DH's ex-wife rant

I have worked soooo hard over the last 9 years to have an amicable relationship with my exH and make sure my boys are ok from the divorce etc.

I remarried 5 years ago, couldnt be happier. I have a stepson now. Lets just say his mother (DH's ex) has literally made my life miserable over the years.

Brief history....I came along 2 1/2 years after they split up and I had Nothing to do with the split literally. AND she was the one who initiated them splitting up. So basically she has no reason whatsoever to hate me.

She has done nothing but mess her child up by always badmouthing us (and btw we never badmouth her to my SS), negleting him on numerous occasions and literally acting like a 5 year old at all SS events. She wont look at me or acknowledge me therefore causing major tension for her son. I even tried to be mature and sent her an email a year ago or so saying we should really try to act diferently in front of SS and that I am a mom too, not stepping on her toes, blah blah. Her response was she told my DH Im a "psycho". Nice right? Im the only one trying to make things better for everyone.

My question is....I havent done anything since that email, stayed cool despite my SS telling my DH she badmouths us. She has damaged any relationship I could have with my SS at this point. Do I try again? My DH tells me she's a "whack job" and any efforts I make are a waste of time. He trys with her but she hangs up on him, doesnt return a text and wont come to the door at pick up/drop off. They have not been together for 10+ years, were only actually together for 2 years! Seriously, I dont get it! Oh and let me add that she is remarried with a son so its not like shes pissed that he moved on she didnt.

Ok vent over.....could use some feedback though

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I don't have any advice... but am sending

DH's ex-wife rant

Thank u!

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I don't have an advice. My StepDad's ex wife was like this. In the end she poisoned my stepsister against ALL of us. My Stepbrother is still tense with my Mom but, he has some more common sense than my SS and has a relationship with us. She totally supports in my ADULT SS in telling my Dad that she will only see him if my Mom isn't around. Thank God he stands his ground and tells her to grow up. He won't back down to her demands and tells her that we are part of his life and are HER family too. If she wants to see him, he will not exclude the rest of the family. The ex-wife thinks this behavior is OK!

Anyway, just wanted to tell you that i relate. I don't think there is much you can do besides try your hardest to nurture your relationship with SS. When he gets old enough he will hopefully see it for what it is like my SB did.

DH's ex-wife rant

Thank u! That's what everyone says and I hope it's true. All I can do is try my best with him and like I said hopefully that is enough.

DH's ex-wife rant

I can completely relate to your situation. Sounds to me like DH's ex is jealous of you and insecure of the relationship you may have with her son. It's a shame she isn't more confident within herself, because the only one she hurts in the end is her son.

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Posted by sfp0701

I don't have an advice. My StepDad's ex wife was like this. In the end she poisoned my stepsister against ALL of us. My Stepbrother is still tense with my Mom but, he has some more common sense than my SS and has a relationship with us. She totally supports in my ADULT SS in telling my Dad that she will only see him if my Mom isn't around. Thank God he stands his ground and tells her to grow up. He won't back down to her demands and tells her that we are part of his life and are HER family too. If she wants to see him, he will not exclude the rest of the family. The ex-wife thinks this behavior is OK!

Anyway, just wanted to tell you that i relate. I don't think there is much you can do besides try your hardest to nurture your relationship with SS. When he gets old enough he will hopefully see it for what it is like my SB did.

Re: DH's ex-wife rant

Posted by sfp0701

Posted by sfp0701

I don't have an advice. My StepDad's ex wife was like this. In the end she poisoned my stepsister against ALL of us. My Stepbrother is still tense with my Mom but, he has some more common sense than my SS and has a relationship with us. She totally supports in my ADULT SS in telling my Dad that she will only see him if my Mom isn't around. Thank God he stands his ground and tells her to grow up. He won't back down to her demands and tells her that we are part of his life and are HER family too. If she wants to see him, he will not exclude the rest of the family. The ex-wife thinks this behavior is OK!

Anyway, just wanted to tell you that i relate. I don't think there is much you can do besides try your hardest to nurture your relationship with SS. When he gets old enough he will hopefully see it for what it is like my SB did.

WOW how much can change in a year. I just saw this bumped. Since then my Step Dad had an affair and left my mom and ALL of us cold. After 23 years of him being my one and only Dad. All of that wonderful behavior I described took a dramatic 180 in the past 3 months.