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Do you think this is strange? Question for mom's of preemie's
I posted a few months ago that DH's friend's baby was born pre-mature. They brought the baby home before Christmas and we still haven't met the baby  I understand the baby was pre-mature and they are concerned about him being exposed to germs but they will not allow us or any of their other friends over. DH has been friends with this guy since elementary school...they are like family. He told DH and their other friends after cold and flu season is over...than one of their friends joked and said next it will be pollen season and we still wont be able to see the baby. I dont know if they are being overly cautious or if we are being too sensitive about it.
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Re: Do you think this is strange? Question for mom's of preemie's
parents of preemies go thru an experience that most can't even imagine.. they see babies die all around them.. they watch their little ones go from sick to sicker to better to sicker than ever.. its a long and tortorous road in the NICU. when they finally get their baby home alot of the time they don't want to risk another set back and truthfully NICU nurses and doctors are sure to scare them about RSV enough to keep friends and family aaway till April. Premature babies especially those who were on ventilators have so much lung damage that any contact with someone with A germ could land them back in the PICU attached to a ventilator.  i have to say i completely agree with your DHs friend and i would absolutely do the same for one of my babies.
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msrsfeb
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Re: Do you think this is strange? Question for mom's of preemie's
As a Mom of 25weekers, I think your friends are following the doctors orders. We have been home since aug. and we still limit visitors. The doctors really do want them to wait until after cold and flu season. They also have said that the flu is awful this year. I bet as Spring really approaches they will start to allow more people around the baby but in their defense the Doctors Stress how important it is to be EXTRA careful b/c premature babies are more prone to catching things. Hope this helps. Please FM me with any other questions.
BTW, I am dieing to get to show them off and be "normal" with them. Trust me it is probably killing them!
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Re: Do you think this is strange? Question for mom's of preemie's
Posted by JTK
parents of preemies go thru an experience that most can't even imagine.. they see babies die all around them.. they watch their little ones go from sick to sicker to better to sicker than ever.. its a long and tortorous road in the NICU. when they finally get their baby home alot of the time they don't want to risk another set back and truthfully NICU nurses and doctors are sure to scare them about RSV enough to keep friends and family aaway till April. Premature babies especially those who were on ventilators have so much lung damage that any contact with someone with A germ could land them back in the PICU attached to a ventilator. i have to say i completely agree with your DHs friend and i would absolutely do the same for one of my babies.
well said!
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Re: Do you think this is strange? Question for mom's of preemie's
I agree with the PP's. The fact that the baby was a preemie, combined with the time of year - and their doctor probably put the fear of God in them.
I honestly don't blame them.
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| Posted 3/5/08 10:34 PM |
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A 6 day NICU experience changed my outlook on everything.
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Re: Do you think this is strange? Question for mom's of preemie's
Posted by msrsfeb
Posted by JTK
parents of preemies go thru an experience that most can't even imagine.. they see babies die all around them.. they watch their little ones go from sick to sicker to better to sicker than ever.. its a long and tortorous road in the NICU. when they finally get their baby home alot of the time they don't want to risk another set back and truthfully NICU nurses and doctors are sure to scare them about RSV enough to keep friends and family aaway till April. Premature babies especially those who were on ventilators have so much lung damage that any contact with someone with A germ could land them back in the PICU attached to a ventilator. i have to say i completely agree with your DHs friend and i would absolutely do the same for one of my babies.
well said!
completely agree
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Re: Do you think this is strange? Question for mom's of preemie's
Posted by nrthshgrl
Posted by msrsfeb
Posted by JTK
parents of preemies go thru an experience that most can't even imagine.. they see babies die all around them.. they watch their little ones go from sick to sicker to better to sicker than ever.. its a long and tortorous road in the NICU. when they finally get their baby home alot of the time they don't want to risk another set back and truthfully NICU nurses and doctors are sure to scare them about RSV enough to keep friends and family aaway till April. Premature babies especially those who were on ventilators have so much lung damage that any contact with someone with A germ could land them back in the PICU attached to a ventilator. i have to say i completely agree with your DHs friend and i would absolutely do the same for one of my babies.
well said!
completely agree
ITA!
