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Did I Marry the Right Person? - A good read for married and single

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Sweetpea130000
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Did I Marry the Right Person? - A good read for married and single

I got this in an email and thought it was good to remember



DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said,
"How do I know if I married the right person?"
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It
depends. Is that your husband?"
In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing
on your mind.
Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with
your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked
their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely
natural and spontaneous experience.
You didn't have to DO anything.
That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening TO YOU

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the
imagery of that _expression. It implies that you were just standing there;
doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.
But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the
natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become
a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it
happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive
you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think
about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the
initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry
subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the
right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the
love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for
their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the
most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship,
excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies
within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few
years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S
LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER
just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it
day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love."
Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes
WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things
you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there
are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise
program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your
relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and
effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you
can "make" love.
Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling.

Posted 11/14/06 12:50 PM
 
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Oh my God that was so beautiful and true- it brought tears to my eyes.
I needed that today! Thank you!
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Posted 11/14/06 12:59 PM
 

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Excellent post!
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Posted 11/14/06 1:00 PM
 

alisonggg
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Re: Did I Marry the Right Person? - A good read for married and single

that is great...good thing to keep on hand for those rough patches we all face

Posted 11/14/06 1:03 PM
 

Kissy331
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That is a wonderful post!!! You could not get any closer to the truth Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 11/14/06 1:04 PM
 

eroxgirl
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Re: Did I Marry the Right Person? - A good read for married and single

Wow, great post!

Posted 11/14/06 1:05 PM
 

bridget-n-jimmy
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That was a very good read, Thank you.Chat Icon

Posted 11/14/06 1:08 PM
 

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Thats really nice Chat Icon

Posted 11/14/06 1:09 PM
 

J9-13
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I am printing this out and putting it on my fridge Chat Icon

Posted 11/14/06 1:10 PM
 

Lauren
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Re: Did I Marry the Right Person? - A good read for married and single

Great post! thanks for sharing!

Posted 11/14/06 1:14 PM
 

nov04libride
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Re: Did I Marry the Right Person? - A good read for married and single

So true!

Message edited 11/14/2006 1:14:35 PM.

Posted 11/14/06 1:14 PM
 

Bellabear
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this is great! Chat Icon

Posted 11/14/06 1:16 PM
 

2PreciousBlessings
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Re: Did I Marry the Right Person? - A good read for married and single

Thanks for sharing!!!! Great posts.

Posted 11/14/06 1:17 PM
 

LaurenExp
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That was great! I'm going to give it to DH to read, too!

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Posted 11/14/06 1:17 PM
 

Sweetpea130000
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you're welcome all. I have to thank my friend that passed it on to meChat Icon

Posted 11/14/06 1:28 PM
 

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Posted 11/14/06 1:48 PM
 

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Posted 11/14/06 1:54 PM
 

MikesWife
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Perfectly put! Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 11/14/06 1:59 PM
 

Ladybug63
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Posted 11/14/06 2:04 PM
 

curliegirl
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Emailing it to DH, he thinks we're getting stale......Chat Icon

Posted 11/14/06 2:05 PM
 

dandr10199
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This was the best post I have read in a long time! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 11/14/06 2:05 PM
 

avamamma
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Re: Did I Marry the Right Person? - A good read for married and single

Wow, I needed that too. Thanks!!!!

Posted 11/14/06 2:20 PM
 

antoinette
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Posted 11/14/06 2:27 PM
 

SoinLove
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Posted 11/14/06 2:30 PM
 

SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Did I Marry the Right Person? - A good read for married and single

oh wow, thank you so much for posting that. I really enjoyed reading it!

Posted 11/14/06 3:25 PM
 
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