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marycpa
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Do you every feel guilty?
I have a 3 year old and 3.5 month old twins. One of the twins is not demanding at all and the other one is always wanting to be held or else he cries really hard. Sometimes I am taking care of the crying twin and my 3 year old (who is still potty training) and by the time I have time for the quiet twin he is asleep in the bouncer seat.
Has anyone else had this problem? If you did...what did you do? Do I let the fussy twin cry?
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Posted 2/15/08 4:48 PM  |
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pinky
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Re: Do you every feel guilty?
I have the same problem and I also feel very guilty. My twins are 17 months and DS is very clingy, likes to cuddle & be held. DD is independant and could care less for cuddling. I feel bad bc I feel like DS gets more attention. I try to make up for it by *trying* to hold her but she wants no part of it  She's a daddy's girl and he's a momma's boy.
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| Posted 2/15/08 5:43 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: Do you every feel guilty?
Posted by pinky
I have the same problem and I also feel very guilty. My twins are 17 months and DS is very clingy, likes to cuddle & be held. DD is independant and could care less for cuddling. I feel bad bc I feel like DS gets more attention. I try to make up for it by *trying* to hold her but she wants no part of it She's a daddy's girl and he's a momma's boy.
It's so funny bc we have friends with twins - also a boy and a girl - and the boy is much more needy then the girl is. The little girl was very independent. I wonder if most boy/girl twins are like this.
Or if us - as girls - are just a stronger gender! 
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| Posted 2/15/08 5:53 PM |
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Tah-wee-ZAH
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Re: Do you every feel guilty?
Posted by pinky
I have the same problem and I also feel very guilty. My twins are 17 months and DS is very clingy, likes to cuddle & be held. DD is independant and could care less for cuddling. I feel bad bc I feel like DS gets more attention. I try to make up for it by *trying* to hold her but she wants no part of it She's a daddy's girl and he's a momma's boy.
I could have written this myself.
DD will let me hold her but she doesn't cuddle.
She just "inspects" my outfit
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| Posted 2/15/08 6:58 PM |
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pinky
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Re: Do you every feel guilty?
Posted by Tah-wee-ZAH
She just "inspects" my outfit
OMG thats totally what my DD does - if I have a zipper on my top, then I'm "in" with her for the day.
Message edited 2/15/2008 7:09:59 PM.
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BigB
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Re: Do you every feel guilty?
This is MY LIFE totally!!!!!!!!! James is so NEEDY and sometimes I feel that poor Claire is just going to be so resentful! I posted something about this last week when I feeling really guilty about my dd....Glad to see that I am not alone!
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| Posted 2/15/08 10:50 PM |
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Michelle
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Re: Do you every feel guilty?
When they were younger I didn't have time to feel guilty. I took care of the one that was crying the most needs first and then went to the second. Not ideal, but I always had to prioritize. One of my boy's is a mommy's boy and other a daddy's boy to this day.
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| Posted 2/16/08 6:57 AM |
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Tracey
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Re: Do you every feel guilty?
Posted by Tah-wee-ZAH
Posted by pinky
I have the same problem and I also feel very guilty. My twins are 17 months and DS is very clingy, likes to cuddle & be held. DD is independant and could care less for cuddling. I feel bad bc I feel like DS gets more attention. I try to make up for it by *trying* to hold her but she wants no part of it She's a daddy's girl and he's a momma's boy.
I could have written this myself.
DD will let me hold her but she doesn't cuddle.
She just "inspects" my outfit
This goes true for my boy/girl twins!! They are 2 years and 4 months old - my son is a total cuddler - while my daughter is very independent - she'll sit on you lap long enough to get down.
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| Posted 2/16/08 5:25 PM |
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