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carissa1643
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Can I ask an honest and maybe silly question
First, let me say I always always always wanted to be a SAHM. I have a great DH and a beautiful baby. I really love my life.
Now when people I havent seen in a while ask me how I'm doing, its very hard for me to answer that. I pretty much just talk about the baby. I could talk about him 24/7, but to answer about myself, I dont really feel like I have anything to say. I have some hobbies and I work at home once in a while doing hair, but I feel like I dont have anything new going on in my life. When it comes to the baby though, I could answer about his new milestones, new foods, fun things we do together, etc. But I feel kinda weird saying I'm good, nothings new, even though there is, just not with me, kwim?
I hope this makes sense and I hope I'm not coming off the wrong way, but how do you answer "how are you? whats new with you?" type of questions?
I probably sound like an idiot but every day is all about him, where WE are going, who WE are going to see, what WE are doing. I feel like eh I'm fine. I honestly dont even remember my answers before I had a family really.
Am I the only one who feels like this? Even though I'm not even sure what this feeling is  
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Re: Can I ask an honest and maybe silly question for SAHMs
I totally hear ya! My life revolves around Santino and I honestly am ok with it! To tell you the truth I love it this way. I have some friends that really do still have a lot going on in their own social life even after having kids but I am not one of them.
Therefore, I automatically will resond to a question like "how are you doing" with all stuff about the baby. It's usally along the lines of good,nothing new,Satino is keeping me busy, having so much fun with him ect ect.
NOt sure if I answered you question but like you it's all about DS, it's different than before but for me better!
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MetsGirl07
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Re: Can I ask an honest and maybe silly question for SAHMs
i totally feel the same way.
i always have so much to say about the boys.. whether its new milestone's , doctor visits.. etc.
but when it comes to myself, its a different story. i actually have to think about new things going on.. but its never about me.. haha
its just a weird feeling. i am still trying to get used to being a full time SAHM
for the most part i love it
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Porrruss
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Re: Can I ask an honest and maybe silly question for SAHMs
But that IS what is going on in your life right now. You have a young baby- your life SHOULD revolve around that right now, no? Your most important job, whether it's SAH or working, is to raise that little person.
Even as a working mother my biggest focus is my kids because that's really the biggest part of my life so generally when people ask, "How are you?" I talk about how WE are doing.
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mnmsoinlove
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Re: Can I ask an honest and maybe silly question for SAHMs
I can totally relate to you. My daughter is my whole world and I'm proud of it. I am the first of my friends to have a baby so they definitely can't relate to my life these days. When they ask what is new with me I usually say I'm so busy with being a mom. Being a mom has become my identity and I don't really miss my old life. I think other people who don't have children really don't understand that for a lot of moms their hobbies and lifestyle take a back seat to caring for and entertaining their children. I don't think you really have to say much when asked how you are, just be honest.
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Ian&EmmesMommy23
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Re: Can I ask an honest and maybe silly question for SAHMs
i work full time and im out of the house 11 hours a day. yet if someone asks me whats new, i'm always answering about DS. he is whats new in my life. his life is always changing so that means my life is changing. i just dont see anything else as important.
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Diana1215
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Re: Can I ask an honest and maybe silly question for SAHMs
Posted by MrsNicolaxoxo
I totally hear ya! My life revolves around Santino and I honestly am ok with it! To tell you the truth I love it this way. I have some friends that really do still have a lot going on in their own social life even after having kids but I am not one of them.
Therefore, I automatically will resond to a question like "how are you doing" with all stuff about the baby. It's usally along the lines of good,nothing new,Satino is keeping me busy, having so much fun with him ect ect.
NOt sure if I answered you question but like you it's all about DS, it's different than before but for me better!
Same for me! Right now everything is about my two little men! That's not to say I don't have other interests or other things to bring to the table. But, i think i would be this way even if i worked fulltime
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| Posted 10/9/10 8:32 PM |
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Re: Can I ask an honest and maybe silly question for SAHMs
this applies to working moms too-i mean even though i'm a working mom it's not like i identify with my job or have something 'exciting' to share. noone wants to hear about my school librarian job!
if someone asks me how things are i answer pretty much the same. it is ALLL about my 2 little ones. me? not so much. i'm training for the NYC marathon. THAT is the only "interesting" thing about ME these days just wanted to share 
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Shelleybean11
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Re: Can I ask an honest and maybe silly question for SAHMs
Posted by MrsNicolaxoxo
I automatically will resond to a question like "how are you doing" with all stuff about the baby. It's usally along the lines of good,nothing new,Satino is keeping me busy, having so much fun with him ect ect.
