Bridal shower invite question

What are your thoughts on this?

I was invited to my DH's cousins FW's shower. So my was BIL's gf. My invite came to my house addressed to me, fine, that's the way it should be.

My BIL's gf's invite, they've been together for over 3 years, was sent to my BIL's house (my il's parents house.) However, it was addressed to Mrs. Jane Doe and BIL's gf's first name.

Whomever was in charge of the invites, just tacked her name onto my MIL's invte. They couldn't take the time to get her last name and address.

I found this rude. Thoughts?

Re: Bridal shower invite question

Yes, they definitely should have taken the time to get her last name & home address.

The way its addressed makes it appear as though the girlfriend is your MIL's daughter, or that she lives with your MIL.

It also irks me a bit when people address shower invitation envelopes to married women as Mrs. HusbandsFirstName TheirLastName, because they couldn't bother finding out her first name.

Re: Bridal shower invite question

I think that's actually traditional. My great-aunt prefers things be addressed that way & her husband died in the 1960's.

I figured it was just something people read in a book somewhere.

As for the original question, it's slightly rude, but better than leaving her out altogether.

Message edited 2/16/2008 12:04:12 AM.

Re: Bridal shower invite question