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DD obsessed with death? Update - This is NOT happening!!!
I know this sounds morbid, but I feel like it's all she talks about lately.
Not too long ago, her great aunt passed away (it was her closest cousin's grandmother). We had to bring her to the wake (closed casket) and tried to explain what had happened with kid gloves...
Then she watches the new Little Mermaid movie and in the movie Ariel's mother dies - great, just great.
Now she wants me to do puppet shows and always asks me to act out the little mermaid and I can't skip the part where Ariel's mother dies. Out of nowhere she'll say "You know Sydney's grandmother died, right".
She now plays dead with other kids and just lays there - it's very wierd. She'll say "okay, let's pretend that I'm dead".
Has anyone else's child gone through anything similar. And tips I can use to help her snap out of this? Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Update:
Sooooooooo - I finally decide to have DD help me clean out some old toys from her playroom...I find her hamster Mushu is dead in the cage (he was alive and running in his wheel this morning after I fed him)...........how do I deal with this now?????? The irony of this post is just killing me (no pun intended). She hasn't seen him, so I'm going to try and sneak the cage out when she goes to the bathroom...DH will have to dispose of him, I just can't handle that stuff....
Message edited 10/6/2008 6:05:31 PM.
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Re: DD obsessed with death?
My niece went through something similar just a couple of years ago (she's 11). She was obsessed with how people died. Famous people, people in our family...everything. It was a stage that lasted a couple of months and then she got over it.
She was older though so we never really sugarcoated anything. She was probably 8-9 so we explained things to her.
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| Posted 10/6/08 3:52 PM |
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Re: DD obsessed with death?
I am sure there are some books on the topic that would help...Mayba a children's book that explains it in childrens words...
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| Posted 10/6/08 3:52 PM |
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Re: DD obsessed with death?
Yes my daughter is obsessed with death but not really in a worried sort of way. More like a matter of fact sense. She hands us pictures of her so we can remember her when she's dead. She'll tell my mom that she's going to miss her when she's dead.
On her birthday, my dad was putting her in the car & said "You had a happy birthday! Next year will be even happier!" She smiled & said "Yes. Better happier than dead."
I think it's definitely a shock to strangers, but now we're used to it. We're living with Wednesday Addams.
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Re: DD obsessed with death?
I will answer this from my own experience. My great-grandmother died when I was 4. I became "obsessed" in the way that you are describing. For me (and I remember it so clearly) it made it less frightening for me. I did not have a fear of death or dying pretty much my whole life until I had DS (changes everything doesn't it?)
I was a total Wednesday, much in the way that Barb's descibes her daughter.
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Re: DD obsessed with death? Update - This is NOT happening!!!
bumping just for the irony of the update...
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| Posted 10/6/08 6:06 PM |
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Re: DD obsessed with death? Update - This is NOT happening!!!
can you tell her the hampster ran away?
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| Posted 10/6/08 7:00 PM |
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Re: DD obsessed with death? Update - This is NOT happening!!!
Posted by LoveBeingMrsT
can you tell her the hampster ran away?
Oh, I didn't even think of that - that might be the solution right now. She hasn't noticed yet...thanks
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Re: DD obsessed with death? Update - This is NOT happening!!!
Posted by Summersalwaysinseason
Posted by LoveBeingMrsT
can you tell her the hampster ran away?
Oh, I didn't even think of that - that might be the solution right now. She hasn't noticed yet...thanks
If you don't want to add to the dead talk, I would def tell her he is missing. Then you could always replace hers with another and say you found him. I personally think it might be too much for her to bear right now, JMO. It sounds as if she is trying to comfort herself in her own fears or trying to grasp the concept in her own way. And the hamster, that might only set her off more.
There must be books on this, it's a very interesting topic that most children probably go through this phase at some point. I had a fear of dying and was obsessed with dying when I was around 12. It took some time to grow out of it.
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Re: DD obsessed with death? Update - This is NOT happening!!!
Posted by Goobster
Posted by Summersalwaysinseason
Posted by LoveBeingMrsT
can you tell her the hampster ran away?
Oh, I didn't even think of that - that might be the solution right now. She hasn't noticed yet...thanks
If you don't want to add to the dead talk, I would def tell her he is missing. Then you could always replace hers with another and say you found him. I personally think it might be too much for her to bear right now, JMO. It sounds as if she is trying to comfort herself in her own fears or trying to grasp the concept in her own way. And the hamster, that might only set her off more.
There must be books on this, it's a very interesting topic that most children probably go through this phase at some point. I had a fear of dying and was obsessed with dying when I was around 12. It took some time to grow out of it.
You make a really good point - my daughter seems to self soothe a lot with things she is afraid of...so I don't want to add insult to injury. I appreciate the insight.
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Re: DD obsessed with death? Update - This is NOT happening!!!
Posted by nrthshgrl
Yes my daughter is obsessed with death but not really in a worried sort of way. More like a matter of fact sense. She hands us pictures of her so we can remember her when she's dead. She'll tell my mom that she's going to miss her when she's dead.
On her birthday, my dad was putting her in the car & said "You had a happy birthday! Next year will be even happier!" She smiled & said "Yes. Better happier than dead."
I think it's definitely a shock to strangers, but now we're used to it. We're living with Wednesday Addams.
I just giggled when I read the Wednesday Addams comment...my DD sounds like yours - definitely more matter of factly than completely consumed and fearful (although I think it scares her a little)....
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