Does this seem strange? Best friend had baby last week and I haven't heard from her...

So last Wednesday one of my best friends (DD's godmother and one of my oldest friends) had her second DS. I got a text that she was on the way to the hospital and a text with a pic after he was born. But then I haven't heard anything else from her since then. I have called and called the house and her cell and gotten no response and she has been home since Saturday.

My mom is also really good friends with my friend's MIL and she has said that NO ONE in their family has been over. (she lives on a block with all of her DH's cousins and his mother and brother live next door).

I know she has her hands full with a three year old and a new baby but I feel really bad that I have not spoken to her since she has given birth. WWYD? Do I just keep calling? Or wait until she calls? I don't want to be a nag but I want to make sure she has someone to talk to when the hormones go weird like they do postpartum. Especially since her DH went back to work already.

TIA!

Re: Does this seem strange? Best friend had baby last week and I haven't heard from her...

I would maybe text her and ask if she needs anything, but it sounds like she just wants space. I know for me the first week home I was a mess and didn't want anyone around, probably didn't return any phone calls. It sounds like she has a lot of help available to her if she needs it so I would give her a little time.

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Hmmm, I would call. It sounds overwhelming to juggle a 3 yr old and a newborn, but she WILL need someone around at some point and may just want some girl talk in another few days.

Who knows what is going on, but make yourself available to be there if that is what she needs.

Defnately call, email or whatever is the best way to get in touch.

You are a good friend!

Hi, by the way I totally owe you FM.

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I would give her a little more time. I had a touch of PPD with DS1 and I was hardly in contact with anyone. I didn't want to answer the phone or have visitors for a few weeks. Add to it that your friend has another child at home, everyone is adjusting and I think that could be the explanation.

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Posted by Gatsbygirl

Hmmm, I would call. It sounds overwhelming to juggle a 3 yr old and a newborn, but she WILL need someone around at some point and may just want some girl talk in another few days.

Who knows what is going on, but make yourself available to be there if that is what she needs.

Defnately call, email or whatever is the best way to get in touch.

You are a good friend!

Hi, by the way I totally owe you FM.

Re: Does this seem strange? Best friend had baby last week and I haven't heard from her...

I guess I will try again tomorrow. I have called every day this week and left two messages and hung up the other times.

I am having my mom send messages via my friend's MIL and let her know I am thinking of her and I am here to talk whenever she is ready.

If I don't hear from her by this weekend, I think I am going to send her a card in the mail. Good old fashioned snail mail might get her attention.

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Posted by Juliet

Posted by Gatsbygirl

Hmmm, I would call. It sounds overwhelming to juggle a 3 yr old and a newborn, but she WILL need someone around at some point and may just want some girl talk in another few days.

Who knows what is going on, but make yourself available to be there if that is what she needs.

Defnately call, email or whatever is the best way to get in touch.

You are a good friend!

Hi, by the way I totally owe you FM.

Thanks, Sam. Make sure YOU don't do this when arrives At least if you want to be left alone, have Tom call me and let me know and I will back off.

Re: Does this seem strange? Best friend had baby last week and I haven't heard from her...

Honestly, I would wait for her to call you. I know when I first came home with DS I had a really rough time and really didn't want to talk to anyone (even though I did). She just had a baby and who knows how she is feeling and what is going on at home. I wouldn't be upset with her.

Re: Does this seem strange? Best friend had baby last week and I haven't heard from her...

I don't think it's weird-- I am sure she is overwhelmed.

I certainly didn't really feel like talking to people on the phone and every time I sat at my computer, to answer emails or whatever, I'd get distracted.

I was overwhelmed, tired and in pain AND I had live in help.

eta-- I would wait for her to get in touch with you on her time.. I know when I had friends continue to call, it would stress me out that I had to get back to them.

Message edited 6/4/2009 8:21:59 PM.

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Posted by mcl916

I would maybe text her and ask if she needs anything, but it sounds like she just wants space. I know for me the first week home I was a mess and didn't want anyone around, probably didn't return any phone calls. It sounds like she has a lot of help available to her if she needs it so I would give her a little time.

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I would send her a pizza and a text saying Im here when your ready. Im sure shes just totally stressed.

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I would text her & offer to bring over dinner tomorrow for her family or to take the older child on Saturday so she can get some rest. I know that helped a ton when I had DD 2. But if there's no response, just wait it out.

Re: Does this seem strange? Best friend had baby last week and I haven't heard from her...

I would text her & offer to bring over dinner tomorrow for her family or to take the older child on Saturday so she can get some rest. I know that helped a ton when I had DD 2. But if there's no response, just wait it out.

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