can somebody tell DH that its ok to pay people to do things sometimes??

hes driving me nuts with this! hes VERY handy and has done a lot of projects around the house, so i know he can do the work--- BUT hes also (understandably) tired after work every night (and maybe a little bit lazy-lol)
we have a few more projects to do around the house, and he just doesn't want to "deal with them"... BUT, he doesn't want to pay somebody either
We both work and have the money to pay for it, but he just looks down on every contractor and gets this attitude like " they don't know what they're doing"-- well, thats why you research and find a good one!
the latest example is windows- we need 5 more new windows. for 2 of them, we want to get bigger windows than we have now... well he wants to do it himself because he doesn't want the contractors to ruin the siding on the house. umm... they do this EVERY DAY, and you've never done it before! i'm sure we're not the first people who didn't want to have to reside their whole house.
LOL-- it just drives me nuts- like i said we both work, we have savings, and we do plenty of stuff around here ourselves ( no cleaning lady, no landscaper). i think we should give ourselves a little break! lol anybody else's DH like this??

Re: can somebody tell DH that its ok to pay people to do things sometimes??

there are certain things my DH will do around the house but he knows his limitations as far as time and expertise so he will agree to call someone.

Tell your husband that even though it may cost a bit more to hire someone to do the job...in the long run his time will be saved and thats worth even more!

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YES! You absolutely must live a little! MY BIL is the same way, they REFUSE to pay anyone! He spends every weekend doing "projects". He has NO life.

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We have 2 men we hire to work on our house projects every single weekend.

There is nothing wrong with hiring help, my DH manages everyone, and sets up their projects for the day and assists them.

These are also not normal projects, so there is alot of programming on his end as well and that takes time.

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For many tasks, I've finally learned that I can always make more money. I can't make more time. I do a lot of projects around the house, but that's because I like doing them. For things that are beyond my ability (do those tasks even exist? ), or would take me a long time, I have no problem paying someone. My time is too valuable to waste it doing something I can pay someone to do.

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I have the OPPOSITE problem. Anytime something goes wrong, we call someone, anytime i want to update or change something, we hire someone. I WISH my DH was handy, it could save us a lot of $$ and frustration.

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Your DH sounds EXACTLY like mine. He has a very hard physical job that definitely takes a toll on him but then he spends alot of weekends working 12 hours a day on the house. I appreciate EVERYTHING he does and he does a great job and the money we save by him doing everything is awesome, but I also worry that he is working too hard.
His latest is that he wants to re-wire our bedroom and living room to make overhead lighting where there is none currently. I want to call an electrician but he insists he can do it.
I have no problem letting him try, but I will have a huge problem if he starts it and then doesnt want to deal with finishing it as has happened with a couple of things!!!

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well its good that your DH is handy and wants to do things himself - but he shouldn't get in over his head when it comes to certain projects - windows seem a little scary! i would leave it to the pros....besides, im sure you guys saved having DH do other things....maybe you can use that logic as a way to convince him to let someone else come in and do the job hahaha

Message edited 6/10/2009 1:41:10 PM.

Re: can somebody tell DH that its ok to pay people to do things sometimes??

DH is decently handy and does a lot around the house with regards to yardwork and minor repairs. For the bigger stuff, though, we prefer to just pay someone to do it.

He travels so much for work (he's usually gone Monday or Tuesday through Thursday), that when he IS home, he would prefer not to tackle huge things. For example - he's not the type to cut through brick and do a new door install - although some people think that's the "norm" and what "real men" do.


Bottom line - it's OK to relinquish some control and have other people do the work for you.

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My dad is like this, drives us all nuts. He's so bad that sometimes things NEVER get done b/c he is too busy....now that's bad. My poor mom. I feel for ya.

Re: can somebody tell DH that its ok to pay people to do things sometimes??

thanks everybody!! glad i'm not totally alone in my thinking LOL
the funny part is-- that i paid somebody to paint the kitchen a few months ago ( there are so many windows and cabinets in there- neither of us were up to all that edging!) SO when the guy was done, DH actually said how nice it was to have it all done, and how quick the guy was...
and its so frustrating because if he doesn't feel like doing a project, it just doesn't get done- which is annoying!!
i think i might try pointing out how much we saved by him mowing the lawn himself, redoing an entire bathroom himself, and other stuff.... either that, or i'll have stuff done when he goes away for work in July! LOL

Re: can somebody tell DH that its ok to pay people to do things sometimes??

Posted by theburbshereicome

I have the OPPOSITE problem. Anytime something goes wrong, we call someone, anytime i want to update or change something, we hire someone. I WISH my DH was handy, it could save us a lot of $$ and frustration.