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Bellaocchi
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Re: Dear Non-Pregnant Person
 Love it!
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Posted 4/15/11 11:15 AM  |
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Re: Dear Non-Pregnant Person
Posted by springsandra
Posted by AnxiousPants
9. If you are asked to help after the birth, this means you should clean up the house, help with cooking meals, and generally stay out of the way. Holding the baby more than the parents, interfering with breastfeeding and sleeping schedules, and making a woman who is still leaking fluid from multiple locations lift a finger in housework is not helping.
My SIL did this when she came over a few weeks after DD was born and I still don't forgive her for it. She came to our home with her two toddlers (age 5 and 3) and let them run amuck in our home while she laid down on our couch and took a freaking nap WITH OUR BABY while I -- who was just a few weeks PP, bleeding, still in pain from stitches, and exhausted from a round-the-clock nursing and pumping schedule had to run after her freakin children to try to keep them from destroying our house (and I wasn't even supposed to be climbing stairs yet at that time)!!!!!!!!!!!
I honestly don't know if I will ever forgive her for this. It still makes me want to cry how much that day upset me. I couldn't sleep while DD was sleeping because I had to try to chase after HER children, and SHE thought it was ok to lay on the couch with MY baby and SLEEP?!?!?!?
Ok, a few deep breaths... but seriously, don't let anyone step all over you after the baby is born. It sounds so easy to make sure it doesn't happen, but when you're sleep deprived and emotional, you just don't know how to stand up for yourself when you can barely see straight from exhaustion.
OMG thats awful! Thats what I will have to tell my MIL/SIL/Friends to advise those that are willing to ACTUALLY help and not just come by to hold the baby, thats for a different time 1st 2weeks are to LEGIT HELP!
So sorry that happened, some people man
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| Posted 4/15/11 11:28 AM |
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716baby
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LightUpMyLife
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Re: Dear Non-Pregnant Person
Posted by AnxiousPants
2. Through the wonders of science, we now know that babies are made ONLY by the mother and father — not grandparents. Unless the baby is in your uterus or you are the man that helped put it there, you may not ever use the phrase 'my baby'.
I could have used this last week. 
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 omg i wish i could send this to certain people!
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| Posted 4/15/11 1:43 PM |
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MrsP
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Re: Dear Non-Pregnant Person
Posted by MissingLI
This is awesome! I had my first encounter with the 'stomach rub' yesterday. 
What did you do?!? I'm coming out soon and I'm so nervous about this!
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| Posted 4/15/11 3:51 PM |
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MrsP
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Re: Dear Non-Pregnant Person
Is it bad that I want to print this out, laminate it and carry it in my purse?
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| Posted 4/15/11 3:52 PM |
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julesrbf
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Re: Dear Non-Pregnant Person
Posted by springsandra
Posted by AnxiousPants
9. If you are asked to help after the birth, this means you should clean up the house, help with cooking meals, and generally stay out of the way. Holding the baby more than the parents, interfering with breastfeeding and sleeping schedules, and making a woman who is still leaking fluid from multiple locations lift a finger in housework is not helping.
My SIL did this when she came over a few weeks after DD was born and I still don't forgive her for it. She came to our home with her two toddlers (age 5 and 3) and let them run amuck in our home while she laid down on our couch and took a freaking nap WITH OUR BABY while I -- who was just a few weeks PP, bleeding, still in pain from stitches, and exhausted from a round-the-clock nursing and pumping schedule had to run after her freakin children to try to keep them from destroying our house (and I wasn't even supposed to be climbing stairs yet at that time)!!!!!!!!!!!
I honestly don't know if I will ever forgive her for this. It still makes me want to cry how much that day upset me. I couldn't sleep while DD was sleeping because I had to try to chase after HER children, and SHE thought it was ok to lay on the couch with MY baby and SLEEP?!?!?!?
Ok, a few deep breaths... but seriously, don't let anyone step all over you after the baby is born. It sounds so easy to make sure it doesn't happen, but when you're sleep deprived and emotional, you just don't know how to stand up for yourself when you can barely see straight from exhaustion.
Sandy, I had no idea your SIL did this to you!!! What did DH have to say about this? I assume he was at work and you were left to deal with this alone, but I can't believe she did that to you ... I would have flipped and been a screeching disaster. 
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Re: Dear Non-Pregnant Person
LOVE THIS!!! Notebooking it for when I need a good laugh.
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| Posted 4/15/11 5:34 PM |
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TripMom2B
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Re: Dear Non-Pregnant Person
LOVE it!
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| Posted 4/16/11 8:50 AM |
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springsandra
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Re: Dear Non-Pregnant Person
Posted by julesrbf
Sandy, I had no idea your SIL did this to you!!! What did DH have to say about this? I assume he was at work and you were left to deal with this alone, but I can't believe she did that to you ... I would have flipped and been a screeching disaster.
Oh, no, it was on a weekend or it may have been while DH was still home from work with me (he ended up staying home 2 weeks because of all the complications with the baby starving and no milk and stuff). I honestly don't remember what he was doing. We were both completed zombified at the time. I know he was really annoyed about the kids running all over the house.
MIL was here also with them but she was exhausted from her chemo treatments that particular week. SIL was stretched out on our long couch, napping, and MIL actually LAY DOWN ON THE FLOOR to rest because she was also tired and SIL was taking up the whole couch.
SIL is a piece of something, I'll tell you that.
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| Posted 4/16/11 12:02 PM |
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julesrbf
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Re: Dear Non-Pregnant Person
Posted by springsandra
Posted by julesrbf
Sandy, I had no idea your SIL did this to you!!! What did DH have to say about this? I assume he was at work and you were left to deal with this alone, but I can't believe she did that to you ... I would have flipped and been a screeching disaster.
Oh, no, it was on a weekend or it may have been while DH was still home from work with me (he ended up staying home 2 weeks because of all the complications with the baby starving and no milk and stuff). I honestly don't remember what he was doing. We were both completed zombified at the time. I know he was really annoyed about the kids running all over the house.
MIL was here also with them but she was exhausted from her chemo treatments that particular week. SIL was stretched out on our long couch, napping, and MIL actually LAY DOWN ON THE FLOOR to rest because she was also tired and SIL was taking up the whole couch.
SIL is a piece of something, I'll tell you that.
HORRIFIC! Just horrific. So her mother was weak from chemo and you were weak from childbirth, and SHE was napping on your couch with her children running amok. Wow.
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| Posted 4/16/11 12:25 PM |
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AnxiousPants
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Re: Dear Non-Pregnant Person
I'm thrilled so many of you liked this as much as I did! 
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| Posted 4/16/11 1:49 PM |
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Sugarbean11
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Kerrin--Baby Gracie is HERE! 08/11/11
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Re: Dear Non-Pregnant Person
OMG I can use it everyday when my cousin texts me saying, "So how's my baby today?" It's ridiculous! This letter is dead-on!!!
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