Did you do skin to skin immediately after baby was born?

Not really. With my first she was put on my chest, I tried to nurse after they cleaned her up but we were unsuccessful. She took a few days to ever nurse more than a few sucks. We went on to ebf anyway.

My second was ecs and I only saw her for a minute before she was taken to the nicu and needed a blood transfusion pushed right away. Talking to a friend who delivered a few months later with a midwife at numc she was surprised they didn't do all her treatment right on my chest. It never occurred to me that that would even be possible. While it stunk to not get to even hold her for a few days my main concern was her getting the treatments she needed wherever that needed to be.

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Actually it's more common than u think, especially in other countries. That was my plan, have skin to skin with my little ones while they still had their umbilical cords attached. It helps enormously with the production of oxytocin (the love hormone that helps u bond with the baby and viceversa, although the baby starts producing it and releasing it to the mommy while they're still in the belly, while mom is in labor). It also helps babies to latch faster. Unfortunately, due to complications, I ended up having a csection with both of them. However, with ds2, my midwive who was still in the operating room, put him on my chest shortly after they checked his vitals, skin to skin, and she also guided him to latch cause my arm had an iv and other crap (I'm so thankful to her for doing that!). After that, once we were out of the or, I did skin to skin almost the whole time! Such a great feeling! Can't even describe the amazing rush and warness u feel running through ur veins! Ideally it's best to do skin to skin as soon as the baby is born, but if u can't for whatever reason, u should still do it as soon as you can.

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Did you do skin to skin immediately after baby was born?

Yes, both times. As soon as i pushed them out they were both placed on my chest. Dh cut the umbilical cord while they were on my chest, they were cleaned, etc. everything on my chest. Best feeling in the world.

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Nope. One emergency c section, one planned. No skin to skin

Did you do skin to skin immediately after baby was born?

My first was put on me for 2 seconds and then had to be checked out by the ped since he was a vacuum delivery. My second was given to me for a few minutes and then taken to do apgar etc. With my 3rd they put her right on me and cleaned her up while I was holding her and then let me do skin to skin for over an hour. It was really nice and I felt like we had some nice bonding time before they took her to the nursery. I didn't get that with my first two and while I don't think it made a difference in our bond it was still nice to do it with my third.

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Posted by Xelindrya

Nope.
They put her on my chest for photos and so I could see her, but not skin to skin. I didn't really care. I mean she was just 'there'. I never had that enlightening miracle moment people talk about. I mean I was in freaking god awful misery pain for 9hours then finally got a spinal. They cut open, pulled her out, showed her to me and well.. there she was. Well ok. That's nice. I got a lifetime with her to enjoy.

They took her away and after nearly threatening my husband to be sure he took care of her and never let her leave his sight, I asked if I could go to sleep.

Later they refused to let me see her because of my crazy high blood pressure. I pushed for it and only after proving I could raise my blood pressure even higher they finally allowed it. But again it was sort of anti-climatic in the large scheme of things.

People all built up these moments ridiculously high and although I wasn't horribly disappointed, I wasn't nearly as enthralled as I thought I'd be.

She latched fine when I got her to me hours and hours later. We bonded just fine. I pity anyone who stands between my daughter and I. She's more than healthy. So I see this all with a mountain size grain of salt.

This was kind of how I felt too. It was built up that you fall in love at first site and all that, but at the time, I was just so glad to be over the excruciating pain and screaming of pushing her out that I was just, I don't know, numb.
She was a little stranger to me still and I was in shock. I don't think I would have wanted her on me for an hour. I just wanted to get stitched up and process everything. It was very surreal. Almost out of body. I didn't plan to breastfeed at all, so that wasn't a blip on my radar, but I don't think I'd want to jump right into that either.
I was shell shocked I guess.
Of course I loved my daughter and every single second I spent with her sealed and grew that love.
But it wasn't' the overwhelming fall in love at first site.
And like you said, we bonded just fine, she and I are closer than anything I could ever imagine and in terms of health, like you said, I have never met a healthier kid.

I think it's important for people to realize that it's not always like you see on TV or read about, etc. And that is 100% perfectly fine too!

