BIG fight

DH and I just got into another BIG fight
hew feels that he is not being appreciated / and or respected enough
He got me a NEW car for our wedding
that I just got into MY 1st accident ever in
we had the car for 6 months
WE also got a new fridge (stainless steal) that our daughter accendtly put a scratch into ( we had that for over 1 year)
SO with all of this combined with in a week he had blown his top
SO yesterday he had to go to the city we have 1 car now because the other on is getting fixed...SO I drooped him off at the train station and had to pick him up
well he got out early got an early train
I got out 10-15 min later and he blew his top because he had to watie out in the cold

and way my question is
HOW can me and our daughter make him feel better
what can we do every now and then to make him feel appreciated???

MInd you some times I feel the same way...I Come home to a sink full of dishes...1/2 eaten cake still on the plate ect.....

sorry so long I just needed to vent a little and get some advice

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sounds like my husband. it's like they forget all the good things we do. i can't help you just let you know i am right there with you.

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I think it is because everything happened in one week. That stuff wasnt your fault and I would ignore it. My DH is the same way. When I got my car after about a month someone hit the bumper and it cracked horizontily. He went NUTS on me. It wasn't my fault, I wasnt even in the car. He will get over it. I think it is more the fact that it is new and he wants it to stay that way but the fact is that A.) stuff happens and B.) you have daughter and things might get scratched. I get blamed for someone many little things around the house and it goes in one ear and out the other because life is to short for me to wonder how the wood floors got scratched (umm we have a dog). Hang in their

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But what can I do for him in the days to come
something nice
I would have me and our daughter give him B in Bed but he doesnt eat breakfast...what are some nice things we can do for him
that of course will not be $$$

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Just wanted to offer hugs

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This post might be too late, but here is what we do for each other occasionally...

We declare the other person a night. When he gets home from work (I get home first), I announce that it is "Patrick Night" as soon as he walks in the door. I make his favorite dinner and a special dessert. We watch whatever he wants to on television (or I rent a movie of his choice) and I wait on him, hand and foot. Before bed I throw in a back or foot massage.

All prep, cleaning, dishes, etc., are my responsibility and my gift to him.

It sounds very "Stepford" but it makes him feel like a King and it costs nothing.

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I'm sorry I just think we all have bad weeks or times when we get upset, and this happens to be his emotional. You both will get over this!!

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no advice but in the same situation almost... it is like he forgets that I am on vacation and do work, but still complains about everything... MEN

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Hi. I just read your post, and I can REALLY relate. I am married ten years (together 11), and I'd like to say things mellow with age ... but they don't. Men are men. If they don't have something to blame their women for, they have nothing else to do. I love my husband very much, but he can be a royal pain in the a**. As one previous responder wrote, you just need to let it go in one ear and out the other. You have a lot of years ahead of you ... and probably a lot more fights ... pick and choose the IMPORTANT ones and let the others roll away with time. Your husband (like everyone elses) will get over this and find something else to complain about before the new week begins.

Stay happy!