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I pretty much answer the same way Jenn does. "Ezra has been keeping me busy" "Lots of Gymboree and play dates!" or "enjoying my time with Ezra"
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| Posted 10/9/10 8:35 PM |
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carissa1643
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Re: Can I ask an honest and maybe silly question for SAHMs
Ok, glad to know I'm not alone here. I figured working moms feel the same way I just wasnt sure if you talk about work too or outside homelife. My answers about DS would probably be the same if I wasnt with him all day anyway.
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Can I ask an honest and maybe silly question for SAHMs
Honestly, it's not just SAHMs because I work full time and really have nothing new going on with just me other than what the kids are doing. But I think that's fine! I like it that way! Work is a constant, as in it pretty much stays the same, the variable in my life is the kids and what new and fun things they are doing. I just had it happen to me today when we saw our friends and they asked what's new and I honestly couldn't think of anything! Nothing! But, it's all good because our little ones ARE what's new with us and that's perfectly ok!
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CrankyPants
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Re: Can I ask an honest and maybe silly question for SAHMs
Posted by BaroqueMama
Honestly, it's not just SAHMs because I work full time and really have nothing new going on with just me other than what the kids are doing. But I think that's fine! I like it that way! Work is a constant, as in it pretty much stays the same, the variable in my life is the kids and what new and fun things they are doing. I just had it happen to me today when we saw our friends and they asked what's new and I honestly couldn't think of anything! Nothing! But, it's all good because our little ones ARE what's new with us and that's perfectly ok!
Same here-the only thing I have going on that is about me is weight watchers
(And really, who wants that?? AND-that really is about they too because if I didn't get pregnant with them, I wouldn't have gained the weight-worth it of course, blah blah blah )
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Momma2Be
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Re: Can I ask an honest and maybe silly question
Posted by Shelleybean11
Posted by MrsNicolaxoxo
I automatically will resond to a question like "how are you doing" with all stuff about the baby. It's usally along the lines of good,nothing new,Satino is keeping me busy, having so much fun with him ect ect.
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I pretty much answer the same way Jenn does. "Ezra has been keeping me busy" "Lots of Gymboree and play dates!" or "enjoying my time with Ezra"
I answer the exact same way! I'm so glad I'm not the only one. Honestly, I am so busy taking care of/hanging out with Adam, going to Gymboree, playdates, Mommy and me, etc. that I don't really do much for myself. I'm not complaining because I love it and I really wouldn't want it any other way!
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nov04libride
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Re: Can I ask an honest and maybe silly question
Posted by BaroqueMama
Honestly, it's not just SAHMs because I work full time and really have nothing new going on with just me other than what the kids are doing. But I think that's fine! I like it that way! Work is a constant, as in it pretty much stays the same, the variable in my life is the kids and what new and fun things they are doing. I just had it happen to me today when we saw our friends and they asked what's new and I honestly couldn't think of anything! Nothing! But, it's all good because our little ones ARE what's new with us and that's perfectly ok!
ITA. I try not to talk about DS all the time w/ friends who do not have babies, so I just talk about TV or movies (I only get to catch DVDs, but still...), etc. Actually work's kind of been cr@ppy lately, but that's a downer and no one wants to hear about that anyway.
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Bella311
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Re: Can I ask an honest and maybe silly question
The other day a family member asked me how I was doing, I responded and said we are doing fine....and proceded to talk about DS new things he's doing ect. It wasn't until afterwards it dawned on me that I was asked how I was doing...I was kinda like a little stumped.
I feel the same way though my days are consumed by my son, I really don't have anything else going on. Sorry if its boring to other ppl, it certainly is keeping me busy and I wouldn't have it any other way its very rewarding
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Re: Can I ask an honest and maybe silly question
yes I can totally relate. I SAH , I have a 2 year old, a 4 month old that keep me so busy . so when ppl ask me whats new , It's all about oh B said this today and D did this today. I have nothing to say about me, I have nothing going on Once the kids get a little older I'm sure things will change
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