daycare or SIL, what would you do ?

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Well, before you make a choice, I would find out how much it would cost. If she is looking to watch A baby and not just YOUR baby, it may not be cheaper than daycare at all.

But after you find that out, and if it is similar, I would then weigh the pros and cons for your family

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can you do both? I dont know if your daycare will do that or not (mine does).
My SIL watched my DS 2 days a week from when he was 5 months old and then when he was 10 months I put him in daycare one day a week (so three days altogether-I only work part time). He is 26 months now and starting this month I put him in Daycare 2 days and my SIL watches him one day as I am slowly transitioning for when January come and he goes into daycare 3 days a week (my SIL is now going to be watching my new baby when he/she arrives) . I love that he has had the best of both worlds. My SIL rocks and he loves her, she is a saint, and having that one on one time b/t them esp when he was an infant was great...but I also really like daycare for him. DS is so social and talkative and has grown so much from both I believe. In fact he asks for my SIL and his daycare teacher everyday.
You need to sit down and see what it's impt to you and your DH... I think when they are infants its nice to be with just a caregiver but as they get older they really get so much from a daycare setting

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Message edited 9/16/2009 2:42:15 PM.

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At the age your DC would be, I would go with SIL. Once your DC hits 12-18 months, then I would reconsider daycare.


ETA: As long as you trust SIL and know your DC would be in good hands, and you're not considering her b/c if you didn't family would get upset.

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At such young age, to me, this is a no brainer...go with your SIL! I feel so fortunate to have had my mom and SIL watch my son for the first two years of his life...it was GREAT for all of us. He is starting daycare/preschool next month.

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I would go with SIL and think about daycare when he is 12 months.

My mom has been keeping DS for rme since I went back to work, but he will be going to daycare in January (ds will be 13months) at least PT, if not FT. I beleive he needs to be around and socialize with kids his age.

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SIL. I would feel much more comfortable having family watch my DC then strangers in a daycare center but that's just me.

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ITA with above posters, I would def go with family.

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I say SIL!

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At age 18 months the daycare rates decrease a small amount as well.
really? I had no idea

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I would defianately go with sil.

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SIL

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Without a doubt SIL!!!

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Its what you feel comfortable with. At the end of the day, it's what give you peace of mind. I personally would try SIL, and if it doesn't work out, then daycare.

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You have to weigh the pros and cons and decide what you are most comfortable with - I know I'm in the minority, but I'd choose daycare.

I feel that with family, you have to compromise way too much (or at least, *I* would) It's MUCH more difficult to be direct with family when something bothers you or you feel something isn't 'right' than it is to say it to someone you hire for the sole purpose of caring for your child (as in, someone you wouldnt' otherwise deal with) With family, you have to bite your tounge A LOT ......I wouldn't want to have to do that ......

and I look at Sean going to daycare as just starting school really really early .......not 'some stranger raising my baby' (as countless people have said to me)

My SIL is currently an out of work teach and has dropped the hint several times of us paying her 1/2 of what we'd pay daycare to watch Sean ......I don't want it.

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Definitely your SIL. At that age (newborn) I much rather have my DC with an at home sitter than at a daycare. You can reevaluate once your DC gets older. Also $ wise you can save the extra $ you would be spending on a daycare center for DCs college fund.