of lovenox daily lol

but i will def look into it

thanks!

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and fwiw i do not care how my body looks,was not great to start with

i meant more in terms of health wise,bc i was not healthy to start with..one day at a time right