BTDT MOMS-Having that "feeling" of wanting another child..

I was reading another post and someone mentioned that "feeling" of wanting a baby.

I had that when I tried and became pg with Ava. However, I don't have that "feeling" for another -almost 3 years later.

For the BTDT moms, do you ever get that same feeling for another- or is it different after the first child??? If I don't have the "feeling" now, will I ever?

Does it just show up one day out of no where???

Thanks

Re: BTDT MOMS-Having that "feeling" of wanting another child..

I didn't have the "feeling" as much as I was going with our plan (um, or my roommate from college's plan since she was the one that reminded me I wanted kids close together & she wanted to be pregnant together).

The initial feeling I had came from wanting my son to have a sibling to grow up with since he wasn't totally out of the baby stage. I think as my kids get older & I see babies (and hold them - Sharon's fault) that I "wanted" another one.

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I still have that feeling every now and then, but at the same time, I also have a feeling more often than not that we are complete. It's so conflicting, I have no idea. I think that those feelings may come, they may not, you have to decide if your family is complete as is or if another one is in the future.

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I also had that feeling with my first but not with my second. My second was more our wish to have two children and give my first a sibling. As stated above, to some extent I was following the plan.

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I do have it, only 5 months after my DD. I just wish I could be a SAHM, I don't know if I can physically handle working FT with 2 kids and doing everything myself (DH works late hours.) But I do desparately want another.

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Re: BTDT MOMS-Having that "feeling" of wanting another child..

Sometimes I get a wave of wanting another..and then I remember how horrid Jacob was as an infant and I get scared again.

Then I go back to wanting another, and then when I think of going thru pregnancy again... ughhh.. I just dread it. I finally got my body back to even better than it was before getting PG. And so I just dont know.... IF i do it again, we wont be trying until next summer. So we'll see.

Re: BTDT MOMS-Having that "feeling" of wanting another child..

if Ii could afford it Ii would have another one almost immed,,,.(yes I am nuts)
my way of lookin at it before the twins was...I would regret not doing it but would never regret doing it,,,it was the right choice...I worship them

Message edited 5/2/2007 9:49:53 PM.

Re: BTDT MOMS-Having that "feeling" of wanting another child..

I never DONT have the feeling!

ETA: Did I say that right ?

Message edited 5/2/2007 11:17:58 PM.

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Re: BTDT MOMS-Having that "feeling" of wanting another child..

I had that "feeling" before my 1st, and before my 2nd. I've been having that feeling for a while now for a 3rd! (Don't know when or if that will happen though) I just always knew I wanted more than 1 child since I was little. Some people only want 1 or 2 kids. Nothing wrong with that. I thought I always wanted only 2 kids, but I've been really wanting another one and I honestly don't think this feeling will go away either. Everyone is different! You may or may not get that feeling.

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I'm already having it and Molly is only 6 months old. I'm pretty sure we will have a third, but I will wait a year longer and have the next one three years apart, so that Jack will be in Kindergarten, Molly would be turning 3. That way it wont be as demanding and one will be in school

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I want another one very soon! I just have to see if my DH agrees.

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I had a very strong feeling of wanting DS. All I thought about was babies. I know that I want to have more, but I don't really have that feeling yet either. If DH had his way I would be pregnant right now.

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I absolutely had that "feeling" with my first and my second...in fact, I remember being jealous of the cute preggos on the subway bfore I was pregnant with #2. And yes, I am getting the "feeling" again for a third.

BTDT moms always say to me that when you're "done", you know it.

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I am not sure how i feel, honestly. I have a 3yo son from a previous marriage (I am getting re-married in Sept) and I am not sure if I want anymore at this point. There are moments when I think I definately do and then my son will throw a typical 3yo tantrum or get really fresh or not allow me to have 5 seconds to myself and I will think to myself "Do i really want to do this again"? I really would like to have a little girl more than anything but my soon-to-be-hubby doesn't know if he wants any either. He is 35 (36 in August) and I just turned 27, I still have plenty of time to decide but I am still unsure.

We just purchased a home also, so we have a lot on our plate. It would be at least another year before I would even consider trying, maybe 2.

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I don't have that feeling. I know that at some point, DH and I want another child, we just aren't sure when.

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Re: BTDT MOMS-Having that "feeling" of wanting another child..

I started having the feeling months after DD was born - we started trying when she was a year old and I already know I would love to have another at some point (don't think as close as my two will be apart) - but its a feeling I've always had.........

But - thats not to say if you don't have the feeling now - that you will never.....some days the feeling of having another is stronger than other days also - i guess it depends on alot of things going on in your life at the moment that may trigger the feeling hope that makes sense

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Unfortunately, me wanting and me having are 2 separate issues. We had a very rough time getting PG and DH is also going to be 43 this year (I'm 33). We agreed that after we finally got PG that we would only have this one. He has a daugher from his previoius marriage and she lives with us, so we have 2 kids full time.

So...only this one for me. Grandma...is not happy with that decision

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I had the feeling of wanting Gianna soo badly, it was constantly on my mind.

We didn't plan on getting pg so soon, and it took me awhile to accept it. I wish i had that feeling of wanting and planning again. For 2 planners, it through off everything, Such a blessing though and no regrets.

I agree with one of the AP's said that once you know you are done, You def know.

I know for sure I am done after this one. Permanent sterilization is on the horizon for me or DH.

Message edited 5/11/2007 10:41:22 AM.

Re: BTDT MOMS-Having that "feeling" of wanting another child..

I get a twinge once in awhile...but Bella is all I need right now.

We definitely want two, but we'll space them apart for financial reason and also the fact that not many people we are really close with has even one kid...they are all just getting married...

I am sitting next to Bella on the couch as I write this and I thank god for her every second

Message edited 5/11/2007 10:45:34 AM.

Re: BTDT MOMS-Having that "feeling" of wanting another child..

I totally had that feeling - I was totally content with having my one child. I was very skeptical about going forward and trying for more when I met and married my DH. I think in the beginning - I was doing it for him, cuz he really wanted another child - he wanted to go through the baby years since he met us when my son was 5. When he first brought it up to me I told him No cuz I didn't want to start all over again. My son was difficult in the beginning and I was a single mom, so I still remember how hard it was and how I struggled. I didn't want to go through that again.
But he reminded me I wasn't going to go thru it alone this time. So I told him I would think about it.

Well, I guess I got the feeling back of wanting more cuz the more I thought about it the more I wanted it.