Deciding to try for #2

Was anyone else overwhelmed by this? Some days, I 100% want to have another one. I'd love watch another baby grow up and give DS a sibling. Other days, I love how "easy" it is with one D.C. He's getting to an age where I feel like we have a lot more freedom.

If we weren't dealing with infertility, I'd say let's try for a year and see what happens. Infertility makes everything so much more difficult. We need to switch insurances, go to a million doctor appointments, pump me with more hormones, spend $$$$. Ugh, why does this have to be so difficult!!

Deciding to try for #2

Hi. Welcome back. Yeah it blows. We started again last month for dc#2.

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I remember following you when you were trying for DC1. I have to agree it seems like so much more of a process when you battle infietility.
Good Luck to you.

Deciding to try for #2

what ever you decide I'll be following and sending positive vibes :)

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The process is so time consuming and really draining, especially now having a child to find a sitter for, work around appts, etc. But never give up on your dream. I didn't..and I can finally say I am pregnant again.I am very proud of our determination and thankful it got us where we are right now. I still cant believe so much time has gone by, how fast it goes (yet feels so slow). But the way I would always think of it was and keep myself motivated - how will I feel when I am 50 or my child is grown up? Will I have regret? And that is what kept me going even when it seemed impossible.

You can do it, and no matter the outcome, it's best to have tried then to have never tried and have regret.

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I can relate to wanting to wait, but moving ahead for #2 quicker due to infertility. My DD was 3 months old when we had an appt with our RE to start talking about IVF again. I was battling age (I was pushing 40), borderline FSH, and abysmal AMH, so we knew we had no time to waste. I definitely felt very pressured, internally, to move ahead with trying for baby #2 very quickly.

Not speaking for everyone who is an only child, but as an only child, it was so important for me to try to have at least 2 children. On top of that, DH and I have small families.

Logistically, the process was more difficult the second time around. I was working the same full-time job, but we'd moved farther away from our RE (my 15 minute drive to their office was now 60-90 minutes), and I had a baby at home. 15 months after we went back to the RE, DS was born; my children are 18 months apart.

In the end, my desire for #2 put the candle in the holder; infertility lit the wick.

The best to you...what ever you decide

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Deciding to try for #2

I'm trying for number 2 now. I'm definitely trying sooner than I would have if I was fertile but I feel like time is of the essence. I went back to my RE when my DS was 18 months. To me he was still a baby and I couldn't believe I was going to do this all again. Now seberal months later still not pregnant due to many cancellations and issues. Now that he is older things are getting easier but still always busy with working full time and taking care of him. Part of me has no idea how I will do it with 2 if something does end up working. It has been more challenging trying to cycle with a toddler at home but I'm making the best of it. I really want to give him a sibling and I will give it a year to try and make it happen. At that point if it doesn't work then I am so lucky that I have him despite all I have been through.

Wishing you the best of luck!

Deciding to try for #2

I'm in the same boat. I would LOVE to give my 4 yr. old son a sibling. We've tried since he was 2 and had one miscarriage. I then did 3 IUI's between June '16 and this Sept'16. The first resulted in a Chemical and that was about it. I now have to decide if I want to move onto IVF with everything being out of pocket. I'm still in the process of thinking about it. Seeing an acupuncturist and still trying the old fashion way. I do have to admit I'm getting more comfortable with the fact he might be the only one. IVF has no guarantees and may take several cycles which I honestly don't know I want to invest in. It's been a mental, physical emotional and financial roller coaster the past 6 months just doing the IUI's. If it wasn't such a process I'd say sure to a second. But I'm sick of putting my life on hold and missing out on the child I already do have trying to get another. Trusting God will lead me on the best path. I'm an only child too and my husband doesn't have a big family either (just one brother with no kids yet) but I survived, I had great parents, friends and a great childhood. In the end, you got to make the best of your circumstances and another child (especially at what cost) doesn't guaranty a happier life for the child you already have. If there is one lesson infertility has taught us is that there are no guarantees! Best of Luck to you.

Deciding to try for #2

Ugh i hear you. After our DD turned 1 we decided to stop preventing. The original plan was to wait till she turned 4 to do another IVF cycle in case we had twins. Well we did a cycle this August, a year ahead of "schedule". Unfortunatly it didnt work out. We're getting new ins in January. And im on the fence about doing a fresh or using the 2 embryos we have frozen (we will only have enought coverage for 1 or the other). The thought of all the meds, montioring appts, and emotioal highs and lows makes me not want to do fresh. It was a long 10 days of monitoring, i had to bring DD with me. Thankfully she was good at all the appts. I'm blessed with one healthy baby, but i would love to make her a big sister. Infertilitiy makes it hard to think of a 2nd

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We had to add back on to DW's insurance last feb but that felt too soon. so we figured after vacation in sept. in the meantime, they ran out of our donor's sperm. we got some but probably not enough...

so we started in september with only 3 vials (+1 still here from last time)

and now we are down to 2
and im getting nervous
also we want to be back off the insurance by january/not renew

last time was quick but this time isnt so far.

ugh. so much harder than just not-not trying. :(

i hate going to my appointments alone so DW can watch DS. i hate lying to work, just to have everyone assume they know what's going on.

we are coming up on a lot of decisions if it doesnt work soon. ...

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Deciding to try for #2

Thanks everyone! We need to make a decision by the beginning of November due to insurance.

Many things leave me conflicted about trying for #2.

1. The whole process - especially since the frozen sperm we have left is poor quality
2. I have a rectocele (prolapse) courtesy of my DS and I don't want it to get worse
3. I feel like I barely survived my DS bring an infant (PTSD!)

Even with all that, I (ususally) want to at least try for another. If we do try, we're only doing one fresh cycle. That's it!

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It's totally normal to feel overwhelmed. I felt the same way, but knew I wanted to have more children so I pushed forward. We did an FET, so the hard part for me was the daily blood work/sono. I made sure I made my appts first thing in the morning. I was out of the house by 5:15-5:30am. I did it that way, so I was home by the time DS and DH got up for the day. I didn't have to worry about a sitter, taking him to my appts, or missing any work (other than the transfer). I kept reminding myself it was only 2 weeks and then I'll be in the 2ww. It was mentally and physically exhausting at the time, but looking back it seems so easy now and went by so fast.

Good luck!!

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It was too overwhelming for me when we were trying. I had a breakdown one morning at 5:00am getting ready to leave for a monitoring visit, when I realized how much time it was taking me away from the child I had in the off chance I could have another. That was when we stopped trying with an RE. Tired on our own but we already knew that wouldn't work...