Comparing babies

I have an acquaintance who has a baby almost the same age as Steven (two weeks older). Well, she was asking me if Steven does certain things and for quite a few things, I said yes and her daughter hasn't done them yet. Then, I got to the point where I felt bad saying that he does them when her daughter does not.

I know all kids develop at different stages, but I kind of felt bad like I didn't want her to think I was bragging. Did anyone else ever feel like this? Should I try to avoid developmental conversations, or should I be so proud of my little man and not worry about what others think?

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tell her to put her baby on the floor and see what happens just kidding. Don't feel bad especially if she's the one asking. You're not bragging if she asked and you're not obligated to hide his accomplishments either. It can be awkward but it's the reality of them all growing at different speeds.

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Posted by cloddy

tell her to put her baby on the floor and see what happens just kidding. Don't feel bad especially if she's the one asking. You're not bragging if she asked and you're not obligated to hide his accomplishments either. It can be awkward but it's the reality of them all growing at different speeds.

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Posted by pmpkn087

Posted by cloddy

tell her to put her baby on the floor and see what happens just kidding. Don't feel bad especially if she's the one asking. You're not bragging if she asked and you're not obligated to hide his accomplishments either. It can be awkward but it's the reality of them all growing at different speeds.

I was thinking the same thing!

The floor thing came up at the end of the night, after all the developmental comparisons. I felt like saying "no wonder why she's not doing XYZ yet"

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Hey be proud of your little man!!! don't be embarassed, next time you find out your boy does something that her kid doesn't just say "Hey maybe there is something wrong with her" she will never compare them again.

JUST KIDDING!!! DON'T FLAME ME!! I HAVE NO FEELINGS!!! I AM A HORRID GIRL!!!

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Posted by nrthshgrl

Posted by racheeeee

Hey be proud of your little man!!! don't be embarassed, next time you find out your boy does something that her kid doesn't just say "Hey maybe there is something wrong with her" she will never compare them again.

JUST KIDDING!!! DON'T FLAME ME!! I HAVE NO FEELINGS!!! I AM A HORRID GIRL!!!

I think you should say "Well of course he's advanced, it's genetic and we all know I'm brilliant."

Seriously, if she's asking I would say what he's doing. If she laments that her daughter isn't doing it, you could reiterate that all babies develop differently. If she asks for suggestions, than give them to her. I think you're better off being honest about it because if her baby is falling behind & needs early invention at some point, she's only going to realize it if she knows what others are doing.