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Ophelia
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Do you believe in bullies?
Have you ever encountered a bully?
did they ever steal your lunch money?
did they ever tell you "your azz is grazz after school?
Has a bully shown its horns in your adult life?
do you allow yourself to be bullied?
Wooly Bully, Wooly Bully Wooly Bully
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CaseyGirl
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
Yes, bullies caused major issues for me that took a LONG time for me to get over. And I don't think they ever grow up either. I hate bullies.
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MrsMerlot
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
Bullies are figments of imagination....
It's another way of "society" brushing off someone not standing up to another person by classifying them as "bullies." Grow a set and defend yourself!
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Goldi0218
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
Yes I have.
Never took my money.
I was never threatened physically, rather tormented mentally.
What came around, went around - she got hers.
She's a loser.
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| Posted 7/12/07 10:57 AM |
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Goldi0218
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
I also think that bullies come in different forms. You have your classic bully and you have your passive aggressive one. I think the latter is more dangerous. You don't always see it coming.
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Goobster
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
Bullies are everywhere. Esp on message boards. Lol
IRL, or message boards, I usually stand up to the bully.
IRL one day I will get my butt kicked. Dh tells me this all the time. He wants me to succumb to the bullies, but I cant.
Such as if someone wants to take my parking space, etc. But I dont back down. I take my chances with the bullies. I dont like being bullied.
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| Posted 7/12/07 11:00 AM |
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
Sort of. There was this guy in our neighborhood, he was a lot older than us and rode a dirt bike. He was a bully and when I was in elementary school I was scared of him. But I was friends with his sister, so I think deep down he just liked to scare me and wouldn't actually ever hurt me.
There was one kid in my grade in elementary school that used to make fun of me, but he was harmless at the time. Just verbal bully.
HOWEVER, a few years ago my mom read in the paper that he is a major sex offender and climbed into girls bedroom windows and knocked them out with chloroform! 
Yes bullies exist, but you usually give them most of their power. But I think the tendency to bully does exist in some people.
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
I was bullied physically and mentally. I stood up for myself but I was in the minority.
In my adult life I ran into passive aggressive bullies. I laid low and they got what they deserved.
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Superkat
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
Posted by Goldi0218
I also think that bullies come in different forms. You have your classic bully and you have your passive aggressive one. I think the latter is more dangerous. You don't always see it coming.
Agreed. Passive agressive bullies also tend to justify their behavior by classifying others as weak. I wonder if they know how transparent they are.
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rojerono
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
Posted by ChrissynRicky
Bullies are figments of imagination....
It's another way of "society" brushing off someone not standing up to another person by classifying them as "bullies." Grow a set and defend yourself!
I can't agree with this. Some people can't stand up for themselves for a variety of reasons. Aside from the obvious - disabled & handicapped folks - there are people with VERY REAL emotional issues caused by traumatic events in their past - or just a seriously flawed sense of self esteem. Growing a set is not really as easy as it may sound for people like this.
And there are people who are just mean. They like to make themselves feel bigger, badder and better by targeting other folks who have these insecurities or flaws. They seek them out and they exploit them. And it isn't right.
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Stefanie
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
I believe in them. Let's try to make a long story kinda short....
I was bullied by a BOY when I was in 5th or 6th grade...I can't remember.
My father dropped me off at school and was watching me walk to the door. This boy was outside with his friends and started to say things to me. (He used to make fun of me because I wasn't as "developed" as the other girls in our class.) I remember crying and my father came over to me from his car and asked me what happened. I was too embarassed to even tell him why they made fun of me but I eventually did. I went inside the school and my father said some things to them. From that point on, those boys never looked my way or said a word to me. Even in high school if they saw me walking down the hallway, they'd turn and look the other way.
I later found out that my father threatened them and their family if they ever hurt me again...
Gotta love your protective dad...
ETA: Now if you know me...I have the biggest mouth and always stand up for myself....total opposite of what I used to be.
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MrsRbk
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
Posted by Goobster
Bullies are everywhere. Esp on message boards. Lol
IRL, or message boards, I usually stand up to the bully.
IRL one day I will get my butt kicked. Dh tells me this all the time. He wants me to succumb to the bullies, but I cant.
Such as if someone wants to take my parking space, etc. But I dont back down. I take my chances with the bullies. I dont like being bullied.
This is me in my adult life
In my childhood years, not so much. And yes, I was bullied but I was always scared to do anything about it, and always did the "if you ignore it, it will go away" thing.
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
Posted by ChrissynRicky
Bullies are figments of imagination....
It's another way of "society" brushing off someone not standing up to another person by classifying them as "bullies." Grow a set and defend yourself!
I have to disagree. There are real bullies out there - grown-ups and children - but we don't have to license their behavior to pick on others because their victims are mentally weak or lack self confidence.