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Re: Do you think this is strange? Question for mom's of preemie's
Posted by Lillykat
Posted by nrthshgrl
Posted by msrsfeb
Posted by JTK
parents of preemies go thru an experience that most can't even imagine.. they see babies die all around them.. they watch their little ones go from sick to sicker to better to sicker than ever.. its a long and tortorous road in the NICU. when they finally get their baby home alot of the time they don't want to risk another set back and truthfully NICU nurses and doctors are sure to scare them about RSV enough to keep friends and family aaway till April. Premature babies especially those who were on ventilators have so much lung damage that any contact with someone with A germ could land them back in the PICU attached to a ventilator. i have to say i completely agree with your DHs friend and i would absolutely do the same for one of my babies.
well said!
completely agree
ITA!
Totally agree. My DS was in the NICU for 6 days and was 3 1/2 weeks early, so although he wasn't a very sick premature baby he still had a nit of a rough start. People thought I was crazy staying home with him and not having too many visitors for 8 weeks, but IMO I couldn't be too safe.
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: Do you think this is strange? Question for mom's of preemie's
Thank you everyone for sharing. I think DH is just a little hurt (along with their other friends) that they haven't met the baby yet...but I told DH it is a bad flu season and if DS were a preemie or had any kind of medical problem when he was born we would most likely be the same way. I guess DH just always considered them to be family and thought they would have made an exception for him.
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Re: Do you think this is strange? Question for mom's of preemie's
my DS was in the NICU for 4 weeks and just came home 2 weeks ago---one of the absolute scariest things for me is the thought of him having to go back into the hospital if he were to get sick---its still RSV season which is a major problem for preemies (and babies in general). I have very much limited our visitors---he hasn't even met one of his grandmothers yet because she was sick with the flu. We are starting with family only now, but its still so scary for me----I think your friends are doing what they should, I know its tough for you guys not to be able to see the baby, but having gone thru this, I know that the NICU always told me to be careful and better to be safe then sorry 
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mommy0604
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Re: Do you think this is strange? Question for mom's of preemie's
I don't blame your DH's friend. I would be the same way. Please my DS was not a preemie and my pediatrician told me he didn't want anyone near the baby for 8 weeks. I was like "too little too late doctor cuz our immediate family already came to the hospital in one day"...
A preemie baby is a totally different situation and I would have done the same thing your DH's friend is doing.
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RobeyMuse
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Re: Do you think this is strange? Question for mom's of preemie's
Our friend's baby was born two months ago, 6 weeks early. He was in the NICU for over a week. We still haven't met him yet. I understand her wanting to protect him so I am waiting. She was told to limit the amount of people he comes in contact with. I don't balme her.
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Re: Do you think this is strange? Question for mom's of preemie's
i know this question is for people that have preemies,my son is not,but i'd like to add if i could, i do think like the other post,they are probably being careful.Even with my son,my brother in law and his daughter was sick and my husband told them not to come over.Flat out told them,i dont think it's being rude,even with full term babies,you dont want them sick.now i heard on the news and from my ped,you cant give children under 2 any over the counter cold meds,it's unsafe.
so we have to be more careful
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| Posted 3/6/08 11:12 AM |
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Re: Do you think this is strange? Question for mom's of preemie's
Not a preemie mom but being it's still RSV season I can understand.
Our friends had preemie twins and they stayed housebound for months with only family wearing masks to visit.
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Do you think this is strange? Question for mom's of preemie's
Posted by jellybean1420
Thank you everyone for sharing. I think DH is just a little hurt (along with their other friends) that they haven't met the baby yet...but I told DH it is a bad flu season and if DS were a preemie or had any kind of medical problem when he was born we would most likely be the same way. I guess DH just always considered them to be family and thought they would have made an exception for him.
I've had friends that have had 27, 28 & 32 week old preemies. It is absolutely harrowing. I used to drop off food at their house just so they would eat between trips back & forth to the hospital.
It may take some time for them to stop thinking of him as a being "delicate". I know I was germaphobic for awhile. Even then, ds came down with RSV at 3 months.
Please tell your DH they probably do still consider him family & not to take it personally. With a newborn that has spent months in the hospital, you do whatever you need to. My son was in the hospital for a week. It was torture. The only people that could hold him were us & our parents.
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Michelle
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Re: Do you think this is strange? Question for mom's of preemie's
RSV Season runs from October - March, if a premie gets RSV it can be deadly. So no I don't think it is wierd at all.
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