Re: Do you spank your child?

nope

Re: Do you spank your child?

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Posted by nrthshgrl

We disagreed on it too...but to answer the question we have during toddlerhood but it didn't help with what we were trying to teach them...um..not to hit

Now that they're older, threatening is the way to go.

From experience, whatever way you do decide to punish, consistency is the key.

Thats our problem. I tend to do time outs. DH would rather spank. H eis home with them quite a bit alone and Declan pulls Ronan's hair. My DH's other idea is that we should pull Declan's hair. Which I think is crazy

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While we exhaust all other options first (time outs, loss of toys, loss of privileges) if it comes down to it, DH and I do not hesitate to smack a bottom. We only use our hands and only on a clothed bottom. These smacks are typically reserved for dangerous situations and defiant behavior. We don't spank often but if the situation calls for it or all else fails, we will spank.

I used to think I would never spank. I love and respect my parents, but spankings when I was raised (70s and 80s) and spankings today are much different. My siblings and I received the old fashioned over the knee spanking (and not always with just a hand, and not always over a clothed bottom ) and that is something I knew I would never do to my own children. I don't see anything wrong with a few smacks to the bottom if the situation truly calls for it.

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DH and I disagree as well. I feel that nothing good comes from spanking a child. Where as finding the function of a problem behavoir and replacing it with an appropriate behavior teaches the child to obtain what they need in a positve way. I am totally against spanking, there is no reason for it, it is counterproductive!

A child will also eventually tune out yelling and screaming as well.

FYI, my parents never spanked us and we did not run wild. All my mother had to say was that she was "disappointed" with a decision we had made and we were crushed.

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When I was a kid I was abused something terrible by my grandmother. From being pulled down the hall by my hair at the age of seven, to her chasing me with a belt that left welts on my legs for weeks. I think spanking is all how you define the term. I define anything other than a swat here or there abuse. A spanking to me is a swat on a clothed butt. Have I done it to Teddy? Yes when he ran out into a busy street, he got a swat on the butt for that. THat was the only time and it was just last month. So needless to say it's not my first nor only option. I do agree that every child responds differently to different forms of discipline.

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No. I feel that there are more effective ways to discipline a child.

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I give one smack on the hand if he is continuing to do something after I told him to stop, and continuing would be dangerous - touching something, running somewhere where there are cars. Otherwise we do not hit and I never did a tushy spank....

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A smack on the hand if they do something wrong, but thats about it, and its not often....
I don't believe in hitting, I feel it only teaches them to be scared of the parent and it can lead to them thinking its ok to hit others! I think talking it out works best for my kids. JMO on it.

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I first talk/threaten DS, remove him from the situation and if that does not work and he is doing something that will put him in danger or somebody else he will get a spank on his coolie.

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Yes I do, when the situation warrants it. Doesn't happen very often so when it does he knows he did something VERY bad and better stop immediately.

The last time my son got spanked was 3 days ago: we were crossing Queens Blvd, the most dangerous street in all of Queens and he decide to try to physically fight me on how I was holding his hand and which side of the stroller he wanted to hold on to. Immediately got spanked on the bottom and that cooled him right off.

In the words of my friend, "A good smack on the bottom sobers you right up"

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A smack on the "tush"? - absolutely.

When I feel its appropriate. It doesn't happen often but I am no means ashamed of doing it.

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No, we never have. My parents never spanked us either though, so it's really not something I ever think to do. I also think it could be confusing--we tell him we never hit anyone, even when we're angry, so why would it be okay for me to do it to him by that rationale?

Time outs, taking privileges away, leaving places if he's acting up, most seem to work.

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Only for serious offenses. John got spanked for yanking his hand from mind and running down the street as a car was pulling into a driveway, just missed getting hit by the car. He was 3. His 2nd spanking was in April, he heard the ice cream man and yelled for me, I was 2 weeks post partum from a c-section and couldnt move that fast I told him I'd be right down, as soon as the word "down" came out I heard my door close, I ran out and he was in the middle of the street and he did indeed get a spanking.


Its not something I like to do and I dont beat him like I see people do in stores, nor do I spank him for acting like a 5 year old. He hasnt gone near the street since so maybe as much as i hate to admit, the fear of a spanking has deterred this.

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Nope. I won't say never either. I do think its necesarry sometimes depending on the situation, but we have never gotten to that point yet (hopefully not ever).

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No. Luckily other forms of discipline have worked. This would be a very, very last resort for me.

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I would have to hit Rylan VERY hard for him to know I mean business and that I would never do. "Spanking" is something we always did for fun when playing/wrestling around or when he's laying on me i'll continuously "spank" his hiney with both hands. I've tried to spank him for real but I never did it hard enough...he always thinks i'm playing with him and laughs.

I just posted on FB how he is being soooo loud in bed. He's talking to himself but screaming and keeps waking the baby up. I went in and told him if he doesn't stop I was going to spank his hiney. He stuck his butt in the air and spanked his own hiney while laughing.

I think there's nothing wrong with ONE smack on the butt or hand...anything more than that I don't believe in.