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mrandmrs12
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BTDT moms - Taking DC out of first nursery school
We started DS in nursery school in January. He will be 3 in March. He went 3 or 4 times. The first day he cried a lot, but they said he was ok after a while and seemed to have a good time. He seemed quiet and kind of sad/not himself when we picked him up that day. The next 2 or 3 days he cried a little but when I picked him up I heard him chatting and laughing it up inside the classroom. The next day - he refused to go. Coudln't get him in the car at all.
Since I am a SAHM, he is only 2, and he doesn't HAVE to go to nursery school yet, i didn't force him.
He has had a rough 6 months or so - we moved, new DD was born, some extended famiy issues going on so he's not seeing his g randparents as much (he saw them a LOT and is very attached to them)......
We held off on nursery school because we wanted things to settle down for him.
Anyway, we are not sending him back since he really doesn't seem to want to go. I am ok with that decision. I just wonder if now it will be difficult to get him to go eventually... whenever we decide to send him in the future.
Anyone have any experience like this? TIA for sharing.. . 
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Posted 2/10/11 10:32 AM  |
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Re: BTDT moms - Taking DC out of first nursery school
I was in a similar situation but my thought was that it would be BEST for my child to go to school...I think that it was a good distraction for him.... I know it's hard but regardless of whether or not there are outside circumstances going on, he may just need time to transition...My son used to kick and scream EVERY day (for over a month)! but he eventually got used to it and now he loves school!
I know we feel guilty and it's heartbreaking to see our children upset in any way, so I totally understand where you are coming from!
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| Posted 2/10/11 10:36 AM |
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Re: BTDT moms - Taking DC out of first nursery school
Thanks for responding...
I was wondering if he was really upset when you brought him?
DS would have been literally kicking and screaming. He was hysterically crying when it was time to go to school, and he ran up to his room to hide. He asked to talk to DH (who was at work) - he NEVER does that. He is a total mama's boy.
Did you just pick DC up and put him in the car? TIA.
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| Posted 2/10/11 11:11 AM |
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bicosi
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Re: BTDT moms - Taking DC out of first nursery school
Posted by mrandmrs12
Thanks for responding...
I was wondering if he was really upset when you brought him?
DS would have been literally kicking and screaming. He was hysterically crying when it was time to go to school, and he ran up to his room to hide. He asked to talk to DH (who was at work) - he NEVER does that. He is a total mama's boy.
Did you just pick DC up and put him in the car? TIA.
He did NOT want to go AT ALL! He would try and run back out of the classroom.. cry because he didn't want to do... he also made himself sick on purpose, asked for my mom, his dad, you name it! but I did not give in.. he can do this to you at 2 yo and at 12 yo.. you are not punishing him by sending him to school.. this is a good thing for him..
When I would drop DS off, i would walk him in and the teachers knew after the first 2 times, what our plan of attack was.. so they would distract him with something or they were sure to hold him back if he ran after me.. I NEVER said goodbye to him when I dropped him off.. that made it WORSE!
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| Posted 2/10/11 12:29 PM |
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Re: BTDT moms - Taking DC out of first nursery school
My son was 2 when I tried to put him into a nursery type program. I had family to watch him so like you he didn't have to go but I thought it would be good for him to socialize with other kids. Well it was horrible. He hated it. Kicked and screamed every time. I also ended up not liking the director/teacher so yes I did end up pulling him out. Didn't send him into another school until pre-K (age 4) and we had NO separation issues at that age. I was dreading it b/c I thought for sure he would be kicking and screaming again but nope he didn't even look back.  
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| Posted 2/10/11 12:58 PM |
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mrandmrs12
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Re: BTDT moms - Taking DC out of first nursery school
OH thank you for posting this! I hope that whenever we send DS he won't have any separation issues , like your DC! 
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| Posted 2/10/11 2:38 PM |
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Kelly9904
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Re: BTDT moms - Taking DC out of first nursery school
I cant speak from experience.
But my friends DD had a similar experience. She just wasnt ready. Cried alot just couldn't acclimate.
They took her out. Re enrolled her (cant remeber if it was the following semester or following year) and she was dubbed the "mayor" of the class. She was her outgoing fun self again.
When she was ready she was ready. I personally wouldnt force it. I would hate for my DS to have a negative experience in his first go-round of school considering its an optional thing. If it was Pre K or K I would say he has to go, but to me a 2/3yo program isnt worth it!
I think especially considering the new baby he might just need to be home for awhile.
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| Posted 2/10/11 2:44 PM |
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