Thank you for saying that.. i totally agree. I had similar experience of being shell shocked after birth and felt totally surreal for a long time at home too. There was no glowing moment of love at first sight, it was more like 'oh sh*t, he's here, what do i do!' moment for me.

yes, it all did happen nicely later, when we were home and i had a chance to really get to know him. Until then, he was a little mystery to me..

don't let anyone get caught up in what should and shouldn't happen.. babies will bond with their mama's above all else whether its in the first seconds or first hours or first days after birth. you have a lifetime together

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Did you do skin to skin immediately after baby was born?

Same as PP. I had a CS and was in such a daze and drugged up that I barely registered I gave birth. I saw him about 3-4 hours after the birth. He was in nicu and I was in recovery. We did skin to skin then and he nursed without any issues. I honestly feel like it took me a while to really bond and feel completely connected. Maybe a few weeks. I loved him and never had negative thoughts but I didn't feel that instant "cow over the moon" feelings everyone talks about. Anyhow, i know this wasn't the point of the OP, but I say that BC at the time I thought something was "wrong" with me but now I realize everyone is just different. I completely love my DS and feel totally bonded it just took longer than what everyone else describes. So if it happens to any new moms just know there is no normal and you WILL bond, maybe not immediately but you will.

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Did you do skin to skin immediately after baby was born?

I did with Jillian, but with Hailey I couldn't she wasn't breathing so they took her immediately.

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With DD1, she was brought straight to the nicu because she was preemie and I was sick. With DD2, she did skin to skin with DH while I was being stitched up.

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With both girls we did skin to skin while they handled placenta, stitches, etc. With my first I pushed for 4 hours and was totally thinking "whoa, who are you?!" for at least a few hours after she was born. There were also about 8 extra staff members in the room so there was a ton going on. It wasn't immediate infatuation like I expected. With my second I had an incredibly easy/mellow induction and was pretty blissed out once she was born. She was quiet and nursed almost immediately. It was just the three of us plus a doctor and nurse so totally different experience.

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My 1st two they were cleaned up and then given to me. My 3rd one we did some skin to skin but I had to ask them to take him while I was having placenta issues. My 4th in December was put right on me and I would say he was on me for at least an hour before they did anything. I really wanted to see how big he was lol.

Did you do skin to skin immediately after baby was born?

DS was in distress when he was born, so we did not have the opportunity.

Did you do skin to skin immediately after baby was born?

I didnt do it. Hosp didnt give me an option at the time. I held her after they checked her, cleaned her, did her footprint, etc

My dd is a well adjusted intelligent amazing little girl. She is mommys lil bff and my shadow. So were totally bonded and fine. She hasnt suffered.

If you can do it thats great! but if you cant dont worry its not going to cause any long term damage.

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Yes, with all 3. But first they needed some suctioning & NICU doc to check them out (my deliveries were never straight forward).
But then, I held, breastfed & touched all kids. They even had hubby to skin to skin!

Did you do skin to skin immediately after baby was born?

I did, but not for long. I had a c-section. The nurse wiped her off and tucked her under my gown, where she stayed for a bit. I had been given anxiety meds right after she was out so I was a little loopy and I was afraid I'd drop her! I handed her over to DH to hold and then after a few minutes they weighed her.

It was nice and those are some of my favorite pictures but I personally don't believe it does anything in terms of bonding.

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For dd2 I had a c-section and right after they cleaned her a little, they put her on my bare chest for about 10 minutes. DH then held her outside the room while they finished up with me. They brought her into recovery room and I held her the whole 2 hours I was there, most of the time skin to skin

This was in December, very different from dd1 three years ago. I only held her for a few minutes after birth (also c-section) until later that night.

Did you do skin to skin immediately after baby was born?

No, DH actually got to hold her first. I came down with a super high fever during delivery, and there was also Meconium, so she had to go to the Nicu. I got to hold her for a couple minutes before they brought her to the NICU, but I was a little jealous he got to hold her first since I just pushed a 7lb baby out of my vagina haha.

Did you do skin to skin immediately after baby was born?

For DD1 I had an adverse reaction to meds and was shaking. I didn't hold her for two hours or so. For DD2 I had another c and as soon as I was sewn up we did skin to skin and nursed almost immediately. It was very sweet and I'm glad for that experience