Do you think it's different when you want to share with your friends vs DH's?

I have now told my two best friends that we are expecting. DH says-- well, when can I tell my friends?

We are waiting til at least 12 weeks to start really broadcasting our news-- but, I told my two best friends because they knew what I was going through to get PG and they were asking me about doc appts and such- AND they both have kids, so it's a little different woman to woman.

I told him that they are the only ones who will know for now-- and everyone else will need to wait 4 to 5 more weeks, including the rest of my friends. Am I being selfish? I just feel it's so different for women to share with each other, KWIM?

Re: Do you think it's different when you want to share with your friends vs DH's?

I shared with my friends before we shared with DH's. I knew I could trust my friends but since I am not as close with DH's friends or their wives, I wasn't sure. I think I understand where you are coming from.

Re: Do you think it's different when you want to share with your friends vs DH's?

My DH wants to shout it from the rooftops the second I POAS. He is like a 4 year old and cannot keep a secret. He hates this time in PG b/c I do not let him tell anyone! I did not tell anyone though, but I think if I told one, I'd let him tell one.

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i don't think it's fair that you can share with your friends and he can't. this is such an exciting time and it's so hard to keep inside--he must be bursting.

i told a few of my friends before i told my family (because i wanted to tell them in person) but DH also told a few friends. they were sworn to secrecy. and if they had told our secret, DH would have been very upset with them and it would have affected their relationship--so they kept their mouths closed.

if you told 2 people, IMO he should be allowed to tell 2 people. it's only right because it's his news too.

Re: Do you think it's different when you want to share with your friends vs DH's?

my DH was the opposite - he didn't want to tell any of his friends until we were further along, i wanted to tell everyone right away.

i waited until i was 5/6 weeks to tell my two best friends, he waited until 8 weeks to tell his.

i know all of his friends pretty well, and i felt comfortable with him telling them b/c some have kids of their own, or at least nieces and nephews, and i knew they were trustworthy.

HOWEVER, if we were going to keep it quiet for the first trimester, there were DEFINITELY some friends of his that i would not have wanted him to tell b/c they are known for having big mouths.

i think it's something you two need to discuss together. i don't think its fair that you get to tell some friends, and he doesn't get to tell anyone - he wants to talk about being a dad with someone other than you KWIM? maybe you and he can agree on one or two of his friends that he can tell so long as they promise not to share the news with anyone else.

good luck