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
I was bullied and harassed in HS and JHS. It was the worse years of my life
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Ophelia
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
Posted by Goldi0218
I also think that bullies come in different forms. You have your classic bully and you have your passive aggressive one. I think the latter is more dangerous. You don't always see it coming.
I think passive aggressive people have a pattern of behavior that becomes very obvious.
once you know what to look for, they might as well be wearing Christmas lights.
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JessieQ
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
Posted by glinda-goodwitch
Yes bullies exist, but you usually give them most of their power. But I think the tendency to bully does exist in some people.
As someone who was bullied in school (mentally/verbally, never physically), I agree with this. If I had been more assertive and comfortable with myself at the time I wouldn't have been as easy a target (not that it makes it okay of course!). Although this reminds me of the other thread, I think of this as an example of an experience that can make you stronger- I think it helped me become less naive and read people better, and not to take cr** from people.
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
Anyone who has a defining feature that makes them different from others knows that bullies exist.
Pippi Longstocking, Little Orphan Annie, Carrot Top, Pumpkin Head... I've heard them all.
Sometimes people rally against those different from them out of fear and ignorance. They take the offensive so they have no need to take the defensive. They turn attention away from themselves to avoid any self-discovery. Because they fear what they might find.
Bullies grow up and some of them stay bullies for the rest of their lives. High school doesn't necessarily end at 18 for a lot of people. Sad, really. There are so many better things to put your energy into.
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Tracey
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
Bullies exist - whether they are children or grown ups - they are out there.
I was never really bullied - there was only one instance in junior high school - when all the girls wanted to kick my butt because one of the popular girls liked a boy who liked me. 
Thats when I started to hate all the different "groups" in school and always stayed separate from them - I liked to be "friends" with everyone.
As a grown woman - I never let anyone push me around.
Although its been tried - even in the workplace there is always one person who thinks they are the boss of everyone.
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Goldi0218
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
Posted by Ophelia
Posted by Goldi0218
I also think that bullies come in different forms. You have your classic bully and you have your passive aggressive one. I think the latter is more dangerous. You don't always see it coming.
I think passive aggressive people have a pattern of behavior that becomes very obvious.
once you know what to look for, they might as well be wearing Christmas lights.
I actually meant in regard to the first time they strike. I agree, after a while, you know their "MO"s
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jozieb0925
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
Yes and sadly, I see it/dealt with it a lot during the school year. Kids are sooo mean to each other!!
ETA: I work in an elementary school..
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TheWhiteRabbit
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
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JodiBabe
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
As a kid growing up with a seizure disorder I was teased & tormented by some bullies at school for many years!
My daught had a physical deformaty on her hand and also was teased & tormented by a bully at school when she was in school.
However, we both survived & became stronger people because of what we had been through.
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
I was bullied in junior high. I didn't have the self esteem to stick up for myself. They prey on weakness. I saw one a few years back, and he looked horrible - pasty albinoish. I felt vindicated.
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Bxgell2
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
I think it's easy to say that bullies don't really exist, if you never really experienced it yourself.
In adult life, for me, I run into them all the time, after all, I'm an attorney. I see it as a sign of weakness though, more or less a tiny ego with lack of intelligence. I stand up to them, and usually win in the end with intelligence either way.
As a child, I was bullied. A lot. Kids, particularly bullies, tend to pick on other kids who are perceived as "different" or "weak". My 3rd grade teacher oh-so-kindly announced to my peers that I had a learning disability, and ridiculed me pretty much every single day in front of the entire classroom. You can imagine what kind of torment that lead to by some of my peers. Not all, but definitely by a few, who I absolutely believe were bullies.
It was torture for me, pure torture. Did it mean I didn't have a "set" and was weak? No. I'll tell you this - I stood up to them everyday, and as a result, that's why I think I'm as strong, but at the same time, considerate and compassionate, as I am today.
They exist, and they will always exist, no one will change that. What makes a difference is in how you react to them, and how you learn to make it into something positive for yourself, if, unfortunately, you are the brunt of their attention.
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Ophelia
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Re: Do you believe in bullies?
Posted by firsttimer
I have to disagree. There are real bullies out there - grown-ups and children - but we don't have to license their behavior to pick on others because their victims are mentally weak or lack self confidence.
how do we adjudge one or another to be mentally weak.
I know some very strong people who just avoid confrontation.
I know some very weak people who have a big mouth and hide behind their 'bark"
I also know some very good people, who say what they think and how they feel. they are certainly assertive, but would never "pick" on anyone.
sometimes someone gets a smack down they deserve in public for something they did on the sneak.
I hate sneaky people, both old and young.
I have no respect for people to hide behind "anonimity". or fm.
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