Cyring/emotional upset during pregnancy

I was too upset last night to post anything. I got upset with my mom after finding out that she told other family members about my miscarriage back in December and how hard it's been for me TTC.

I was upset because she knew how personal this was to me and besides her and my husband of course two other close people to me knew about it and that was enough. I asked her why she told and she said it hurt her more seeing me go through all the pain and that she needed someone to talk to. My feelings were hurt because it was an issue I had not her.

Anyway I got emotional and I started crying, left her house and called my husband upset and crying. I feel so guilty now that I did that because I'm pregnant now and I don't want to put any stress on my baby. It's just that I felt my trust with my mom was gone and that hurt a lot.

This was the first time I cried and got upset during pregnancy. It's a horrible feeling because I don't want to hurt my baby. Have you cried or gotten really emotional about something where you couldn't help it while pregnant?


On a happy note...My due date was officially changed to October 24th! That means I'm entering my 2nd trimester today. I'm so happy. All my tests so far came out great. I would like to start telling people now. Would you start telling people at this point?

Thanks for reading guys.

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Oh Lord~ I've had those moments too. Things that used to just annoy me make me cry like a baby too. While you are entitled to being hurt by what your mother did- know that your hormones are increasing your emotional feelings as well.

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I am so sorry that your mom did that to you. I had an early m/c in the fall, which made me very hesitant to tell about my pg. However, I think you are at a safe point, so you should enjoy sharing your happy news!

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I'm sorry about your mom - try not to get too upset - its not good for the baby! its done and you can't change it now - enjoy yourself by sharing the great news and enjoy our 2nd tri - congrats!!!

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I have gotten very very very upset and angry like 4 times this whole pregnancy. I always worry that I will hurt the baby when i do that. But our hormones are crazy right now. I read that only 5% of our stress hormones go to the baby. Your baby is fine just try to stay calm. I am trying very hard to stay calm as well.

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Oh yeah.

I actually had the same situation as you where I found out my mom was talking to other relatives about our TTC troubles when I had specifically asked her not to. It hurrt, but we got past it.

My husband went through MAJOR surgery and was in the hospital for days.

If that's not emotional upset, I don't know what is.

The baby is fine though. They are tough little buggers and can take a lot more than you would think.

As long as you are taking care of yourself physically your baby will be fine with the occassional emotional upset.

If not, we'd all have to be lobotomized for our whole pregnancies!!

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Don't feel bad. I started sobbing at Penn Station not long ago when I missed my train. Well, not sobbing, but I was crying heavily. And that's pretty silly!

I'm sorry about your Mom. I haven't told my Mom I'm pregnant yet for a few reasons, one is because she told the whole family my sister was pregnant (she was asked not to), and then my sister miscarried. So the whole family knew, and my sister didn't really want that. I guess moms get concerned, but it is hard when they don't respect your wishes.

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just wait until AFTER you have the baby, I cried every day for 2 weeks.... feel better, it is normal for your hrmones to be all out of whack

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I'm sure its ok! My hormones have been totally out of whack and sometimes I get so angry at my family for no reason at all (although you had a VERY good reason). One time in particular I got very angry and was yelling and crying and couldn't stop worrying that i hurt the baby. But, I am sure it is fine...I'm sure people go through a lot of trying times while pregnant over the years and everything turns out just fine!

Also, I think you are pretty safe to tell everyone now...CONGRATS to you

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I have been really upset a lot. My doctor said not to worry about it because the baby is not as fragile as we think. He said as long as being upset isn't preventing you from eating and sleeping not to worry.

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I am so sorry your Mom did that I also dealt with a very similar situation which I also got very upset over so please know you are not the only one

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You had every right to be upset, our hormones are going crazy. But on your mother's defense, she was prob upset about the m/c, and having to see her daughter go through something like that, that I cant blame her for needing to talk to someone. And she prob didnt want to bring it up to you, or burden you with her own feelings. But I am sure she can understand why you got upset. I would just call her and straighten things out.

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Your mom was absolutely wrong to do that. However, if it were just one person and it was really because she simply had to talk, I'd understand more, but still let her know that it was not appropriate. I think it''s good that you made your point to her (I certainly would have) , but now try to find a way not to stress over it and to protect yourself and baby.

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Don't worry. You are allowed to be emotional & YOU ARE NOT HURTING YOUR BABY!

Your body does a good job of protecting the baby & can handle more than you think. I even read something about adrenaline (produced during stress) being good for development.