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Sweetpea130000
My Love!
Member since 5/05 2375 total posts
Name:
Shandra
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Re: dealing with divorce...
no advice, just some 
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lulugrrl
My 3 Blessings
Member since 3/06 6551 total posts
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L
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Re: dealing with divorce...
I have been through a divorce. It definitely was the most painful time in my life. It took me YEARS to get to a good place. My fault because I kept pulling the band aid off the wound and allowed my ex hubby to get into my head more than once. Although I did not initially ask for the sepration, I had to push the divorce as he changed his mind. We seperated in 2001, did not officially divorce until 2004 so it probobly took me longer than many to get over it.
Time absolutely heals. You never forget that person though. My ex and i are able to be friends now, but it took time. You are in for a roller coaster ride, but the recovery after each downhill plunge becomes shorter and shorter, until one day there are no plunges and the ride is over. Hanginthere, be good to yourself, and ALLOW friends and family to help you.
Many 
If you want to talk please FM me....
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| Posted 8/29/06 4:14 PM |
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bluefairyli
LIF Toddler
Member since 7/06 387 total posts
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Re: dealing with divorce...
I have been threw two divorces, the first one was because I was just to young to be married. The second one was harder. I loved him to death, but he was to into his ex-wifes family and I got tired of it. I also got tired of having no money. Well I told him I wanted a divorce then when reality set in I really didn't by then It was too late. He got himself a girlfriend and get this....I used to babysit her kids. Well a year latter I had a boyfriend on the rebound but It did not work out, I still think of my ex every now and then, but I am making sure I do not have to depend on a man. I am going to school getting a carrer and my life is starting to get a lot better, just very stressful. i realised me and my ex werent ment to be at the end it was sooo bad we got into fights that were outrageous. Don't let it get that far. If you need to FM me I will be here to talk.
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| Posted 8/29/06 5:24 PM |
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MommaG
Yay Spring!
Member since 5/05 5133 total posts
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Gloria
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Re: dealing with divorce...
I've been there and everyone is right - it does get easier. Do not feel guilty - it would be much worse for both of you to stay together when you know you shouldn't. In the future, this will allow both of you to be happy, whether it be on your own or with someone else. Allow yourself to feel sad or any other feeling that you happen to have - you need to go through all of them to move on. Take care of yourself and lean on your friends and family. Take the time to do things for yourself, whether it be a hobby or sport or some pampering or shopping. And don't rush into dating - you will do so when you're ready. FM if you want to talk or have any questions
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| Posted 8/29/06 7:57 PM |
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Dpizz
LIF Zygote
Member since 5/06 35 total posts
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denise
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Re: dealing with divorce...
no advice, just some
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| Posted 8/29/06 8:20 PM |
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JenniferEver
The Disney Lady
Member since 5/05 18163 total posts
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Jennifer
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Re: dealing with divorce...
I a watching my mom go through it and it is really really difficult..It's horrrible. I can't lie. I have a feeling that once the process is over and you can ove on with your own life and independence, it will get a lot better.
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| Posted 9/6/06 1:53 PM |
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officiallyamrs
LIF Toddler
Member since 7/05 421 total posts
Name:
Melissa
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Re: dealing with divorce...
Message edited 3/24/2008 1:43:26 PM.
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| Posted 9/7/06 7:32 PM |
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bklyngirl
COULD THIS BE MY YEAR??
Member since 6/05 15758 total posts
Name:
Gail
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Re: dealing with divorce...
have never been through one but here's some
we're here for u
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| Posted 9/7/06 8:15 PM |
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bluefairyli
LIF Toddler
Member since 7/06 387 total posts
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Re: dealing with divorce...
you got FM
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| Posted 9/7/06 8:17 PM |
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smdl
I love Gary too..on a plate!
Member since 5/06 32461 total posts
Name:
me
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Re: dealing with divorce...
It is difficult. There are a lot of things that will go through your mind.
Financial aspect
Emotional
You will have up and down. It's an emotional rollicoster.
In one way, you feel relieved that you made the decision and you think that it's time to move on. BUT things may not go as fast as you will like. You may have some roadblocks from your husband.
When I divorced my 1st husband, I had the greatest advise from 2 people who LISTENED to their lawyer.
Count your losses and move on. Limit the financial damage. Don't fight over a $600 frigde ($300 each after you split it). Sometimes you need to take a step backward in order to move ahead later.
Good Luck! You will get through it.
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| Posted 9/8/06 6:18 PM |
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beautyq115
New Year!
Member since 5/05 13729 total posts
Name:
Me
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Re: dealing with divorce...
Haven't been through a personal divorce but my parents are divorced...it was a tough time for my mom...my father is a POS...she absolutely made the right decision...she was lucky to have lots of support...I know you have lots on here...I hope you have friends and family to lean on too!
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| Posted 9/15/06 10:00 PM |
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Mushpot
LIF Adolescent
Member since 2/06 846 total posts
Name:
Traci
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Re: dealing with divorce...
I haven't been through a divorce, but i'm trying to help my good friend through one now and she's such a mess! Can anyone advise how I can help? I've never done this before and I'm trying to help and support her, but I don't know what to do myself! Any advice??  TIA
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| Posted 9/20/06 9:09 PM |
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JTK
my 4 boys!
Member since 6/06 7396 total posts
Name:
Kristi
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Re: dealing with divorce...
it gets easier but not for awhile!! fm me if you need anything
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