Birthday gift from your parents to spouse

My DH's birthday was monday.

My mom gave him a $25 check. Would that annoy you?

I don't know I am almost offended.

First I am a little shocked at the amount because we always give more than that even when things are tight and I mean she couldn't go get a giftcard instead?

I don't know..I guess nothing shocks me with her these days.

We will see what happens on my birthday in 2 weeks.

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My mom usually gives $100- same that she gives us, and my dad usually gets like a nice shirt for him or something like that.

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My parents just bought my DH the Wii Bundle, but it was his 40th birthday.

Usually they give him $100 to spend as he'd wish.

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my folks gave DH a $25 gift card to barnes & noble. They never give cash/checks and for them to do a gift card was a stretch and kind of shocking (they don't like anyone to know how much they spent).

You know your relationship with your mom better than any of us, so I don't know that I can say I would be offended or not, kwim?

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Message edited 9/19/2009 2:29:05 PM.

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My dad doesn't send DH a gift for his birthday. He didn't even send a gift for DS for his birthday this year.

We tell my mom to get us nothing for birthdays, anniversary, etc. since she's on a tight budget.

My ILs usually give us a check for $50 for our birthdays and $100 for the holidays.

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My parents give DH money, and they do the same for me, money. No, it's not the most creative but they are very generous in what they give. My MIL is more into shopping and buying actual gifts.

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so my dh's thoughts on things are...

if its a smaller gift like $25- go out and pick something-

If its a larger gift then check may be more appropriate- dh's parents just gave him a check and he will be getting Mets tickets for his birthday- me i email them my Amazon wish list that they can pick off of....

Dh and I get the same birthday amounts from both sides.. christmas dh parents seem to double - bc Santa brings gifts

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My parents are very generous with DH. They like him better than me sometimes

On the same note, my IL's are also very generous with me... and the kids.

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I don't think my Dad sends anything

but he makes up for that with his Christmas check to both of us

and he sends a nice check for my b-day which is 2 weeks later

however- DH's parents always send me $100

maybe I should mention that to my Dad- he would probably be embarassed knowing that he is not sending Jake anything

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My parents only gave him a card... not a big deal. But it is only our first year of marriage!!!

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My family is very generous, Dh's family is not.

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My mom always gives cash and sometimes a little gift along with it.

I'd rather cash than a giftcard since i am not tied down to where to spend it.

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my parents usually give a check, they know we, especially dh are hard to buy for so they feel that way we can buy something we really want, and i prefer it anyway

eta i forget to say i can understand the amount bothering you, esp if you always give them more than that

Message edited 8/28/2008 9:23:15 PM.

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my mom is super-psycho about making sure that my DH and my brother's wife get the same as we get. We all get checks on our birthdays.

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My mom gives DH $100 cash in a card on his birthday and gives the same to me on my birthday. christmas my parents pick out gifts. My mom always rathered give us the cash so we can do what we want with it.

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I see what you are saying that there was no thought involved I guess that would upset me too. More than it would bother DH

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I think it would offend me. No offense to your mom, at all, maybe she just thinks differently, but I'm pretty sure that now that we're married my parents & his mom spend the same amount on each of us. Maybe it depends on the relationship? Is he very close to your mother?

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I don't know if I'd be annoyed, I still think it's sweet, but I see what you're saying that a check seems a little impersonal for your son in law's birthday.
My mom usually gets DH a sweater and slippers, or something like that, for his bday... and usually takes us out to dinner.

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I get a check from IL's. It's more than $25 but I'm not offended by a check. She always gets a nice card with it and this way I get to go get something I want.

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DH's parents give both of us $100 on our birthdays and they give us $300 on Christmas.. ($100 for each including DS).. his b-day is the day after Christmas and they buy him presents for that

They have 9 kids and really have to save and up during the year in order to do so, so I think that's really sweet of them to be so generous

My parents usually give DH a gift.. they would spend between 50-75 on him usually, but it's most likey money spent on clothes from the outlets, so it seems like a lot of stuff

Last year DH just wanted everyone to give money instead so he could buy something big.. I told my mom that and she asked how much his mom gives me.. I said $100 so she gave him $100

Not to totally sound like I'm sterotyping old people.. but I know sometimes older people will write checks for small amounts like that.. I remember my grandma doing this when we were littl, $10- $25 dollars.. but to them.. that is okay and normal.

I still think if your not going to spend much then it's more appropriate to just pick out a gift

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My parents don't give any birthday gifts to my DH.

I would be happy with the check.

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My dad is very generous to DH for his bday and vice versa with my ILs and me.