Does anyone want to help with wedding stuff?

Hi everyone! xoxox!

I'm under 200 days now Finally, right?

I have a couple of invitation wording questions, if you don't mind. A few areas of background.

My dad is not in the picture at all, Doug's dad passed away earlier this year. My mom is broke and basically I support her. She would help with the wedding if she could and I have a feeling she's going to try to pay for something small. I told her she could pay for my tiara maybe or the church? FH's mom promised us a larger amount, but we're pretty much paying for it ourselves.

Also, we're getting married at my church (roman catholic) with a priest and a rabbi. It's on a Sunday, but not a mass.

What's the best way to communicate this?

Should we do "Together with Our Parents?" Does this imply that our parents are paying for most of the wedding or that my dad is somehow involved?

Also, do you think it's awkward or helpful to word it like

Jennifer

and Douglas

request the honour of your presense at an interfaith ceremony uniting them in marriage.

Doug wants to include it so people know he's not converting, and so his family will know there will be jewish elements, it's also helpful so that my family knows that it's not a mass, so they know they have to go to mass earlier that day or the day before.

Thoughts?

TIA!

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First of all, congrats on the upcoming nuptials! Second of all, have you checked out liweddings.com? The message boards over there are excellent! There's probably 100s of 2011 brides over there who could help you!

Moving on, we paid for the wedding ourselves and worded it saying

"Together with our families
We request the pleasure of your company
At the wedding celebration of
Bride
&
Groom"

I think you could say at the "interfaith wedding ceremony of". That sounds good to me! Good luck!

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Thanks!!

I started on LIW in 2004 (Looong story).. sometimes I find the perspectives of people who are NOT in the middle of planning to be more helpful because you're more removed.

Sometimes on LIW you get a lot of "Do what you want, it's YOUR wedding" hehe. I love LIW though.

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Congrats on the upcoming wedding!!

My brother's invite was

"Together with their families
Bride & Groom
request the honor of your prsence
ath ther marriage.....


ETA: they paid the bulk with some help from both families

Message edited 12/2/2010 10:41:31 AM.

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I remember you from LIW. Congratulations.

I would use the together with our families language as the other girls suggested. It conveys that you are paying and have the emotional support/blessing of your families. As for the interfaith language, I agree with your FH and would include it.

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I had a few sets of parents helping out with the wedding...My dad and his wife, My mom and her husband, and DH's parents. So we worded it like this:

Together with their families

Caroline Middle Last
and
Jason Middle Last

request the honor of your presence in the ceremony uniting them in marriage.

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It sounds like "together with our families" would be the best option for you. I think it's fine to include the "interfaith ceremony" line as well.

Congrats and happy planning!!!

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I like "together with their families" a lot for the reasons you stated.

Thanks, ladies! That clarified it!

"interfaith ceremony" vs "ceremony"?

Also, is "Black Tie Optional" like so early 2000's?

It's a Sunday evening wedding, everything is way formal.

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I agree with "together with their familes"
We used that. DH & I paid, but received large gifts to help with costs & they were all involved in non-financial ways. It also helps to not have to specify who "family" includes if things aren't traditional.

For the ceremony ,I think if you indicate that it is interfaith, people will realize it isn't a Mass.
You could say:

Jennifer Something
and
Douglas Soemthingelse
together with their families
invite you to share in the joy
as they exchange marriage vows
in an interfaith cereomony
on Saturday, the day of month
Two thousand and eleven

You could then say formal reception to follow, or if you are doing a reception card:
Please join us for cocktails at 6:30p.m. Formal reception to follow.
Reception place
Address

Message edited 12/2/2010 11:32:17 AM.

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Jennifer SUch and such
daughter of (and list your mothers name)

and

Douglas such and such
son of (mothers name and the late..insert name)

request the honor of your presence
at their interfaith marriage ceremony
insert date, etc.

your names being listed shows that you are hosting while still including your parents on the invitation.

HTH.

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Together with their families implies that your parents are contibuting. if they are not, thsi is another option not including your parents at all:

The honor of your
presence is requested at the marriage of
Ms. Jennifer ____
to
Mr. Douglas ___

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My DH & I paid for the wedding (with some assistance from my mom) - both our fathers were deceased at the time of the wedding. Our invite read:

For it was not into my ear you whispered but into my heart.
It was not my lips you kissed but my soul . . .

Jane Smith
and
John Doe
invite you to witness our celebration of love as we exchange marriage vows
Sunday blah, blah blah

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Mine said, together with their families x and y request blah blah. I think that wording doesn't necessarily imply who paid but a lot of people use it just bc of all the mixed/non-traditional fams these days.

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I am in the design process for my invites and the lady came up with some good wording, what do you think:

Together with their parents (I will change to families)

Jennifer Ever
and
Douglas Cutiepants

request the honour or your presence at the ceremony uniting their lives and their faiths

Sunday the nineteenth of June, etc etc

Also, is is half past four in the afternoon or the evening? She wrote evening, but i was thinking it's afternoon?

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